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Divorce/Separation :
Selling a house quick

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 Stayinghopefull (original poster member #57957) posted at 4:46 PM on Sunday, October 3rd, 2021

Has anyone that has gone through a D or in the process of a D ever used one of those realtors that will by your house quickly? I don’t want to go through showings etc. I’m ready to sell now and go our separate ways asap. Any advice or help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance

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Found 5 new OW in the past 6 months. Heading towards D.
Two wonderful teen kids that don't deserve this.
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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 1:22 AM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

I have not, but it looks like the housing market is still strong and houses are moving quickly. How much money are you leaving on the table to expedite the sale?

Me: BS 54 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA
Kinda liking my new life :-)

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Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 2:27 AM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

I don't have personal experience but many of those "buy your house quick" companies are quite shady. Be careful.

Me-BS-65 in May<BR />HIM-SAFWH-68<BR />I just wanted a normal life.<BR />Normal trauma would have been appreciated.

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Bigger ( Guide #8354) posted at 11:19 AM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

I second that the housing market is strong. It’s a sellers’ market and properties are spending very little time on the market before being sold. About 2 years ago the average time on market was about 30 days, it’s now down to 18. Rather than settle for some snake-oil salesman find a relator you trust with a proven track-record.

"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus

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BeeBee64 ( member #54718) posted at 12:29 PM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

I agree with Lionne. I suggest going to a reputable realtor and tell them you want to sell quickly. I’m sure they have had such experiences. I understand the desire to get it over with, but in the long term, I suspect you’ll be happier if you spend a little more time and effort on it now to get top dollar.

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grubs ( member #77165) posted at 6:22 PM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

I agree with Lionne. I suggest going to a reputable realtor and tell them you want to sell quickly. I’m sure they have had such experiences.

This. Selling quickly is a function of pricing against the competition. Selling to a sell your house quick buyer will mean you are selling very under market so they can make their money on resale. Some even play games with postponing closing after they have you under contract to make sure they sell it before they own it. If you put it on the market for anywhere close the price they pay the house will sell fast. I sold my first house in 2001 in less than 12 hours. I had already bought my second home so I was pretty motivated at selling.

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The1stWife ( member #58832) posted at 9:02 PM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

If it’s priced right it will sell quickly.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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 Stayinghopefull (original poster member #57957) posted at 9:16 PM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

Thank you all for the advice. It shows how bad I want out of this marriage if I’m willing to lose money in the process. We live in a nice desirable neighborhood, so it’s should sell quick. He’s going out of town on Thursday and comes back Sunday. I’m thinking about renting a storage unit and getting some clutter out of the house while he’s gone and getting it ready for pictures and a realtor to come take a look. Hopefully I can meet with my attorney while he’s gone too. He doesn’t know that I am ready to D. I’m just trying to get my ducks in a row before I tell him.

[This message edited by Stayinghopefull at 9:18 PM, Monday, October 4th]

Joined SI 17 years ago when H had year long affair.
Found 5 new OW in the past 6 months. Heading towards D.
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The1stWife ( member #58832) posted at 9:24 PM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

Good plan. Prepare while he’s away so that there will be less to deal with.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 8:24 AM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

My friend just sold her house in 4 days. She said in our area buyers are so ready to buy that some offers came in with offers of no inspection/no appraisal, some were cash offers from out of state people who already sold their homes, some people attached a letter explaining why they want your home, how it will help their family and how they’ll be good neighbors to your neighbors! shocked

Great idea for you to get as much done while he’s gone!

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Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55

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PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 10:26 AM on Wednesday, October 13th, 2021

I bought a house last Year, with the intent of selling my house quickly. I didn’t retain a realtor to sell. I got a real estate attorney and listed my house for sale by owner. I was able to sell in 3 days after listing.

BS Fwh

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barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 6:16 PM on Wednesday, October 13th, 2021

It shows how bad I want out of this marriage if I’m willing to lose money in the process. We live in a nice desirable neighborhood, so it’s should sell quick.

The housing market is different everywhere... but...

I was recently attempting to buy a house. There were a handful of empty, over-priced houses that were sitting on the market. They were houses that had been purchased at a below-market price, cleaned out (more or less), and put back on the market at a crazy high price.

