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barcher144 (original poster member #54935) posted at 3:55 PM on Wednesday, August 28th, 2019
I normally just vent, but this is... I don't know... a brag post?
I get to move into my new place on Sunday! It's a mile from STBX's house, so I will get to see my kids more often.
I have been living at my GF's about half of the time since December... and there almost full time since late June. It's going to be so nice to have my own place again.
I feel like I have been living out of my car for almost a year.
Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.
devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 4:15 PM on Wednesday, August 28th, 2019
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 7:19 PM on Wednesday, August 28th, 2019
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 7:25 PM on Wednesday, August 28th, 2019
(((Barcher)))
Congrats friend!!!! Big step in the new life you are building for yourself.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 8:44 PM on Wednesday, August 28th, 2019
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 7:06 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2019
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
nothisfriend ( member #53171) posted at 8:23 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2019
That's a giant step forward. Good for you!
Me: BS 50 (at the time) Him: WH 53 (at the time) D-Day: 10/25/15 Married: 28 years. One son, age 18 (at the time)
D final 2016 REMARRIED to a marvelous guy on 4/22/23
CatsNTats ( member #66105) posted at 10:01 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2019
Me:37 BW
Him:45 WH Deceased 10.20.19
Other D-Days: Feb 2016, August 2017, September 2018
If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it's a duck.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 10:15 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2019
@CatsNTats, some were asking about you, last week or so. I think it was on the Betrayed Womenz thread. They were wondering about were you where and if you were safe.
Awesome sauce, barcher. Sounds perfect and I am happy for you!
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
CaliforniaNative ( member #60149) posted at 12:26 AM on Saturday, August 31st, 2019
Congratulations. When is the party?
Soconfusing ( member #61392) posted at 1:27 AM on Saturday, August 31st, 2019
So awesome!!! Congratulations!!
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 2:57 AM on Saturday, August 31st, 2019
So happy for you!!! Hope the move goes smoothly! 
Failure is success if we learn from it.
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 3:40 AM on Saturday, August 31st, 2019
Woo Hoo!! Here's to more kid time for you and a new place. Congrats!
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
20yrsagoBS ( member #55272) posted at 3:54 AM on Saturday, August 31st, 2019
Congratulations!
So, spill it!
Floor plan? Color scheme? Housewarming? Does it have a pool?
Ocean views?
BW, 54 WH 53 When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 5:57 AM on Sunday, September 1st, 2019
Way cool barcher!! 
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 2:29 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2019
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
Newlifeisgreat ( member #71308) posted at 4:32 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2019
Congrats!!!!
How is the new place coming along?
Betrayed Spouse. She cheated and I filed immediately upon discovering. She never even suspected that I knew until the moment she was served with reason being Adultery. Divorced: Sept, 2018. VERY happy with new life, 0 regrets
barcher144 (original poster member #54935) posted at 6:08 PM on Thursday, September 5th, 2019
Floor plan? Color scheme? Does it have a pool? Ocean views?
It's a 3-level townhouse, with 4 bedrooms. I have definitely noticed that I am walking up and down stairs a lot more than I have previously.
It sort of has a pool. The HOA includes membership in a facility that includes a pool. Unfortunately, it is already closed for the season.
Considering it is less than 10 miles from the Mississippi River, the ocean view is conspicuously missing.
[This message edited by barcher144 at 12:19 PM, September 5th (Thursday)]
Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.
barcher144 (original poster member #54935) posted at 6:14 PM on Thursday, September 5th, 2019
They were wondering about were you where and if you were safe.
I think that I am to a place where I am pretty much permanently safe. I haven't had depression symptoms for over a year and I don't live with STBXW any longer (so no fear of getting arrested either).
Things are pretty calm right now on the divorce front. I *finally* have a competent attorney. My custody evaluation begins next week. I think that will be pretty straight-forward.
STBXW definitely decided to cause a ruckus this weekend, such that one of our kids has decided that I am a black soul and that she never wants to see me again. I am pretty hurt about that, but I gotta just keeping chugging along, doing my best.
Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.
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