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Tactical Primer


Limbo79 ( Member #63287) posted at 7:25 AM on Thursday, April 12th, 2018

Wow this is a great post. I should have read this first. However I have been great advice on here already. My w hasn’t admitted to anything yet and probably won’t but has shifted all the blame and has made numerous lies. Why lie if you Avnet done anything?

If I didn’t have children I would have finished the marriage with the first lies. Which means the marriage is finished I guess.

But life is never straight forward it seems and we all have complications in our situations. Children, parents living with us, or business’s together, money issues etc. These get used against us either by the the partner or our selves because of our caring honest nature.

I’m so glad I found this site as it’s giving me the strength and knowledge to resolve my situation.

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MariaBlue ( New Member #63695) posted at 2:39 AM on Sunday, May 6th, 2018

This is a great post, so very informative to the process of recovery and healing from infidelity. Thank you so much!!!

DDay of EA: April 28, 2018
DD2: 09/24/2018 WS broke NC to officially end it
DD3: 6/29/2019 WS broke NC again to hear nice words instead of my angry outbursts; he got ghosted instead.

WS: Working on becoming a safe and trustworthy partner.

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DeepFeeler ( New Member #63825) posted at 3:45 AM on Sunday, May 20th, 2018

The time it took to put that together was well spent and as stated there is a lot of commonality in all of our stories. I only wish I had found this site and information a couple of weeks ago, I could have prevented a few blunders and possibly made it all a little easier for us both.

Great work you are all doing here, thank you.

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thighswideshut ( New Member #64140) posted at 10:49 PM on Friday, June 15th, 2018

I was 'fortunate' enough to find out from the wife of the man who was cheating with my wife. She sent me an email while I was at lunch with my spouse.

I almost deleted it thinking it was spam. Has anyone ever had the 'leaving the body' feeling before? I had it that day.

I think I literally flew out of my body and looked down on myself, like I had died.

I openly wept in the middle of a sunny day with a half full beer I didn't finish.

Me: Loving Husband mid 40s
My wife cheated 2 years with boss.
I forgave. Processing and healing.
Writing a blog detailing my journey. It's called "thighs wide shut."

posts: 2   ·   registered: Jun. 14th, 2018   ·   location: Virginia
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Redskyfever ( New Member #65693) posted at 6:31 PM on Friday, August 3rd, 2018

Extremely helpful in laying some boundary lines for mental health.

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totallydumb ( Member #66269) posted at 1:25 AM on Monday, September 24th, 2018

Wish I would have been here several months ago to see this tactical planner, probably would have saved me a lot of pain and confusion.

If you see your ex with someone else--don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.

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daitheflu ( New Member #66309) posted at 2:06 PM on Friday, October 5th, 2018

This is much needed advice. Thanks so much!

BS: Me-38
WS: My Husband-37
D-Day: 08/20/18
Together for nearly 20 years and married for nearly 15 of those years.
WS broke things off with OW on 08/24/18 and we have been trying to reconcile since then.

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Nursemomof3 ( Member #66294) posted at 1:01 PM on Friday, November 2nd, 2018

This post is so good. I love how it’s up top so on bad days I’m able to click this first and get my grounding back.

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