In contrast, once our divorce was final, xWW wanted to sell the marital home so that she could move in with her boyfriend (they have 6 kids between them, so they wanted a lot of bedrooms). She put the house on the market in Feb 2021 for $30,000 more than the house appraised in May 2019... and then she sold it for $30,000 more than the asking price.

So, yeah, you would be leaving a good deal of money on the table. And... if you are not divorced yet... you could potentially need that money (I'm in serious debt because of all of my legal fees).

Me: BH, age 48
Her: WS, age 45 (multiple EAs and PAs)
D-Day: August 30, 2016

Diagnosed with depression in December 2016, which was primarily caused by my xWW's affair and associated emotional abuse.

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Bigger ( Guide #8354) posted at 6:26 PM on Thursday, October 14th, 2021

When I read your posts I have an issue with the flow…
You are talking about short-sales of your house, renting storage and having pics taken for a realtor and all that… while not having filed for divorce or informed your husband that the marriage is over.

IMHO it’s better to do the divorce in the correct chronological order. Like I doubt you can sell the house while married without his consent. Maybe not even after you file until it’s mutually agreed. Then there is the issue of where to live, what to buy, in whose name…
Do things in the right order and worry about the sale of the house when the time is right for those worries.

"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus

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 Stayinghopefull (original poster member #57957) posted at 1:29 AM on Friday, October 15th, 2021

Thank you all again for the advice. I’m not going to put the house on the market without him knowing. I am just information gathering so I make the best decisions for me and my kids. I’ve talked to my attorney and feel much better about the process and our options depending on what I decide to do.

Joined SI 17 years ago when H had year long affair.
Found 5 new OW in the past 6 months. Heading towards D.
Two wonderful teen kids that don't deserve this.
Me: BS 48 H: WS 50 Together 27 yrs, Married 22 yrs

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countrydirt ( member #55758) posted at 2:26 AM on Friday, October 15th, 2021

I spoke with one of those quick sale realtors. He offered about 40% less than listing price. I spoke to my realtor we bought the house from and it turned out he knew the guy who was trying to "flip" houses in this hot market. The only way they can make money is to buy well below market value.

I went ahead and listed it with my realtor a few weeks ago. The listing just went live on Tuesday. Today (Thursday) we received an offer for the list price minus a big closing cost concession and counter-offered back for basically a full price sale with a pittance of a concession on closing costs. The buyers agreed so I am under contract!

[This message edited by countrydirt at 3:41 AM, Friday, October 15th]

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Married 32 years. DDay1 - June 2016, DDay 2 - April 2017, Final DDay - May 2020. Divorced - January 2021

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maxricomm ( new member #79388) posted at 7:32 PM on Tuesday, October 19th, 2021

We have sold two houses very recently due to deaths. First, we paid for an appraisal by the company that does it for our bank. Each cost $500.

We then called several of these buyers that don't require repairs or clean outs.

We gave each a copy of the appraisal and told them we wanted a 30 day close.

Both properties sold within a week and settled with 30 days at what thought were fair prices.

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Happenedtome2 ( member #68906) posted at 2:04 PM on Saturday, October 23rd, 2021

I don't know where you're located, but we have had 4 homes in our neighborhood (Eastern PA suburb, older neighborhood) sell within the last 6 months. All went for well over asking, 2 were bidding wars. The most recent had sat vacant for almost 10 years and was minimally maintained by the owner (it had been a rental property). It went on the market for $267k and sold for $290k in 3 days. 100% research the market in the area and see how far you can push the market ! Good Luck !

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 Stayinghopefull (original poster member #57957) posted at 8:22 PM on Saturday, October 23rd, 2021

Thank you all for your responses. WH and I are divorcing so I have contacted realtors trying to get the ball rolling. I got some paint today to freshen up the baseboards, etc and packing up some things we don’t need for a while. It is a good market right now so hopefully we can sell quick and at a price we are happy with.

[This message edited by Stayinghopefull at 8:23 PM, Saturday, October 23rd]

Joined SI 17 years ago when H had year long affair.
Found 5 new OW in the past 6 months. Heading towards D.
Two wonderful teen kids that don't deserve this.
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