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Not a new grandfather, but we see our GS only 2-3 times a year, so we have some of the aspects of new GParenthood....

Son and GS, 12 years old, are visiting now. Son went off on his own last night (old friends), and W did something, too, so GS and I were together alone for the first time ever. We went out to dinner, at a restaurant I chose, since GS wasn't enthusiastic about anything.

He is not communicative about himself, and he's still filled with angry and sad feelings towards his parents because of their D. He asked me questions about myself, and I decided to answer as a way of modeling self-disclosure. I had a great time, and I think he had at least a good time. Maybe he'll start saying something about himself (within the constraints of his age, of course).

Very, very satisfying.

ETA, 27 hours later: I asked him some questions, which he answered. They just left. Plainsong is napping. I'm too exhausted to nap. Nice to have our apartment back.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:28 PM, Thursday, August 18th]

sisoon

so glad you got to spend that time. And here’s hoping there are more times like this ahead. He will benefit from having you to lean on.

So, after getting up at 4:00 am to help H, I am back in the den getting ready to go back to sleep, and I get a text.

Never a good sign at 4:30 am.

It was my grand baby’s mother. She has been having some blood in her urine and back pain. A scan shows a kidney stone.

So she was texting to tell me she was in bad pain and couldn’t pee and needed to go to the ER. I said to bring the baby right over.

So, of course I really hate that she is dealing with this, but on the flip side, I am lying next to a 4 year old 👼🏼 just watching her sleep. 💕

She is my silver lining!

Hope they help your grabdbaby's momma and you have an awesome day with the Grand.

sisoon - Since you don't see him often, do you think he would be open to some regular FaceTime calls with you? I've heard grandparents say it's a lifesaver in building relationship with far-away grandkids.

We're really struggling with the FaceTime thing. D lives in a time zone three hours ahead of us, so by the time H gets home from work, it's already 9PM there, and the baby has been in bed for two hours... and parents are pooped. And no, I'm not willing to wake up at 6AM, before H leaves for work, to try to get a FaceTime in. We're going back for a week in mid-September, so maybe we can have a conversation then on trying to come up with a couple of regular times a week.

D1 tried to FaceTime me today, but D2 (who D1 also attempted to call) and I were at the theatre seeing Moulin Rouge (a good friend of hers from college is in it).

I have four grandkids - 18 (trans-female), a granddaughter who will be 14 in November, a granddaughter who will be 13 in December (the day after Christmas) and a grandson who will be 9 (and for the life of me I can't think of when his birthday is) It's great, really. DH and I have been Papaw and Mamaw since the oldest was 2.

So... we've been home a week now, after spending another week with D and her family. The baby, now three months old, is giving my back and neck a run for the money, and I actively do weight training and Pilates four times a week. He's like 69% height, 64% weight, and 96% head circumference!!! I guess when I think about my neck pain, I can't imagine him trying to hold that bowling ball up! But yea, I finally succumbed today and went to the chiropractor for the first time in almost three years - my neck has been killing me; holding him has made it worse, as has not sleeping in my own bed, and being on a plane for six hours.

I can't believe how much he's changed in a week! He laughed for the first time this week, is close to rolling over from his back to his tummy and is really finding his hands and feet. And he was such a flirt with us last week. If you blew him raspberries, he'd widen his eyes at first in a state of being startled for about a second, then smile really big and say, "agoo, agoo." Also starting to drool, but I didn't have the heart to tell D that the amount he's drooling now is nothing compared to what it will evolve into!

It was amazing watching D and SIL as they've settled into their roles since we were there two months ago. They've got a pretty predictable routine, which we all know, will last long enough to just get it figured out, then it will change again! He sleeps between 7PM-7AM, with only one feed during the night.

Have any of you seen these Merlin suits they use for babies and sleeping? They make the baby look like the Michelin Man, but damn, they help. The gadgets and doodads that new parents have available these days is remarkable!

Probably won't see them in person again until Christmas, when they will come out here. They *thought* we might come back for Thanksgiving, but I just can't do it.

I got to keep my guy 2 weekends ago overnight. He too is only getting up once in the "night" to eat, and sleeps like a champ.
He wasa 2 mos old last week. He is smiling, and starting to coo. He is adorable.

I am very excited because I get to see my nieces little man for the first time this weekend. He is 2 weeks older than my Grandson.

It is very strange how many babies have entered my life this summer. Its wonderful.

Spent 2 glorious weeks "down the shore" with my efamily, granddaughter, sons and husband there the whole time, daughters in law there much of the time. GD is 11 months old. Very personable, not yet walking. I know her well, know her moods, know what she wants much of the time. She is an amazing eater as long as she can feed herself, her fine motor control is awesome and she laughs at herself when she drops something in her plastic bib. She is also starting to sign "more."
I'm her jukebox. As soon as she gets in my arms she rocks side to side and sings. We have a large repertoire!

Love her to pieces.

We are on baby watch. My daughter has a Dr appointment Thursday, he said come to the visit prepared to head to L&D.

First Grand Son!!!

So exciting Tanner!!!! Keep us up to date.

Ok so she went to L&D and they sent her home. Her next appointment is Tuesday.

Got a text from my nephew (he was born on my 30th bday) that he and his new daughter are home.

Grands are the best, even when it's within the family.

[This message edited by leafields at 12:40 AM, Thursday, October 13th]

Just wanted to say my Grandson is AWESOME!!!!
The kids (son and GF) returned to work, and they work same place same shifts, 12 hours rotating days/nights. So on their weekend they work 12 F-S-S, ton of hours. So we got to keep the little man from Saturday afternoon until this morning.
He will be 3 mos old this week. He is starting to get really close to rolling, he is smiling all the time, and loves to be in his swing, calms down w/ music, and loves to be snuggled. He also sleeps through the night!!!!!!!!!
He is absolutely wonderful.

Grand kids are wonderful Tushnurse, I look forward to meeting our Dylan sometime soon. My daughter went to L&D and they admitted her, her water broke so we are waiting.

It’s official we have a Grand Son 👍👍👍

His official birth time was 5:41, 3 minutes after the post above. 8lbs 7oz 😮

CONGRATSTanner
Enjoy that new baby boy!

That's awesome Tanner! Congratulations!

I can't believe my grandson will be four months this weekend! I look at those newborn pictures and miss it already, so soak it in while you can.

Thanks y’all. They have a 24 hour observation policy but all is well and he on his way home. I went and visited him today.

I was really surprised, there were 6 visitors in the room and no masks required.

Congrats Tanner. Nice weight on that baby boy!

Tushnurse, you are really enjoying that baby! He sounds like such a good baby!