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 WhoTheBleep (original poster member #49504) posted at 12:05 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Today I get to tell my story. This is what I have been waiting for for 6 years. Trial prep was lengthy, albeit emotional, and went well. I feel ready. I actually slept fairly well last night, for the first time in a week. I'll update when I can.

Can you make a complaint with the state bar association? That his attorneys are making knowingly false statements to the court

BP, this isn't off the table. His attorneys have numerous pieces of discovery, that I have provided them, that disprove their claim. The motion appears sloppy and hastily written. They're clearly throwing things at the wall to see what will stick. In fact the date on a piece of paperwork they are citing is 3 months in the FUTURE. And my current age is off by 4 years. Like what the hell...

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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The1stWife ( member #58832) posted at 1:42 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Keep the faith. Glad you are continuing to move forward and stand up to this jerk.

Sending you strength and support- to both you and your attorney!!!

May he end up looking like the loser he is when this is done. 🙏

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 3:57 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Good luck Bleep!!! I'll be thinking of you!!!

Me: BH, age 48
Her: WS, age 45 (multiple EAs and PAs)
D-Day: August 30, 2016

Diagnosed with depression in December 2016, which was primarily caused by my xWW's affair and associated emotional abuse.

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Chili ( member #35503) posted at 5:36 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Thinking of you.

So glad you are telling you story - long time coming. Hope it gives you some relief to speak your truth.

(Got my dual middle fingers loaded in my holsters too in case they're needed.)

Be kind to yourself the rest of the week - emotional exhaustion and coming down from that self-protection/court mode is a real thing.

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Loving flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

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nothisfriend ( member #53171) posted at 6:41 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Thinking of you and praying that you get the resolution you need and deserve.

Me: BS 50 (at the time)
Him: WH 53 (at the time)
D-Day: 10/25/15
Married: 5/14/1988
One son, age 18 (at the time)
D final 9/13/16

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 WhoTheBleep (original poster member #49504) posted at 7:23 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Argh, continuance. Put off another month. STBX's side attack has created problems with the main case going forward. Can't make this shit up.

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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Chili ( member #35503) posted at 7:25 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Sigh. I was hopeful for you.

Double middle fingers raised in STBX's direction...

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Loving flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

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The1stWife ( member #58832) posted at 7:39 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Gives the STBX more time to further self destruct. 🤣

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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 WhoTheBleep (original poster member #49504) posted at 10:11 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Update!! Small but significant victory. The judge ruled on the side issue which is holding up my case, and found completely in our favor!!

Onward!

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 10:30 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Woohoo!

I'm glad that you have found yourself a small victory.

GO BLEEP GO!!!

Me: BH, age 48
Her: WS, age 45 (multiple EAs and PAs)
D-Day: August 30, 2016

Diagnosed with depression in December 2016, which was primarily caused by my xWW's affair and associated emotional abuse.

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The1stWife ( member #58832) posted at 10:47 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Glad to hear the positive news!!!!

The STBXH is now really going to become unhinged. Be prepared.

He keeps getting beaten down in court. He will have some new tactic - just wait for it.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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Karmafan ( member #53810) posted at 11:02 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Update!! Small but significant victory. The judge ruled on the side issue which is holding up my case, and found completely in our favor!!

Amazing Bleep!

Hopefully this is the last time your WH tries to muddy the waters, and it’s all (relatively) plain sailing from here.

Me 47
XWH Irrelevant
D-day 23 Feb 16
3 amazing, resilient kids

You are not a drop in the Ocean, you are the entire Ocean in a drop

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 WhoTheBleep (original poster member #49504) posted at 4:32 PM on Wednesday, June 30th, 2021

Oh, forgot to mention, a couple of days ago we finally received stbx's latest financial discovery. He's been in his latest "committed" relationship since last Octoberish, and dated her a few months before that. He's still paying for a Bumble subscription every month. And there were one time charges on his credit card for adult friend finder, and a website called "Love to Cheat."

What price for freedom...indeed.

[This message edited by WhoTheBleep at 1:59 PM, June 30th (Wednesday)]

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 9:12 PM on Wednesday, June 30th, 2021

Wow Bleep.

Sending ((virtual hugs))

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thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 12:26 AM on Thursday, July 1st, 2021

Nice to see the court skirmish victory. Get 'em!!

ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman

"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis

As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...

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 WhoTheBleep (original poster member #49504) posted at 11:19 AM on Thursday, July 1st, 2021

Edited very long post.

STBX attorney now demanding records in direct violation of the most recent court order/ bleep victory. How is this guy in practice?

The judge is not going to be happy.

We responded asking for sanctions.

[This message edited by WhoTheBleep at 12:29 PM, July 1st (Thursday)]

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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The1stWife ( member #58832) posted at 8:44 PM on Thursday, July 1st, 2021

Winning!!!!!!! STBX and his attorney are a couple of morons. Glad they found each other.

And I hope you get the sanctions awarded to you!!!!

Just one more blow to the narcs!

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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ArkLaMiss ( member #14918) posted at 9:00 PM on Friday, July 2nd, 2021

Any new updates? Rooting for you!

Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

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barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 2:05 AM on Wednesday, July 7th, 2021

He's been in his latest "committed" relationship since last Octoberish, and dated her a few months before that. He's still paying for a Bumble subscription every month. And there were one time charges on his credit card for adult friend finder, and a website called "Love to Cheat."

On this site, we generally assume that cheating is entirely the fault of the wayward spouse. It's because something is broken in them. This is an important concept because the betrayed spouse has the commonly stupid habit of accepting blame for affairs.

Yeah, really, the cheating had nothing to do with you Bleep.

Is it weird that I fantasize about a reality TV show in which our ex's try to date each other, with all of the dirty details included? What an entertaining shit-show that would be.

Me: BH, age 48
Her: WS, age 45 (multiple EAs and PAs)
D-Day: August 30, 2016

Diagnosed with depression in December 2016, which was primarily caused by my xWW's affair and associated emotional abuse.

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 WhoTheBleep (original poster member #49504) posted at 2:48 AM on Wednesday, July 7th, 2021

Is it weird that I fantasize about a reality TV show in which our ex's try to date each other, with all of the dirty details included? What an entertaining shit-show that would be.

Am I remembering correctly that you are in the vicinity of the Southeastern US? Florida maybe? We can probably arrange that. 😂 I'll bring the popcorn, you bring the beverages.

ArkLaMiss, no new updates. Early August is trial date. I'm gathering more evidence of stbx's shady ways. The delay is definitely proving beneficial. My case is strong and I am feeling more confident.

I've been struggling with a bit of depression the past few weeks. I forced myself to go out and jog a couple of miles this evening. It's hard when random joints hurt for no reason. Feeling every bit of my 47 years! I'm trying to reach out to friends and stay connected. It's helping. Deep breaths...

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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