I just learned a new word this past Sunday. "THOT".
It is what my younger daughter referred to her mom as when we were talking this past weekend. (I get her on the weekends).
I said "THOT? What is that?"
"It means 'That Ho Over There' dad... don't you know anything?" she answered perplexed.
I literally fell of the barstool I was laughing so hard. But then I noticed my daughter wasn't. She looked sad. She's really upset at her mom. And I wish I could help her, but the only one who can help her is currently the same person causing her pain. Poor kid.
I'm going to talk to her therapist about it, because she doesn't seem to be adjusting to the new normal of having divorced parents, and she hasn't processed her anger and her disappointment at her mom yet, because frankly her mom hasn't done anything to change our daughters' perception of her. Both girls are just disgusted with her.
28 comments posted: Tuesday, January 19th, 2021
Well I'll Be Damned! It's Done!
Just got a call from my lawyer. She found out through a contact at the courthouse that the Divorce Decree was signed and is being mailed today! I was told it wouldn't be until after New Years, but Santa came early!
35 comments posted: Thursday, December 3rd, 2020
The Sh*# Hit the Fan
For those of you who don't know my story: WW of twenty years is a serial cheater. The D papers have been filed and we are just waiting for the decree to come back from the court. She continues to live in her house and I moved into a condo. We have been mostly no contact except for text messages regarding our daughters.
Over the past few months I had been in a FWB relationship with a woman I had known for many years. We broke the sexual component of the friendship off a couple weekends ago because we felt ourselves getting too close, and neither of us wanted to get into anything serious. However, we remain friends.
Well, I had kept this FWB relationship secret from everyone except for everyone here on SI, including my daughters. Somehow, I don't know how, my STBXWW found out about my relationship with this woman over this past weekend, and she went through the roof. She called me up Saturday morning crying and screaming and it took me a while to figure out what she was talking about. For a second I was worried that something had happened to my younger daughter who lives full time with her, and then I remembered my daughter was upstairs sleeping. I get her on the weekends.
Anyways I finally figure out she found out about my FWB, and this stupid woman had the audacity to judge me for cheating on her and not staying true to her during the duration of the divorce proceedings.
"How could you do this?!"
"So did you do this for revenge? To hurt me?"
Blah, blah, blah. I asked her how she found out and she wouldn't tell me. Well, I told her I wasn't apologizing and that she had some temerity bitching about me having occasional sex with one woman, while she herself has a revolving door for a vagina. She sees men on the weekends when I have my daughter and I haven't made a fuss.
I eventually blocked her cold off my phone and have been ignoring her, but she is still trying to get at me. I'm assuming at some point she will show up here at my condo, at which point I may call the cops.
It simply astonishes me how waywards think that what they do is acceptable, but when it is done to them they freak out and play victim. It's rather laughable.
68 comments posted: Monday, November 16th, 2020
Has your Soon To Be Ex- Spouse Gotten Fugly?
I had to talk to my STBXWW this past Saturday, and I was struck immediately at how she is no longer attractive anymore. I had not seen her in person for over two months up until the other day, and I noticed that all the things I once sort of adored about her looks are now just ugly to me: her enormous butt that I used to call "plump"; her Roman nose which I always found attractive, which now makes her look like a buzzard.
It's bizarre. I went home asking myself: "How the hell did I ever find this woman attractive?"
Anyone else experience this?
36 comments posted: Monday, September 21st, 2020
Future Wedding Panic
Posted: 11:56 AM, September 2nd (Wednesday), 2020
I thought I would share a funny story with you all.
I'm separated from my STBXWW and awaiting the divorce decree to come through. This past weekend my daughter who attends a nearby university came to town to visit and spent last Friday night with me. While we were hanging out in my condo, my daughters were watching some TV show on weddings, and my older daughter was really into the show, and making comments about the bride's dresses and such.
As I was walking by I asked her "Why are you watching that? You aren't getting married." To which she replied "Yeah, but I'm already starting to plan my wedding when I do have it one day."
I walked into my office leaving the girls out there and was working on a project when the most horrifying thought struck me: I am the father of two girls... two future brides. Which means I will be paying for the weddings, which means I will have to be dealing with their mother! Oh God! My STBXWW as Mother of the Bride! Oh God! I have to deal with this psychopath when our daughters both marry? Oh God!
I spent that whole afternoon in a long, drawn out panic attack.
To make matters worse, my STBXWW is a wedding planner and caterer, so she's going to be doubly a bitch during the whole process. And I have to do this twice...
[This message edited by Westway at 1:33 PM, September 2nd (Wednesday)]
24 comments posted: Wednesday, September 2nd, 2020
What is Wrong With Being By Yourself?
I am waiting for my divorce to go through, and I have many people asking me if I ever plan to remarry. Well, no. I don't have any immediate plans to remarry. It seems like there are so many people who hate to see me living by myself. I am actually really liking being a bachelor for the first time in 22 years. I have my own condo now, I have outfitted it the way I like, I have my daughters to get through high school and college, and I'm diving back into old passions that keep me very busy. I have no time to be lonely.
I was just wondering if any of you are hounded by well-meaning friends and family to get back in the saddle and start dating, when all you want to do is chill and enjoy concentrating on yourself?
20 comments posted: Friday, July 24th, 2020