Me: BS. 74, Many DDays: The last of many was 40+ years ago.Married 53 years 2 grown sons, 2 grandchildren Reconciled. But still getting triggered sometimes.

Random thoughts as it gets late tonight!

I really don’t like the word "affair". It sounds kind of mysterious or romantic. Kind of like "The Thomas Crow Affair". In reality there is nothing remotely romantic or mysterious about it. For a PA it’s getting naked with another person and having sloppy sex. CRUDE? Of course, it is crude! And we should treat it a such. For an EA, it’s thinking about sloppy sex with an other person. We shouldn’t glamorize it. We should call it what it is. Just some random thoughts at 10:30 at night.

6 comments posted: Tuesday, October 29th, 2024

Get over it.

Let me start by saying that my last Dday was over 45 years ago. But! I still get triggered sometimes. Especially by certain music. I won’t go into what music because it was an album released before most of you were born. I can usually turn down the volume, turn it off or skip the playlist.

So I had something new happen last night. Shortly after falling asleep, I had a dream. In my dream one of the guys began playing the piano. One of the songs off that album. I couldn’t ask him to stop or turn it off so I had to listen to it. In my dream, I sat there and cried. I was just so sad. Shortly after that, I woke up. There were tears in my eyes. I laid there, really sad.

Now I’m sure many of you, maybe most of you, have scars from getting hurt when you were a child. Infidelity is like that. The wounds are deep and the scars last forever.

So when someone asks a BS why can’t they just get over it, this is why! It will be with you forever!!!!

8 comments posted: Saturday, March 9th, 2024