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Just wondering what your most crazy funny fantasy of revenge would be? Give his stuff to Goodwill? Find a fake pi? Act like nothing is wrong and serve him?

Caveat: this is neither crazy or funny but I do like thinking about it sometimes.

I wish the minute I uncovered his cheating, I'd quietly, without letting on anything was up, filed the divorce, then while he was at work, packed all of his things, put them in the driveway and blocked him on everything, while a process server was delivering the papers to him at work. I'd never speak to him again and cut ties with anyone remotely connected to him. If he showed up at my house even once, I'd file a restraining order. A blindside would have been fitting given how violently he blindsided me.

Mailing poop to him and AP anonymously. There are places where you can order it. Even elephant poop.

XWH hates poop and I once recorded the Mr. Hanky song on his voice mail.

ETA: There's a saying that beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes down to the bone. Both are so internally ugly that they can't see anything beautiful.

[This message edited by leafields at 5:57 AM, Tuesday, July 26th]

I know of a number of real life revenge stories.

Guy from college - serial cheater - married the girl he cheated on. Claims it was a family thing and he was "coerced" into marrying her. Anyway she must have found out he was a cheater or serial cheater b/c he went home one day to an empty condo.

She moved out. Took everything.

He deserved it.

Another good friend was married to a serial cheater. On Dday she learned of 3 OW, an OC, a fiancée and a GF that just had an abortion or miscarriage with her CH’s child.

She went to trial and the judge in her D case ruled against the H. She pretty much held his career in the palm of her hand. Her shark of an attorney had him nailed — had she told his job about the OC he would have been fired. He had to give in to mist of her demands.

It’s good to see the BS get a bit of revenge sometime.

I hadn’t thought about this in a really long time.

My 1st H is a sociopathic POS. The only time we lived together was when we were stationed in Germany. We PCS’ed (moved home) when DS was 2 months old, also just before Christmas. The first thing he did was to buy a truck that was wildly unsuitable for a family of 3. An infant car seat fit, but just barely. He also insisted on buying it in his name only. After traveling across half the country to visit his mom and then his dad we returned to my home where we had agreed to settle. He left in January and the plan was for him to take the money that was being offered to NCOs for taking an early out.

Now I know that he met OW/wifetress as soon as he got up there. At the time he told me he’d been offered a really great opportunity to travel and teach the new M1 Abrams tank all around the country. We would spend as many weekends together as we could but it was an unaccompanied tour. I bought it hook, line and sinker. I got a job, took care of the baby and lived with my parents until I found a little rental. He never sent me a penny. Charged up my credit cards, drove the truck I was making payments on. I finally found out in October of that year he’d been living with the OW since he got there. Taking care of her kid while never sending anything to our child. I had to hire a PI to even find out the address where they lived.

The next thing I did was to stop payment on the check I’d just sent for his truck payment. Then I called and made sure there was no way it would affect my credit if it was repoed. There was not, since he’d made sure the financing and title were in his name. So I told them I wasn’t making another payment and they’d never see any money from him. I also told them he had a nasty habit of driving wildly and either wrecking cars or tearing the motors up so if they wanted something with any value at all it would behoove them to get it sooner rather than later. I very helpfully supplied them with the address I’d obtained from the PI.

It was glorious. He called me up incensed and bewildered. Wanted to know if I’d forgotten the truck payment. (Omg, the balls of that still makes me ) I said I stopped payment because I didn’t have use of the truck and he was, you know, LIVING WITH SOMEONE ELSE. He said he’d never heard of a vehicle being repoed for missing one payment and I said, “Yeah, that really sucks for you.”

My fantasy was always to hire someone to restrain him and forcibly tattoo his genitals with something that looked like a horrible STD. That way he’d either have to have it removed or have to explain that for the rest of his life.

I've had many revenge fantasies, some of which have actually scared me. I never knew my mind could go so dark. But this one is honestly what I wish I would have done...

When WH took the affair underground, I wish I would have started a group text with him, his whore, and his parents. I would have text this:

"Hey MIL/FIL, WH recently brought someone new into our life, much to mine and DD's surprise. And since he has been so excited and infatuated, he must have forgotten to tell you all about her. Her name is "whore" and she is his girlfriend. I'm sure he would really want you to know everything about her since she is so important to him that he's willing to risk losing his family. Just thought I would facilitate the introduction. <3"

He would have DIED!! I swear on everything in this world, if he ever does something like this to me again, this will be EXACTLY what I do! I will never again feel like I am being forced to keep a secret like this!

