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Heya bud. I know it’s a nauseating roller-coaster ride right now, but I hope you’re all right.

Hi everyone!

Well.. she... is... gone.

She packed up the last of her things and left this afternoon. Before she got in her car she actually came over and gave me a hug and said something to the effect of "I never wanted it to end this way you know."

I put on the best fake serious understanding look on my face and just smiled a sad smile, nodded, and she got in her car and left. Then I just started smiling and I am still smiling.

Congrats! You've earned that smile!

FREEDOM!
She never wanted it to end this way, but all her actions lead up to ending this way.

Congrats on your newfound freedom. I honestly hope your STBXW change her behavior though, but from what I see she'll just find another guy or two or three. I think it's part of her person already. She won't change. The next person she'll be in a relationship with will have similar experiences as you.

All the best!

TheWrongOne,

So, when will the divorce be finalized? That's the day you can really start smiling...

Any day now. Hoping to get the paperwork in the mail very soon. My lawyer said no one can ever predict it.

It is difficult to describe to all of you the absolute bliss I am feeling right now. I have been blasting John Mellencamp and The Ramones all afternoon, playing air-guitar and dancing around the house. I danced with my dog. She took the cat thank gawd. I hated that damned cat. So did the dog.

TheWrongOne,

I once saw the Ramones live in concert. Best band I ever heard in person. Keep rocking!

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I put on the best fake serious understanding look on my face and just smiled a sad smile, nodded, and she got in her car and left. Then I just started smiling and I am still smiling. grin

Well done! As distasteful as it was you chose the path of least resistance and got her out of your home as quickly as possible.

Ok. Gone, no cat, guitar, blasting music...
Man, that was a walk off grand slam.

I have followed your journey from the beginning. I'm really happy for you. Now go live life to the fullest.

As long you are happy and well done.
One day at a time

She packed up the last of her things and left this afternoon. Before she got in her car she actually came over and gave me a hug and said something to the effect of "I never wanted it to end this way you know."

Pretty typical. They all seem to want that final hug.
Her words are bullshit. She would have loved to cake eat more at your expense of course.

Damnit, Marz beat me to the punch. Lines like those from WS's are pretty typical.

"I never wanted it to end this way you know."

I think she was telling the truth. But what she meant was "I never wanted you to find out, so I wouldn't have to change anything in my lifestyle. It was working for me. You went and messed things up."

I wish you the best moving forward in whatever you choose to do.

WrongOne, followed your thread since the beginning and I am so happy for you! My STBXW moves out in 6 days and it feels like an eternity. Wishing you nothing but the best in moving forward and living the life that you want to live!

[This message edited by CM70 at 2:20 PM, Thursday, September 2nd]

After everything you have go e through for all of those years I truly hope you build yourself a wonderful new life out of infidelity and stress.

Good luck and be happy.

Good music choice BTW

I think she was telling the truth. But what she meant was "I never wanted you to find out, so I wouldn't have to change anything in my lifestyle. It was working for me. You went and messed things up."

Poor muffin. No more cake

My STBXWW has known for years that I checked out long ago. I guess when I look at it objectively, I cannot really blame her for being susceptible for another affair. However, I can blame her for making the same stupid decisions she made all those years ago to have an affair rather than coming to me and asking for a divorce and admitting she was not happy being married to me. Ultimately, I think we were never compatible... ever. I often think about how much responsibility for allowing this marriage to stay in a coma for fifteen years instead of just pulling the plug. I allowed myself to be steered against my conscience by others, and I will never allow that to happen again.

TheWrongOne,

You said

Ultimately, I think we were never compatible... ever.

So, you don't think you were compatible even before the first affair? I suppose that makes sense given her extreme selfishness and entitlement. It simply revealed itself in the first affair and how she responded in the aftermath (no true remorse).

I think you've really grown when you state

I allowed myself to be steered against my conscience by others, and I will never allow that to happen again.

These are words to live by. Well done.

Two,

Back at the begining, you said that after the D was final, you would let the OBS know about the A. Is that still your plan. She deserves to know.