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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 1:53 PM on Wednesday, August 11th, 2021
She caught me in the hallway today and told me she found an apartment. I am over the moon. Cannot wait for her to move out!
Don't let the door hit 'ya where the good lord split 'ya!
Me-58 FWH-60 Married 40 years 9/2/2023 grown daughters-40&36.14yo GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); 12yo GD & 7yo GD(DD36). D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
totallydumb ( member #66269) posted at 2:12 PM on Wednesday, August 11th, 2021
She caught me in the hallway today and told me she found an apartment. I am over the moon. Cannot wait for her to move out!
As a friend said to me when his WW moved out: "BBB" which he translated to be, Bye Bye Bitch.
If you see your ex with someone else--don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.
ramius ( member #44750) posted at 8:06 AM on Thursday, August 12th, 2021
How many scars have you rationalized because you loved the person who was holding the knife?
Their actions reveal their intentions. Their words conceal them.
TheWrongOne (original poster member #78753) posted at 9:51 PM on Thursday, August 12th, 2021
My STBXW got into a major car wreck this morning. It was not her fault. Another driver sideswiped her and they both went into the barricade along the freeway. She got taken to the hospital and I got called so I went over and checked on her. I just stood there silent, like a dumbass, while they finished patching her up and then I drove us both home. She was not hurt bad, just a few bumps and bruises, but the car is toast.
Not one word to me. She just sat there in the passenger seat and quietly cried. I asked her if she was okay and she just nodded. She wouldn't look at me. She's been upstairs and hasn't said a word. This has been the norm for the last few weeks. Just two ghosts living in the same house. It's tragic really, what we have come to.
Wanttobebetter ( member #72484) posted at 10:12 PM on Thursday, August 12th, 2021
TWO - Despite of what see did, I do wish her a full and speedy recovery.
This has been the norm for the last few weeks. Just two ghosts living in the same house. It's tragic really, what we have come to.
I can't agree more with the above. Take care TWO.
guvensiz ( member #75858) posted at 10:16 PM on Thursday, August 12th, 2021
She's still going to move though, right? Is the date certain?
I wonder if she has the belief that she starts to pay for what she has done?
Wanttobebetter ( member #72484) posted at 10:47 PM on Thursday, August 12th, 2021
I wonder if she has the belief that she starts to pay for what she has done?
I was wondering something similar. At the moment of impact, did she get the 'life flashes before her eyes' thingy and realized what a horrible wife (don't want to say human being) she has become.
I sincerely hope this happened and her self reflection tighten those loose wires in her brain and become a better person, not to get back with TWO but whoever her future partner is going to be.
One can hope.
edited for typo.
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src9043 ( member #75367) posted at 10:59 PM on Thursday, August 12th, 2021
Hmm, she should have called her AP to pick her up. You're a good person and I don't wish your STBXW harm but it's funny when the chips are down who is there to help? You've been through hell like many of us here. I am simply disgusted with waywards.
grubs ( member #77165) posted at 1:21 AM on Friday, August 13th, 2021
She got taken to the hospital and I got called so I went over and checked on her. I just stood there silent, like a dumbass, while they finished patching her up and then I drove us both home. She was not hurt bad, just a few bumps and bruises, but the car is toast.
Not one word to me. She just sat there in the passenger seat and quietly cried.
That's a pretty stark reminder of what she threw away with her inability to be faithful. In a few months, she's not going to have someone to pick her up when she gets knocked down. God know POS AP isn't going to be that person.
Thumos ( member #69668) posted at 1:34 AM on Friday, August 13th, 2021
That's a pretty stark reminder of what she threw away with her inability to be faithful. In a few months, she's not going to have someone to pick her up when she gets knocked down. God know POS AP isn't going to be that person.
This is exactly why she was crying. I hate to be cold, but yet again, it was all about her.
"True character is revealed in the choices a human being makes under pressure. The greater the pressure, the deeper the revelation, the truer the choice to the character's essential nature."
BH: 50, WW: 49 Wed: Feb.'96 DDAY1: 12.20.16 DDAY2: 12.23.19
beb252 ( member #78948) posted at 1:51 AM on Friday, August 13th, 2021
She's thinking that you did all the good things for her and she did all the bad things to you. In the next few weeks, if the same thing happens again, nobody will come pick her up. You won't be her primary caretaker anymore. She will live alone and if something bad happens to her, nothing. Now, reality's coming to bite her. She enjoyed her time with her multiple lovers though, can't say she didn't enjoy them.
BlueRaspberry ( member #76065) posted at 1:55 AM on Friday, August 13th, 2021
TheWrongOne,
Perhaps she is realizing that marriage vows are made "in sickness and in health" and now she's thrown it all away. Her AP won't be there when she is sick, only when she is ready and willing to have sex. That is why she is crying. Too little too late.
Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 2:11 AM on Friday, August 13th, 2021
I’m worried she may have a major about face and try to rekindle the relationship after the cold reality of her situation slapped her in the face after the accident.
I do wish her a swift and complete recovery. Guard yourself.
SnowToArmPits ( member #50943) posted at 2:49 AM on Friday, August 13th, 2021
Not one word to me. She just sat there in the passenger seat and quietly cried.
So no thanks, no appreciation, no trying to make the situation comfortable for you. Just sat there and sulked all the way home.
You might expect a 15 yr old to act that way.
You were a good guy OP helping her out. The shit Waywards dump on their spouses.
guvensiz ( member #75858) posted at 5:16 AM on Friday, August 13th, 2021
By the way, does she say who to call or is the information stored somewhere?
DeWittle ( member #50857) posted at 7:00 AM on Friday, August 13th, 2021
First, I’m glad there were no serious injuries.
Second, it’s time you inform your WW to change her ICE, you should be removed from that list.
Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 7:10 AM on Friday, August 13th, 2021
Hope all is good, she isn’t too banged up. Cars can be replaced, people can’t.
I think your STBX is thinking karma.
ramius ( member #44750) posted at 8:11 AM on Friday, August 13th, 2021
She fired you from husband duty.
Let her cherished memories of her lovers comfort her.
Not your monkey, not your circus.
How many scars have you rationalized because you loved the person who was holding the knife?
Their actions reveal their intentions. Their words conceal them.
Marz ( member #60895) posted at 9:07 AM on Saturday, August 14th, 2021
WishidleftHer ( member #78703) posted at 12:32 PM on Saturday, August 14th, 2021
Why didn't she call the AP instead of you? She should have at least said thank you for being there.
Me: BH 74. Her: WW 70 Dday over 35 years ago and still feels like yesterday.
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