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Here is the link to my first thread:

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/topics/653894/fireworks-show-grand-finale/?ap=121

It's been over 8 months since I posted any updates on my divorce. I was in the thick of trial late last year. I still am. We haven't had a court date in over 7 months, as the courts here are very backed up, among other reasons. My side is done, but STBX is attorney keeps "needing" more time in front of the judge.

I largely stepped away from SI during these last months, as my mental health took a frightening turn. My anxiety escalated, and I began having panic attacks on almost a daily basis. At first I thought I was seriously ill, and I went to every specialist physician I knew and had a complete work over, EKG's, blood work, chest x-rays, ENT scope, etc. Turns out I am in perfect physical health... My brain had just reached its limit for stress. My IC advised me it was time to speak to my primary doctor. I'm happy to say I am under her care, and I feel like myself again. Sometimes meditation, exercise, and holistic remedies are not enough. Get help if you need it, everyone!

So a quick, but major, update. I recently found out that STBX sold a major asset which is in litigation in our divorce. He did this in the midst of a trial regarding THIS VERY ASSET and before the judge has had a chance to rule. Final court date is set, but has not occurred yet. My lawyer petitioned for a hearing which will occur in a few days, to protect the proceeds (which between you and me, I know he's already made disappear), and demanded discovery regarding the sale, and an injunction to prevent him from selling other assets. Yesterday, I get a call from my lawyer; STBX's attorney (FINALLY) filed a motion to withdraw as STBX's counsel due to "ethical issues" and irreconcilable differences. Make no mistake, his attorney is a slime ball; but it appears even he has reached his limit with STBX. I suspect he knows there is no way he can defend STBX's actions, which essentially are big double barrel middle fingers to the court. The only thing I can hope is that our judge does not grant yet another continuance, as STBX will be unrepresented with a trial date looming. STBX did this to himself, and he needs to eat it, Even if he has to go pro se.

I'll keep you posted. Both of these matters will be heard at the upcoming hearing. It's going to be a bad bad day in court for STBX.

Sending virtual hugs and positive thoughts.

Who the Leeper, hello! Good to see you again. Glad to hear that you're doing better.

Good luck in court. Guys like that... I'm disgusted. That's just poor character.

Glad you are focusing on you. And hope your lawyer And the courts clean this mess up soon for you.

Major asset as in boat, house or company usually has a clause regarding legality. If the asset is listed in a court-case then the sale could be illegal. Like if I sold someone a house that was marital property without my wife’s consent and the house was listed as an asset in a divorce that deal would could be declared illegal, the asset once again be returned to the original owner and the purchaser be entitled to a repayment or could sue the seller. I would have your attorney look into that ASAP because something tells me your husband would rather have half of what he sold it for rather than have to repay and possibly face prison for embezzlement.

Thanks, shehawk, devotedman, BB, and. Bigger. It's good to be back (well not really, but you know what I mean, haha).

Bigger, it is indeed a large asset like that. Whether or not the asset is marital is what has been in litigation the past 4 years. He's claiming it is not. I am claiming it is. The judge has yet to rule, and he sold it. He reported the sale to no one. I found out through the grapevine in my community. An online search confirmed the rumor. STBX has never put money into a savings account in his life, so I'm sure the money is split up and "gone" into his various investments and likely mystery "debts." I'll find out soon enough, and things will likely go from bad to worse for him. I can't imagine the judge will take kindly to being completely disregarded in this whole equation. As far as the sale being illegal, I'm not a lawyer, but I can't find anything on the books in my state that says it is; although perhaps that is the ethical issue that has caused his lawyer to quit. We have several other assets that I can be awarded in order to be compensated in the event he has dissipated this one.

Even if this results in another delay, I will remain at peace and believe that this is all happening as it should, and that I will ultimately prevail. I'll just continue to be patient, and as a good friend said a while back, keep giving STBX just enough rope to hang himself with. He never disappoints.

Bleep,
Thanks for the update. You've been on my mind. Glad to hear/read things are progressing and you're doing well.

I love this-

Even if this results in another delay, I will remain at peace and believe that this is all happening as it should, and that I will ultimately prevail. I'll just continue to be patient, and as a good friend said a while back, keep giving STBX just enough rope to hang himself with. He never disappoints.

Can't wait to read about how the judge reacts to hearing this news!!! so crazy and STBX thought he could get away with this.

Any chance you can get an emergency hearing so that your attorney can file an injunction to further prevent him selling more assets?

Thank you for your thoughts, Turtle. Nothing STBX does surprises me.

Ark, we did file for an emergency hearing, and it was denied. All that means was it wasn't heard within 24 hours. We do have a hearing set for next week ref not selling more assets, preventing dissipation of the recent proceeds, and the judge will either grant or deny his lawyer's request to withdraw. It will be a big day, and none of it good for STBX, especially if he has already dissipated the proceeds (it is a significant amount of money, well into six figures). Like I said, I know him; there is no way he has that much money sitting in a savings account. There's no doubt in my mind he has already moved it somewhere.

I'm so anxious, in a good way. I could barely sleep last night. I feel like this whole hearing will be a big reveal of STBX's true nature, to the judge. When your own attorney calls you a liar (that's what "ethical issues" means) and does not want to be associated with you...

[This message edited by WhoTheBleep at 1:05 AM, Friday, June 24th]