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LOL...I was still 'friends' on FB with my second serial cheater and after I kicked him out, I posted this on his FB wall:

Thank you. This really helped me today ❤️

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I needed this!!! Thank you. Thank You. THANK YOU. I am printing this and keeping it many places so I can read it again and again as necessary.

Yup - he affaired down (best phrase ever). Way down. Subterranean. He couldn’t handle the whole package of freaking awesome that was before him. So he went dumpster diving like a mangy alley cat. And I shall rise above, spread my own damn wings and fly. My self esteem took a beating. Pretty much beat to a bloody pulp. But I’ll be damn if she has that power over me. I have bad days. I have bad moments. But OW f—

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I will keep reading this, over and over. I'm trying to end my obsession with this woman because he did downgrade. She spent two years in prison for dealing crack cocaine and was bar waitressing when they met. I asked him what the attraction was and he said she walked up to his table and told him that he was hot. She then showed him her tits. Real classy move, eh? She is, however, 15 years younger than me and skinnier( I have lost 35 lbs, so I think it's equal now) and spends a lot of time on hair and makeup. Basically, he told me he "picked" Her because she was a whore . I told him, well, that makes you a whoremonger. She is apparently stupid as a box since when she posted everything on my Facebook and in her correspondence with me, she has misspelled his first name.But he was her"soul mate"!How do you screw a man for two years and can't spell his name,wtf?!! I am getting better though. I blocked everything and haven't looked at her Facebook in 32 days. Progress.

My WW had an A with someone 16 years older than her. He had more money than me, better car, bald head. I know it was him that chased her but she gave in. Grrr I want to kill him

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I so badly want to believe this, but in my case she is the ex wife. They got divorced and then a year later we met and then married. So yes, I do wonder why she is playing so hard for him now and wants back in his life. I keep trying to remind myself that only a dog returns to it's own vomit.

Thanks for reposting. This post is pregnant with wisdom. I think about it in this way: Decent people do not pursue another person's spouse. It takes a fairly flawed individual to engage in such despicable behavior. And in that regard, BS and AP usually deserve each other.

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Found this and it helps. I know it’s true.

But it makes me wonder what my WH (stbx) really thought of me. I mean, he’s into escorts of every race other than mine. And some new AP (or new to me discovering) who just truly appears to be a meth head.

I can’t imagine what our neighbours/friends/etc would be saying and thinking if they ever saw them together. It’s just so off the charts.

Who is this guy of 20 years?

Her/them being involved and these women being whores doesn’t make me feel any better. But I guess him and a beauty would feel worse? That feeling will likely come along soon once he’s completely divorced from me and wanting to remarry a new shiny thing.

[This message edited by BSisRight at 9:45 PM, November 25th (Saturday)]

Edie, I love this post. It rings so very true to me. Who would put up with having only the crumbs of a relationship when the cheating husbands tells the OW he has no intention of leaving his wife. And she still settles for that. I am the BS and this is helping me to see myself as the better person, the first in line, the strongest!

Thanks for continuing to bump this thread. I can honestly say my WH affaired down. She's older, needs bleach to keep her hair "blond" and talks like a 16 year old spoiled high school girl. And not one of the smart ones either. I mentioned this to a good friend of mine and she said I married down. She said the thing that WH told her why he loved me when he proposed was that I challenged him, that I was a strong person. I guess he got tired of being challenged because she is certainly a ditz.

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[This message edited by Gablestitch at 10:44 AM, November 28th (Tuesday)]

Gablestitch -

My family members said I married down and always wondered why I picked my WW! Love is blind is all I can say!

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I've read this before and could read it a thousand more times and it wouldn't be too much.

This is probably the issue with which I have most grappled since DDay. "What's wrong with me? Why wasn't I enough?" When, in fact, the proper questions are, "What's wrong with my WW? Why can't she think more of herself than this?"

I've at least reached the point where I can say with all confidence that I am a better man than OM. I have the love & respect of my children because they know what kind of man their father is. And, perhaps most importantly, I would never pursue a married woman because it is simply not decent. That alone sets me higher by heads and shoulders.

[This message edited by Justabranch at 11:46 AM, January 9th (Tuesday)]