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Just Found Out :
My Wife is Cheating and I'm Glad

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smolderingdark ( member #64064) posted at 10:16 PM on Thursday, October 14th, 2021

Sickens me that this woman goes to church nd acts all godly. Blech!

Won't your former wife be looking for a new church at this point? I believe you mentioned the OM and his betrayed wife attend the same church. That the other betrayed spouse would be explosive over her betrayal.

Your ex and her hypocritical behavior will be a well loved joke among the other two faced parishioners.

[This message edited by smolderingdark at 10:16 PM, Thursday, October 14th]

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 TheWrongOne (original poster member #78753) posted at 2:29 AM on Friday, October 15th, 2021

Oh no she goes to a different church now.

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Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 2:41 AM on Friday, October 15th, 2021

Why too many know of her extra marital activities?
One day at a time


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Marz ( member #60895) posted at 3:18 AM on Friday, October 15th, 2021

The gossip wagon will follow her wherever she goes.

I bet daddy is beside himself.

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smolderingdark ( member #64064) posted at 6:14 PM on Sunday, October 24th, 2021


There are likely more interesting times for you ahead.

Should your interactions with the receptionist or any other woman blossom, you will get a reaction from your ex-wife. Sooner or later she will learn of it and she will go ballistic.

Expect that she will probably accuse you of cheating on her. Claim it was because you were having your own affair that you had no interest in reconciliation. She will make whatever nonsensical accusations she thinks have a chance to stick to deflect attention from her own behavior and follies.

Hopefully no news is good news and all is well with you.

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Tigersrule77 ( member #47339) posted at 1:35 PM on Monday, October 25th, 2021

The XWW did reach out to me via a text from someone else's phone over the weekend. "Telling M...'s wife about what we did was not right. Now his marriage is ruined. Hope you feel good about yourself."

If you ever needed any evidence you made the right choice, she provided it.

I'm curious to know why she thinks it was wrong to tell the OBS that her WH was cheating. She should be kept in the dark? This woman deserves to be lied to? You should help conceal the lie from her? Many WS's say things like this, but don't ever explain.

"Now his M is ruined" - as though everything was fine before YOU notified OBS about the A? The two cheating spouses have no responsibility? Again, I'd like to hear a WS defend this stance.

"Hope you feel good about yourself" - As though you should feel bad about telling someone that their WS is a liar and a cheater? For opening their eyes to what is going on? You were honest and told the truth. Why should someone feel bad about that?

You are well rid of her.

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SnowToArmPits ( member #50943) posted at 5:41 AM on Tuesday, October 26th, 2021

Hope you feel good about yourself

I'd feel good about myself :shrug:

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Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 11:20 AM on Tuesday, October 26th, 2021

The XWW did reach out to me via a text from someone else's phone over the weekend. "Telling M...'s wife about what we did was not right. Now his marriage is ruined. Hope you feel good about yourself."

Can I make a suggestion?
Take messages like the one she sent you for what they are: Confirmation that divorce was the only good viable open path for you out of infidelity. The message clearly shows no remorse, no accountability and no regret. There is NO WAY your marriage was reconcilable with that attitude.
However… Do NOT see it as a message you have to reply to.

Your goal isn’t to win her in divorce. Your goal is to get out of infidelity. You know you are there when you feel indifferent to her actions.

You don't want to know she goes to church or even what church. Your goal is that she matters about as much to your daily life as that guy you maybe had lunch with 2x a week in the college canteen back some decades ago but you then lost touch with.

"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus

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ShutterHappy ( member #64318) posted at 10:11 PM on Friday, October 29th, 2021

So I wanted to update and say that I did take that receptionist out for coffee over the weekend and it went really well. We talked for a couple of hours and I am taking her on a real date again this weekend.

Just a general piece of advice, not specifically targeted at you: keep any discussion about your XWW to a minimum. There’s nothing more annoying than a date complaining about his/her X smile

Me: BH
Divorced, remarried.
I plan on living forever. So far so good

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KingofNothing ( member #71775) posted at 10:34 PM on Saturday, October 30th, 2021

Sickens me that this woman goes to church nd acts all godly. Blech!

Somehow, I'm reminded of this little snippet.

For decent church-goin' women,
with their mean, pinched, bitter,
evil faces.

-- William Burroughs, "A Thanksgiving Prayer"

Rex Nihilo, the King of Nothing
“If you’re going through hell, keep going. Just please stop screaming, it’s not good for morale.”
— Winston Churchill

BS 3 DDays/Attempted R, it failed. In a better place

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Tempocontour ( member #65971) posted at 3:07 PM on Sunday, November 14th, 2021

Just wondering about your ex. Was there any fallout from her job?

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leftbroken ( member #53741) posted at 10:20 PM on Monday, November 15th, 2021

I'm curious if the AP is still with his wife or not?

our lives are a novel and we its authors, if you don't like the plot only you can change it.

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TEMPE57 ( member #79570) posted at 4:36 PM on Tuesday, November 16th, 2021

YOU ruined his marriage?! lmao

You made the right decision.

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steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 12:40 PM on Wednesday, November 24th, 2021

How you doing, TWO? Thanksgiving coming up. I found those "family" events pretty difficult originally after DDay and after separation. Hope you're doing well.

BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020

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