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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 9:41 PM on Friday, January 6th, 2017

Flagged for soliciting.

Watch out AN, you're gonna get fired!!


I'm so sorry to hear of all these devastating losses in such a short time (and your Camaro!). You take as much time as you need, and Christmas can stay as long as necessary.

It's good to hear that you are with friends. Keep taking care of yourself.


Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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Edie ( member #26133) posted at 9:48 PM on Friday, January 6th, 2017

It was really good to hear from you MH.

Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 kids 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) R'd.

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Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 9:49 PM on Friday, January 6th, 2017

MH, thanks for taking the time to pop in and see us. I, for one, will relish the Christmas decor that much more.

Him WH
2 ddays in '07
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 9:56 PM on Friday, January 6th, 2017

Hi MH!!!

I happen to love the Christmas theme. That was the theme when I first joined in December of 2010, and I was shocked when the colors changed to purple.

Really good to see you here.


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Thriving ( member #4770) posted at 3:21 AM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

So glad to hear from you MH! Leave it up until next January!! In honor of DS.

Sorry about the car but I can't help with that. But if you need SQA, let me know.

"Trust is earned, respect is given, and loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any of one of those is to lose all three." - Anon.

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JanetS ( member #2766) posted at 3:52 AM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

MH, so glad to see you're back and with your sense of humor intact. DS would love that you're doing well in spite of the pain. I've thought of both of you daily.

Sorry about your car.

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trying to smile ( member #9683) posted at 4:10 AM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

Dear MH, I'd happily see the Christmas theme insitu for 12 months in DS's honour. I love the season too. Would make a change for us Aussies to have a cold Christmas halfway through the year.

You are loved, never forget that.


Good Women.
May we know them,
May we be them,
May we raise them.

"so when he finally showed his true colours they proved to be a startling shade of turd".

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 5:51 AM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

Hi MH. Thank you for stopping by. I'm sorry about your car. Seeing as it's my Christmas Eve right now I love leaving up the Christmas decor for as long as you like in honour of DS. We are always thinking about you! (((MH)))

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 9:30 AM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

I hope you don't mind, but SI will remain decorated for Christmas season...

Oh HECK YEAH. That means I can follow MH's lead and not take down my Christmas decorations(from last year)!

Jp's Lil' Sis: FFS Jp, take down yer dang tree already.

Jp: I don't hafta, I still got a snowman by my name.

"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.

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hexed ( member #19258) posted at 12:28 PM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017


I think Christmas decorations are sparkly, beautiful and joyful just like DS. They should stay until you're ready to take them down.

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

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SerJR ( member #14993) posted at 1:45 PM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

Good to see you Oz

Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 3:05 PM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

Thanks for the update MH. Sending good Carma mojo your way!

And I'll also sign the petition to leave the Xmas lights up for the year in honor of DS.

"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

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little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 4:53 PM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

Glad to hear from you MH.

Failure is success if we learn from it.

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 4:59 PM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

Thank you for the update!!

So sorry that you are dealing with even more losses.

Take care.

[This message edited by minusone at 2:01 PM, January 7th (Saturday)]

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:51 PM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

Yup - good to hear from you, MH. I'm very sorry for you other losses.

I, too, was thinking that keeping the Christmas theme for a year would be a nice way to mark DS's passing, since she loved Christmas.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 9:29 PM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

Your trip sounds like a good plan. So sorry about your wheels.

We are thinking about you every day.


"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 11:59 PM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

Hi MH,

I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. You are in my thoughts daily. I am glad to hear that you're with friends right now.

If it's all right, I'd like to also sign the petition to keep the Christmas decorations up all year to honor DS. In fact, I'm taking my decorations down tomorrow, but I'm going to leave something "Christmasy" up just for DS all year.

Did she have a favorite decoration (snowman etc...)?


Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)

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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 12:33 AM on Sunday, January 8th, 2017

Think of it as extending DS' final day with us for a little while longer.

Keep it up all year - she deserves that and more. So good to hear from you MH - there are so many people sending you love from around the world.

Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

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bipass ( member #194) posted at 2:31 AM on Sunday, January 8th, 2017


I am so very sorry for your loss of such a wonderful partner. The world has also lost a very special and unique person.

You may not remember me but I remember you and DS from that "other infidelity support site" (operated by a private detective agency) back in 2001. In 2002 when that site changed to a fee-for-service site, DS contacted me and invited me to join the new site you had just created. I joined as member number 194 in June 2002. Although I didn't post much, as my life took a new turn and I put the heartache of the past behind me, I still had some brief contact with DS over the years on this site.

DS was a great inspiration and mentor to so many countless individuals who visited this site. She will always be remembered with fondness and admiration.

I offer you my deepest sympathy for your loss, and as difficult as this has been, this world is a better place for her life and how she used it to help so many.



[This message edited by bipass at 2:22 AM, January 8th (Sunday)]

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 3:31 AM on Sunday, January 8th, 2017

DS loved the Christmas beaver

Oooooh girl you gonna be dodging lightning bolts for that one!

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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