Newest Member: Betrayed21


Joined SI 17 years ago when H had year long affair.
Found 5 new OW in the past 6 months. Heading towards D.
Two wonderful teen kids that don't deserve this.
Me: BS 48 H: WS 50 Together 27 yrs, Married 22 yrs

Can you put this in a separation/divorce agreement?

I meant to ask my attorney this today but with all the things we had to talk about I forgot so I thought I would reach out here.

Can you put in an agreement that the affair partner or partners in my case to not be allowed to be around the children? I will have physical custody but if my kids choose to go to dinner with stbwxh or come visit him they not I want any of these women around them.

I feel like this is probably not enforceable but just one of those things I was wondering.

17 comments posted: Monday, February 7th, 2022

Any BS moved out of home before D was final?

My attorney advised me to stay in our marital home. However, WH is not moving out. We are going to be trying to sell our house. WH has another OW that he has been talking to on the phone constantly. Just last night they talked to almost 1am. I’m sleeping in our spare bedroom. He’s in our room. I just don’t know if I can continue to live with him. I feel physically sick when he is around. I have gone gray rock on him and not talking to him at all. I’m just enjoying taking care of the kids and spending my time with them. I’m going to ask my attorney about me and my kids moving out before we sell our house but wanted to see if any other BS’s have any advice.

7 comments posted: Sunday, October 24th, 2021

Selling a house quick

Has anyone that has gone through a D or in the process of a D ever used one of those realtors that will by your house quickly? I don’t want to go through showings etc. I’m ready to sell now and go our separate ways asap. Any advice or help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance

17 comments posted: Monday, October 4th, 2021

This decision doesn’t just affect me...

I think what is so hard about deciding it’s time to D is that it doesn’t just affect me, it affects my kids too... if it was just me it would be so easy. I think I’ve sucked things up for so long to keep things normal for my girls. But it don’t think I can do it anymore

[This message edited by Stayinghopefull at 10:22 PM, July 5th (Monday)]

10 comments posted: Monday, July 5th, 2021

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