Here is my favorite revenge story. It’s about a nice older lady and a sailboat captain who went into business together. They were in a romantic relationship. Once they got down island into the Caribbean she did all the work. All the cooking, all the provisioning, all the entertaining, all the marketing. The captain was supposed to do boat maintenance and of course run the charters. Instead he preferred to sit at the beach bar drink rum and seduce tourists. It took about nine months for her to get fed up and when she decided to leave she did it in a spectacular slow motion faction. The sailboat they had was an aluminum boat and the day she left, she went below and pulled out several rolls of pennies from her pocketbook and empty them in the bilges. Now aluminum and copper are dissimilar metals, which causes electrolysis and eventually coerosion. So about nine months later off the coast of Venezuela that boat sunk. The divers that went down said the whole of the boat from the bottom looks like Swiss cheese.

Has the statute of limitations run out on the shrimp in the curtain rods story?

Asking for a friend.

Have many revenge fantasies... but have also had flat-out revenge. A mind-boggling amount of TT led to finding out my SA WH has been cheating since the day we met with anyone who was willing. Every major milestone in our relationship, there was at least one OW there. Mostly EAs, but several EA/PAs. They all overlapped with each other and each one's existence didn't prevent him from pursuing more women. Anyway...

At first I only blamed him. But over time and with therapy, I came to find out just how malicious two of the PA OW were and how thrilled they both were when I discovered their existence. A week after DDay, I called them both up, politely, just to find out what was going on, since getting anything from WH was like pulling teeth and I was going insane; they joyfully toyed with me and told lies to make it worse for me (how classic). I didn't know any better and just let them talk. Ultimately, all parties downplayed the As, because my WH wanted to stay with me and the OW wanted to be well-behaved mistresses.

Eventually WH confessed everything and I found out that both were in love with him and furious that he didn't leave me for them. One had taken place two years before DDay and ended badly when WH stopped talking to her out of the blue (the A had run its course, for him). The other was a current OW. Through this new lens, I now understood how cruel and calculating they had been.

So I... told their jobs, told their friends, told their parents, told their colleagues, told their acquaintances--to great consequence to them. And not just about the As, because maybe they would have enjoyed that. No, I told everyone all the private, awkward, mortifying moments that happened between them--you know, things that are normally protected information in a monogamous relationship? Well these weren't monogamous relationships, so there's no protection. OW1 sobbed hysterically about how sad and alone she was--I told everyone. OW2 farted in her sleep--I told everyone. OW1 lied about other people to inflate her delusions of grandeur--I told those people. Every single intimate detail they ever confided in my WH or very personal, painfully awkward sexual moments that had transpired between them, I told everyone. Think: Monica Lewinsky having to testify in front of the grand jury. And then WH called them in front of me several times to scream at them listing every single insecurity they had admitted about themselves and that they were right to think it. There's WAY more to the story, but that's the PG-rated version, because I don't want to go to jail

In the end, the best revenge was only revealed after the fact: when I had spoken with them, I acted like I held all the cards (which I did) and was simply trying to suss out the full story to decide what *I* wanted to do. That was what hit them in the gut. They had been left in the dark (WH went NC on his own accord on DDay and refused to talk about me during the As, much to their chagrin), and I'm sure they hoped the reason I was contacting them was because my WH had confessed he was in love with them and I was going to beg them to give him back. But my lack of emotion and informing them that they were not his only OW devastated them. I just didn't know it at the time.

I even haphazardly mentioned all the things he was doing to save the M, all the expensive things he was buying, all the emotional stuff--very quick mentions, but in retrospect, I could tell how upset they were to hear it (initially, I thought they were being short with me because they weren't that invested in WH and had grown bored of the conversation. NOPE). Then both attempted to reach him, in front of me, and he never responded. The lack of response drove OW1 crazy and she messaged me rambling prose that I only realized later was her attempt to pump me for information, but I couldn't make heads or tails of it at the time. Now that I know what she was actually thinking, it gives me a terrific laugh!

Essentially, I lived out my revenge fantasy, and though I'm very lucky to not be incarcerated right now... it was totally worth it.

[This message edited by Revenger at 8:43 PM, Tuesday, July 26th]

I wanted to write WHORE on her front lawn with Round Up.

