Oh my, thank you for this post! I am just now headed into the D process, likely will be a long one.
All I have is fear right now but hopefully I can come back and read this post aand reflect on the realties:
FEAR--STBX will find someone to love and actually be happy.
LIKELY REALITY-STBX will cheat on this wife as he's a narcissistic serial cheater.
FEAR-STBX will father more children and put them through a mess of a life.
FEAR-I'll be labeled that "single" friend and all my married friends will think I'm after their husbands.
FEAR-my kids will suffer and be harmed through the whole divorce process.
FEAR-my post-nuptial with infidelity clause will not hold up in court and I have to give STBX 50/50 of my hard earned business I just started 3 years ago.
FEAR-I will be too old to find someone that I can actually trust after the mess I've lived for 15 years with his crazy ass.
FEAR-I'll look like a failure that I'm divorced and people will think I'm the messed up one.
FEAR-I'll not be able to financially have the life that I've grown accustomed to.
FEAR-my STBX will continue to play mind games with the kids and alienate them from me with his lies.
FEAR--the IHS will take its toll on my emotional health.
[This message edited by Crazytrain101 at 8:27 PM, Wednesday, October 5th]