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Oh my gosh!!!!!

How exciting!!!

Please keep us posted.

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We took a red-eye in Thursday night, and surprisingly, they allowed two visitors in the hospital at a time, so we were able to meet him and hold him on both Friday and Saturday before she was discharged. He's such a peanut!!

He was having a hard time waking up after the circumcision (I'm so glad I never had boys so I never had to make that decision!), but they said that's completely normal. Since D is also on an SSRI, they say when these babies are born, they can be more sleepy until it moves out of their systems, so we're still waiting for that. We've seen his eyes open very few times, maybe a few seconds a couple of times a day. The pediatrician is not worried, though. She has an appt. with a lactation consultant on Wednesday since he evidently has a 'short' latch. So she's pumping to bring her milk in, and hopefully will get this sorted out on Wednesday. For reasons of my own birth trauma and feeding, I made a very conscious decision to nurse both my kids, for extended times, and it was an amazing experience, so I'm sad that she's struggling right off of the bat.

He's just heaven to hold. In-laws arrived yesterday and will leave tonight before coming back after we're gone to help out. I can't believe how four grown-ass adults (D, SIL, H and myself) are so exhausted by a newborn!!! But we're getting a lot done. H and I power washed their garage floor, did some house cleaning, grocery shopping, a couple of trips to Home Depot, and have more things to do today, like laundry. I've already been peed on once. Should have seen that one coming!

All in all, it's been great, but I'm feeling the time change and am tired a lot; trying to take naps.

Thanks for all the congrats!

I'm so happy for you! It's just the best time.
My granddaughter has started humming along with me while I sing her favorite lullaby. I'm in heaven.

CONGRATULATIONS 🎈

Congratulations 4

It’s so much better with grandkids, had I known I would have just started with grandkids 😀

We have our granddaughters 6 and 8 for a couple days and we have so much fun. I’ve taught one to swim and working on the other.

It’s really funny because MImi is a fashionable girly girl grandma. The girls always want to do hair and makeup, play dress up and walk around in high heels.

Mimi is in trouble, came home and found pop corn in my bed. I’m all for bending the rules, but Pawpaw is anal and has limits 😀

Tanner, you crack me up!

I have to admit that I am many times very anal as well, but all of that has been thrown out the window with my grand babies. The way I notice this the most is with cleaning. It’s important to me to have a clean house, although often I am behind.

But when my granddaughter comes over, the dirty dishes be damned. We sit and read a book or watch Peppa Pig or build Lego castles.

I so wish I had been more like that with my kids when they were growing up.

I so wish I had been more like that with my kids when they were growing up.

That is great thing about Grandkids it’s like a fun do-over. A lot of shit we stressed about with our kids was really nothing in the big picture.

Congratulations Number4! If it offers any solace, I struggled with breastfeeding my eldest at first too but we eventually hit our stride (after many many struggles and stresses and weight loss and visits with the lactation consultant) and she ended up breastfeeding until age 2!!

That is great thing about Grandkids it’s like a fun do-over. A lot of shit we stressed about with our kids was really nothing in the big picture.

As someone with very young children watching our parents become MUCH MORE relaxed and permissive grandparents than they were parents (seriously, who are these people? ), I imagine the ability to go home at the end of the day and get a good night sleep plays a big role.

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seriously, who are these people?

If they are like us, we are laughing and enjoying the fact that my daughter has a girl just like her She deserves every damn minute of that attitude 🤣🤣🤣

Has anyone given thought yet to putting some money back for the grandkids later in their life… Perhaps college?

I’m on the older side of this curve, but I just feel like there’s something that I can do. But when I think about college per se, I wonder what will college even be like in 15 years? Will it mostly be online? Well the costs be quite different than they are now?

And like with my kids, what if they decide not to go to college?

Anyone come up with something that you really think is good?

We have not done so yet, but our D and her H have said they plan to open a fund so that loved ones can deposit into it for birthdays, holidays, etc. toward college. They have started the paperwork; I guess my only hesitation is, what if the kid decides not to go to college? Or gets a full scholarship somewhere and doesn't need that money. I suspect you could set it up so that, if it's not used toward college expenses by the age of 30, then it goes directly to the young adult as cash. I'm sure there are all kinds of stipulations you can put on that money.

If it offers any solace, I struggled with breastfeeding my eldest at first too but we eventually hit our stride

Thank you! Yes, so many women really struggle to get off to a good start. I partly blame hospitals who do not encourage best practices in establishing a breastfeeding relationship early on, then send parents home with little information on how to get the supply established. It's a story I heard many times over my years as a LLL leader 30+ years ago, and unfortunately, it's still true today in some hospitals. And as first time parents, you don't know what you don't know. D saw two different lactation consultants in the hospital, and they both told her different things. I mean, WTF?

It's been VERY hard to find a lactation consultant to come to the house, but one did come on Saturday morning. She was OK... not terrific, but OK. D is taking the inability to latch very personally, and I know it hurts, even though that's not what's going on. But... the lactation consultant DID evaluate for a tongue-tie and it appears as if he does have one. She said she cannot diagnose, but she can evaluate. They see the pediatrician tomorrow and will talk further about it. I guess there are two approaches to tongue-tie: ENTs tend to cut them with scissors, and pediatric dentists tend to use lasers. Some studies show lasers are more permanent, and cutting can result in them sometimes growing back. So they will have to discuss this tomorrow. Perhaps that will make his latching and sucking more efficient if he gets that taken care of.

Our presence has been requested to stay another week than we were planning to. So we will be here a bit longer. D is just having so many self-doubts about her role as a mother. We will provide additional support in just being here.

But damn, a newborn can exhaust four adults in just a short amount of time.

My sweet niece went for her weekly visit with the dr. She was diagnosed with high blood pressure/pre-eclampsia.

Just like she did with her mom, this baby boy, is causing high blood pressures, and she was admitted. She is being induced in the am. My great nephew should join us tomorrow!!!!!
My sister made it to her this evening. They live about 6 hours away. My niece wants her mom there for the delivery.

My sister is a nervous wreck, and pretty high strung. She is more anxious than the mom to be. Lol. Anyway let the baby fest begin.