I had LOTS of them...but I knew I needed to END thinking this way when I had the LAST revenge fantasy just pop in my head . We were going to our SUV after just finishing shopping at Walmart. As usual...my H handed me the keys to put in the ignition and start the SUV while he loaded the groceries in the back. As I was putting the keys in the ignition to turn it on...a THOUGHT came into my head. WHAT IF I "accidentally" placed the SUV in REVERSE...and it would pin my H under it. I would then move it off of him...and then be the BEREAVED wife...all crying and stuff...while a crowd gathered...waiting for an ambulance...but KNOWING he was dying. Then I would bend down...like I was kissing him...and with his life ending...I would whisper in his ear..."See you in HELL". Then he would KNOW...as he was the only one to see me SMILING...that this was NOT an accident at all. This thought was just a few seconds...but it JARRED me . I knew I HAD to STOP thinking about this!!!

We have since bought a newer SUV...and it has the push button start...so I don't turn it on anymore with the turn of the key. But it is still HOT here in south Louisiana...and I don't get to cool it off as early as I used to!!

I took some real life revenge on the adultery co-conspirator...much like Revenger. I TRIED doing what the vets on here say...ignoring all of her attempts at contacting my H. But after FIVE months of her reaching out...every 2-3 weeks...at HER whim...I HAD ENOUGH!!! I started sending HER emails...telling her MANY "intimate" things that SHE had shared with my H. Like Revenger...my H didn't share very much with her...not even my real name !! It was FUNNY when she replied to one of my emails...and kept using that name for me !! She tried her BEST to give me some "intimate" details about US...but she FAILED...miserably!! It showed just how LITTLE my H actually shared with her...and how MUCH he actually LIED to her . She apologized to me in that email...IF she hurt me...wasn't that so NICE of her??!! She THEN proceeded to LIE to me about something she THOUGHT would be a he said/she said situation...that was meant to HURT me . I quickly sent her back an email letting her know that I KNEW she LIED...and giving details to PROVE to her that it was a LIE. I didn't hold anything back on that email...and it WORKED...she has NEVER tried to contact either of us since then .

BUT...I realize NOW that I stooped down to HER level. I KNOW I HURT her...and I don't ever want to HURT anyone. Vengeance is MINE sayeth the Lord. That isn't up to ME. I very much regret doing what I did...even though I am also very HAPPY that it stopped her harassing attempts. For ME...revenge was not at all what it was cracked up to be. Sort of like Affairs...it should probably stay as a fantasy...because the REALITY is really NOT as satisfying.

I am not proud of it but for all the times that I have seen someone go through something just awful and said I wouldn't wish something like that on my worst enemy....I take it back. I do wish them all to experience any and all of those awful things in their life. And if I ever get so lucky to learn that they had any of those things happen to them, it will be a good day for me to know that they are suffering.

The night I knew my WW was at the AP’s house. I almost called my grown daughter to come sit with the boys while I go confront. I didn’t, and we never told her about the infidelity because she is mean AF and would cause a scene. She is also a BW.

In my fantasy I just send my daughter to confront, sit back and enjoy.

This I weird, but during a really dark time of one of my WW’s A’s, I just wanted the pain to stop so I was very suicidal. I was trying to figure out how I could kill myself, but frame my WW for my murder. I never followed through obviously, but I fantasized a lot about it.

Skyking- I’m glad you didn’t. Thanks for sharing. ♥️

I am not proud of it but for all the times that I have seen someone go through something just awful and said I wouldn't wish something like that on my worst enemy....I take it back. I do wish them all to experience any and all of those awful things in their life.

Yup. I wouldn't use the word 'proud', but I definitely won't use the word 'ashamed' either.

I'm not much of a religious person, so leaving a betrayal against me in some higher power's hands does not bring me much satisfaction. It doesn't always have to be 'an eye for an eye', but to accept that I have been been deliberately slighted....in one of the most painful ways....and to just, for the lack of a better term, take it? Sorry, that doesn't sit well with me.

I love my wife dearly. She hurt me in a way that I could never have fathomed. But believe me, I wished for her to experience my pain. Not to get even, but for her to have empathy at the deepest level. I would take a bullet for her, and I wouldn't want her to experience any other physical pains that I have gone through in my life. But wanting her to share my pain of betrayal? You betcha.

I won't even go into what AP could/should feel. My humanity towards him stopped when he knowingly engaged with a married man's wife.

Skyking- I’m glad you didn’t. Thanks for sharing. ♥️

Thank you that means a lot

I still fantasize about stabbing mainAP in the stomach a few times and walking away.