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It’s not so much you have been seeing someone but it is more of WHO you are seeing that upsets her.

Her HS rival. Now it makes sense. And I agree with your analysis that your serial cheating STBXW doesn’t want anyone else to be interested in you either.

Double standard. How painful.

Awesome update!

BTW, let this be a lesson as to why it’s recommended that a divorcing BS stay away from dating altogether until all the paperwork is done and/or the final decree is signed...just imagine if you hadn’t had your D mostly finalized prior to her meltdown.

Why should Westway put his life on hold for fear of a hummingbird's rage? Let her sputter and spin. She is no longer your concern beyond being a cautionary tale and a source of entertainment.

Why should Westway put his life on hold for fear of a hummingbird's rage? Let her sputter and spin. She is no longer your concern beyond being a cautionary tale and a source of entertainment.

I second this. And I've gotta admit, this is more entertaining than prime-time.

(She was a highschool rival? Makes me wanna look up STBXW's yearbook online and start calling people, lol)

I could watch the karma bus run over cheaters all day if I had a comfy seat and enough popcorn.

Westway, you are past due for a little vindication. I'm glad you got it.

I never said he should put his life on hold, he knew to get what he needed done and in writing before getting involved and he did just that...her reaction is precisely why.

Westway I admire your calm demeanor, I can see your reaction...”You have no power here, hahaha!”

Have your kids seen any of this first hand?

[This message edited by OrdinaryDude at 5:41 AM, November 17th (Tuesday)]

And what makes matters worse is that my STBXWW cannot stand my FWB. They knew each other in high school and were rivals of sorts.

Oh it couldn't get more delish.

Indeed.

Oh this is some good stuff, Westway!

Of course you know your couple-fries-short-of-a-Happy-Meal STBXWW best, but please be careful - I worry about her going bunny boiler on you and/or your FWB.

edited for typo

[This message edited by Lalagirl at 7:13 AM, November 17th (Tuesday)]

99 - you crack me up!! I love your posts.

Makes me wanna look up STBXW's yearbook online and start calling people, lol)

[This message edited by The1stWife at 7:30 AM, November 17th (Tuesday)]

This is good stuff Westway. It’s great you are getting some vindication. I am not surprised. From your WW’s perspective she was always the “Princess”. Spoiled and catered to by her parents, with a BH who doted on her and worked his ass off for the family. She had it all with two great daughters and a stable home and status. But you know, when you are so special, you just know you are entitled to go out and have sex with other men. Why? Because you want to. You are special after all.

Now that she is caught out and getting a D, her children no longer respect her, her BH is “meh” and no longer dotes on her. She realizes that to the men who use her for sex she is just a cheap side piece. You are no longer the “Princess” or special, and when she learns her BH has a FWB who was her H.S. rival it is just too much! “Princess” meet rock bottom!” You did it to yourself.

It simply astonishes me how waywards think that what they do is acceptable, but when it is done to them they freak out and play victim.

Narcissism, Self Absorption, Self-Righteous characterizations, etc.....

And what makes matters worse is that my STBXWW cannot stand my FWB. They knew each other in high school and were rivals of sorts.

Dear God, please tell me this wasn't part of her plans when she found out the two of you were divorcing....

OrdinaryDude

Awesome update!

BTW, let this be a lesson as to why it’s recommended that a divorcing BS stay away from dating altogether until all the paperwork is done and/or the final decree is signed...just imagine if you hadn’t had your D mostly finalized prior to her meltdown.

I wanted to stay celibate dude, but when I saw my STBXWW immediately start hooking up after I moved out, I guess I got childish and wanted my fair shake. My FWB was a gal I had known a bit way back before I got married. We never dated, but the attraction was there. Well I ran into her just a couple weeks after I moved out and one thing led to another. She was available so I went for it, and I'm glad I did. She helped me maintain a sense of masculinity during a time when I was at my lowest. She showed me that I was desirable and marketable as a man, and that was a huge mental boost.

UPDATE:

Well the STBXWW has stopped trying to get hold of me. Yesterday my BIL, her oldest brother, called me and asked "Bro...WTF is going on?" I told him the whole thing and he was like "Ohhh... okay. Well that's not how (STBXWW) spun it."

I guess she tried to spin to her family that I was cheating on her. I asked him if he knew about the line of scrubs making the rounds at her house on the weekends and he told me no. He and his sister don't have much to do with each other, but he is always the one who has to clean up the family messes, so I guess the STBXWW has been trashing me to her family. He wished me well and that was that.

Since then I have gotten no more calls or emails from her. I guess he must have confronted her about all the men she has been sleeping with. I guess if she keeps trying to make me out to be the bad guy I may have to release the eight inch-thick dossier of evidence I have of her sleeping with twelve different men over the past four years to her family. But I will hold off.

Yeah, my ex and his girlfriend celebrated their one-year ANNIVERSARY before our divorce was final. She wasn't an OW (I don't consider her to be, anyway), but my ex was out fucking everyone who'd let him. I wasn't about to not go on dates.

If you're in-house separated, that's dicey IMO - but if you've had separate mailing addresses for a while and the D is in process? Go forth and have fun.

JMHO

SlapNutsABingo

Dear God, please tell me this wasn't part of her plans when she found out the two of you were divorcing....

No no. My FWB never hated my STBXWW, but my STBXWW hated her. Know what I mean? My FWB was the salutatorian of her H.S., in the Honor Society... a real achiever. All my STBXWW had was her looks and bubbly personality, and she always hated women who had real drive and ambition. She is jealous of other women when they have something she wants. Anyway my FWB went steady with a boy in H.S. that my STBXWW liked, but FWB got him first and STBXWW never forgave her for that.

My FWB had no clue that my STBXWW were divorcing when I ran into her. I don't think she had any hidden agenda.

[This message edited by Westway at 9:41 AM, November 17th (Tuesday)]

This all about her entitlement, narcissism and need for control. That’s all it is.

This ridiculous idea that even though you’re separated and have already filed for divorce and aren’t living together that you’re obligated to be “faithful” to a piece of paper that she already dishonored repeatedly and which is about to be null and void.

So crazy. I will never get this.

My WW is constantly on guard against any woman talking to me. I don’t understand the hyper vigilance over something they so casually disregarded before.

[This message edited by Thumos at 11:31 AM, November 17th (Tuesday)]

Would someone please enlighten me about what FWB means???

I have been searching my mind…

Former wayward boyfriend? I’m guessing no…

Friend With Benefits

You should send the stbxw a list of attributes that your FWB has that are better.

Just say this should help you to improve yourself.

No need to thank me

Damnnnnnn marz

Not gonna lie, this thread has been making me laugh for two days. Oh how delicious that this WW is seething because of this. I wish my ex had some bitter rival I could have hooked up with.

So based in your conversation w/ the BIL - he had no idea of his sister’s cheating Habits? I thought some of her family members knew or was that they knew her tendencies prior to being married?

So glad I’d placed my coffee on the table this time...it really could of been deja vu 😂

Sorry i know it’s a serious situation Westway as it’s your life being talked about, but I have to say the humour here in this thread is absolutely brilliant 😂

In the last 2 days it’s the first 1 I come too...😂

I would call your situation POETIC JUSTICE 👏