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BeginAgain2017 posted 4/20/2021 11:41 AM

Five years ago, I discovered this site. Five years ago my world shattered. Five years ago, this site saved me.

I'm single, I have my kids half the time. I miss them but enjoy my free time. I've learned to live on my own. I can afford it. And I don't make much money. Turns out, his spending habits were irresponsible and selfish (What? A cheater? Irresponsible and selfish?) So, tuck that fear in your back pocket if it's holding you back.

But, this is the kicker... I'm about to live my greatest dream. And it never would've happened if I had stayed married... if none of that had happened five years ago.

You know how people say they want to buy an island in the Bahamas? Just sail away and live there, maybe with some family and a few friends? That's, like, the ultimate dream, but no one actually gets to do it.

Well, it wasn't my ultimate dream. Mine was always to live on some land with horses. And just like most people realized they would never own that Bahamian Island, I never in a million years thought I would own a horse, let alone live somewhere I could keep one.

Five years ago, my world fell apart. I needed something to do to keep myself active so I didn't go crazy on the days I suddenly had free time with no kids. So, I started volunteering at a barn. I started learning how to train horses.

Two years ago, I finally bought my first horse. Then I bought a truck. Then I bought a horse trailer.

Six months ago, I bought a few acres. Next month, a custom made double wide trailer will be delivered and built on it. I'm working on having the pasture fenced right now. I have NO IDEA what I'm doing, but one thing I've learned since my world fell apart is that there are so many kind people out there who are willing to help, willing to answer your questions, and they usually fall right into your lap just when you need them.

This summer, I will move into my new home, and bring my horse home to live with me. I'll get to see him every day. Ride whenever I want. Watch the sunset over the trees and listen to nature instead of the freeway a few blocks away from my old house. My kids will climb trees and catch fireflies, and roast s'mores, and muck stalls (LOL). I will live my ultimate dream.

I did it all on my own, and it never would have happened if my world didn't fall apart five years ago. So, keep your chin up.

Cooley2here posted 4/20/2021 12:15 PM


Lalagirl posted 4/20/2021 12:17 PM

Wow, what an awesome update - thanks so much for sharing and showing how one can not only survive, but totally thrive!

LostOpportunities20 posted 4/20/2021 12:17 PM

I've been going down the depression hole the last few days - seeing this really brightened my day.

May the Divine bless you and your new life BA2017

Karmafan posted 4/20/2021 12:21 PM

This is really inspirational. You meticulously chased your dream and now you get to live it! It doesnít get any better than that

crazyblindsided posted 4/20/2021 12:40 PM

I love this so much! Thanks for sharing it is very inspiring!

Underserving posted 4/20/2021 12:42 PM

Such a great update! Glad you were able to fulfill a life long dream, and do it all on your own. Thatís amazing, and you should be proud! ❤️

survrus posted 4/20/2021 14:41 PM


How can you tell if someone is a horse person, they have a S5,000 pickup pulling a $50,000 horse trailer.

Tanner posted 4/20/2021 18:48 PM

Awesome update, you should be very proud.

Notaboringwife posted 4/20/2021 19:09 PM

You are a guiding light. Thank you for posting.

sisoon posted 4/21/2021 10:27 AM

What great news!

dogcopter posted 4/21/2021 11:10 AM

... I thought for a second you were buying an island lol...

congratualations and thanks for sharing with us.

somanyyears posted 4/21/2021 12:22 PM

..I was waiting for your story to get to the part where you won the Lottery.

Doing it all on your own determination to live your dream is a most admirable accomplishment, especially considering the adverse elements you faced.(emotions, finances, life turned upside down!!)

Congratulations on turning your life right side up!
I have never owned a horse but did go riding a few times at a nearby "Rent-a-Steed" farm. Absolutely fantastic feeling to have that power under my ass!! They didn't let you run or even gallop. They didn't want a law suit if you fell off, but we did get to 'trot'. Just getting on and off was a highlight in the whole experience.

Years ago I concluded that pets deserve to have a companion, so I have to ask.
Are there plans for another horse, to fill up that big trailer??

Happy trails to you..until we meet again.
(Courtesy..Roy Rogers)


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