SaddestDad (original poster member #69800) posted at 1:55 PM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2022
Hey SI, long time no see!
Things have been going great, considering our journey till this point.
We got a puppy on our anniversary and I got my first tattoo about a week ago on one of the difficult dates in order to take that day back. Needless to say, it worked! The tattoo says, "I forgive" in a language from a novel that only I can read. I got it on my thigh so I can see it every morning and reaffirm that I do, in fact, forgive her.
She is still going strong on being a polar opposite to what she was before DDay 1.
I do still get darkness but I'm working on that. Will probably be working on it for many years. At this point it's my issue, not our issue.
I hope this update is helpful for whoever needs it.
Life is a wheel. Sooner or later everything you'd left behind comes around again. For good or ill, it comes around again.
For what profit is to a man if he gains the world but loses his own soul?
BH 32
WW 34 Change4thebetter
Working hard
SaddestDad (original poster member #69800) posted at 1:55 PM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2022
Sorry for the triple post... server time out on me.
Life is a wheel. Sooner or later everything you'd left behind comes around again. For good or ill, it comes around again.
For what profit is to a man if he gains the world but loses his own soul?
BH 32
WW 34 Change4thebetter
Working hard
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:55 PM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2022
Great to see an update, SD. Hope things continue to go well for you.
Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
fareast ( Guide #61555) posted at 4:09 PM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2022
Thanks for the update. I remember your journey. Happy to see things going well for you.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 8:50 PM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2022
Great update...thank you for sharing 
!!
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
numb&dumb ( member #28542) posted at 8:53 PM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2022
Good update!
Dday 8/31/11. EA/PA. Lied to for 3 years.
Bring it, life. I am ready for you.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 9:49 PM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2022
Good to hear from you. I'm very glad your life is getting better.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Dorothy123 ( member #53116) posted at 10:54 PM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2022
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 11:27 PM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2022
We are meant to find joy. If you can do that then good for you!
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
Stevesn ( member #58312) posted at 3:57 AM on Thursday, August 4th, 2022
If it’s your issue then it’s hers too. That’s what being married is all about.
And if she doesn’t remind you of that when you discuss it, then I am disappointed in her.
fBBF. Just before proposing, broke it off after her 2nd confirmed PA in 2 yrs. 9 mo later I met the wonderful woman I have spent the next 30 years with.
SaddestDad (original poster member #69800) posted at 3:47 PM on Friday, August 5th, 2022
If it’s your issue then it’s hers too. That’s what being married is all about.
And if she doesn’t remind you of that when you discuss it, then I am disappointed in her.
She has said many times that my problems are her problems, but I personally have finally come to understand that she's doing everything that she's required to do and then some. The issues I refer to are those that can only be fixed by me and me alone. The journey I'm taking for healing requires me to be in the driver's seat of a single-seater to make progress before settling in an RV with the family for the night. You know what I mean?
Life is a wheel. Sooner or later everything you'd left behind comes around again. For good or ill, it comes around again.
For what profit is to a man if he gains the world but loses his own soul?
BH 32
WW 34 Change4thebetter
Working hard
Stevesn ( member #58312) posted at 1:12 PM on Saturday, August 6th, 2022
Yes I got you. Thanks for answering. I am glad you are both still working hard on this journey.
fBBF. Just before proposing, broke it off after her 2nd confirmed PA in 2 yrs. 9 mo later I met the wonderful woman I have spent the next 30 years with.
