Topic is Sleeping.
NeverTwice (original poster member #74421) posted at 8:15 PM on Tuesday, August 4th, 2020
My first date in almost 35 years. I am excited but nervous as I can be!
Went to a friend's home this weekend and hung out at their pool. And met their neighbor :-)
And she is SO pretty - not sure what she sees in me. But I am not going to argue! I think it is time to go shopping.
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Wish me luck!!!
"Solid boundaries discourage trespassing." - Shirley Glass
HalfTime2017 ( member #64366) posted at 8:41 PM on Tuesday, August 4th, 2020
Awesome man!!! Get out there and have fun. Keep it simple and let it flow. Pretty ladies need company too! LOL
NeverTwice (original poster member #74421) posted at 3:38 PM on Wednesday, August 5th, 2020
HalfTime,
Pretty ladies need company too!
Yes we do!!!
"Solid boundaries discourage trespassing." - Shirley Glass
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 4:42 PM on Wednesday, August 5th, 2020
Nice!! I hope you have a wonderful time with pretty pool lady. Are you going shopping for a fun new outfit?
newlife03 ( member #56527) posted at 5:19 PM on Wednesday, August 5th, 2020
Me - 50
Kids 25, 22, 18
1st DDay in 2006, 2nd in 2007
D in 2009
Happily Committed to SO since 2011
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 5:25 PM on Wednesday, August 5th, 2020
Have a fantastic time! So exciting!
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 8:43 PM on Wednesday, August 5th, 2020
HOW EXCITING! I am so happy for you.
Do you know what you are going to do for your date?
And she is SO pretty - not sure what she sees in me
STOP IT. You go on this date KNOWING you have a lot of things to offer in your NB!!!! Don't you dare go on a date sniffing of "what would you ever see in meeeee".
Have a great time and let us know how it goes!!!
HalfTime2017 ( member #64366) posted at 10:07 PM on Wednesday, August 5th, 2020
NeverTwice, I am sorry, didn't mean to offend you. 
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 11:21 PM on Wednesday, August 5th, 2020
This is exciting!! Have fun shopping for a cute new outfit! I swear, we BS's have way more fun in our new beginnings than the waywards do. Woo hooooo!
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I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
NeverTwice (original poster member #74421) posted at 5:31 PM on Thursday, August 6th, 2020
HalfTime,
You did NOT offend me in the slightest!! I thank you for your encouragement!!!! You would have no way to know my gender from my user name :-)
JanaGreen
Are you going shopping for a fun new outfit?
I definitely am! Found a cute pair of capris yesterday. Now to find the perfect top to match!
EvenKeel,
Do you know what you are going to do for your date?
Yes - we are going out for dinner and a few cocktails. See where things go from there. And thanks - I know I still have a lot to offer someone - I clean up pretty good :-)
Everyone else!
Thank you all so much! I will definitely report in on Saturday!
"Solid boundaries discourage trespassing." - Shirley Glass
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 2:53 PM on Friday, August 7th, 2020
Today is the day!
Yes - we are going out for dinner and a few cocktails.
Dating is extra challenging right now in so many areas due to Covid restrictions so I didn't know if you had to do something unconventional.
Hope you have a nice time tonight.
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 6:56 PM on Saturday, August 8th, 2020
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 7:40 PM on Saturday, August 8th, 2020
How did it go?????? Inquiring minds are dying to know. 
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
NeverTwice (original poster member #74421) posted at 8:55 PM on Saturday, August 8th, 2020
OK - post date breakdown.
First - I had a wonderful time! She has obviously been picking our mutual friend's brain - she had reservations at my absolute favorite restaurant.
And we have a whole lot in common right down to losing a long term partner in the past year. Both have 2 adult children. She divorced her husband when she finally had the courage to come out and her long term partner passed away last year.
After dinner we went to a local park and wound up talking until the park closed. Then she drove me home, kissed me goodnight and asked if I wanted to see her again!
So all in all - a solid 10/10 would recommend! We are going to the farmer's market market tomorrow and I am going to cook her dinner.
Thanks everyone!!! Your kind words and encouragement mean a LOT to me.
"Solid boundaries discourage trespassing." - Shirley Glass
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 11:19 PM on Saturday, August 8th, 2020
Well holy crap, that sounds like the perfect date!!! Aaahhhhh!!!
I know we're not supposed to get ahead of ourselves, but I'm excited for you. She is obviously interested enough that she wanted to make a really good impression. And it sounds like she did.
I'll be looking for updates
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I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 3:18 AM on Sunday, August 9th, 2020
Good for you, NT. Enjoy your Sunday together.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 4:51 AM on Sunday, August 9th, 2020
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 2:49 PM on Sunday, August 9th, 2020
NT.
Sounds wonderful. Celebrate yourself, you are obviously fullY together.
I have just started dating after 30 years too. It is so different. It sounds like there is great potential between you.
Please keep us posted. I’d like to see how things go. And Pls share dating tips. I always feel like I don’t know what I am doing.
I haven’t kissed anyone other than my stbxh in Over 28 years.
I am a bit afraid I will cry. Me, not as together, way to go!
NeverTwice (original poster member #74421) posted at 4:55 PM on Sunday, August 9th, 2020
Who the bleep,
Well holy crap, that sounds like the perfect date!!! Aaahhhhh!!!
It was a great first date. And there is definitely a little spark there. But I am going to take things slowly. And thanks!!!
thebighurt,
Enjoy your Sunday together.
We will! Thank you!
tallgirl,
I have just started dating after 30 years too. It is so different. It sounds like there is great potential between you.
Please keep us posted. I’d like to see how things go. And Pls share dating tips. I always feel like I don’t know what I am doing.
I haven’t kissed anyone other than my stbxh in Over 28 years.
Scary isn't it? And the best advice I have gotten was from the grief therapist. She told me to only start dating when I was 100% comfortable in my own skin. This whole thing happened organically and when I was not really looking for a date necessarily. But I am super glad I did.
She is smart, pretty and makes me laugh. What more could I ask in a first date! We were talking last night and, in the interest of 100% transparency, I did tell her that a part of my heart will always belong to my late husband. And, thank goodness, she understood what I meant immediately. It is nice to connect with someone on multiple levels like that.
And you will do just fine - go do you and I guarantee that someone is gonna find that hella attractive.
"Solid boundaries discourage trespassing." - Shirley Glass
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 10:54 AM on Sunday, August 23rd, 2020
NeverTwice
How are things going?
Topic is Sleeping.
