Well hey. It's been a hot minute. I kinda stopped coming around because I found that being here was sort of slowing down my healing and moving on. it was keeping wounds open and I really, really needed them to heal.
Which, tbh, I think they have. A lot.
The ex moved out this last summer. She pissed and moaned and whined about it, made a bunch of demands that had no teeth, and then just... pissed off. We have the kids pretty much exactly 50/50, which is what I wanted. If we don't count school hours, i have them more. If we DO count school hours... I still have them more, but not by much.
My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half now. I've been waiting for the honeymoon phase to peter out and go away, for the whole 'new person' smell to fade, and frankly, it hasn't. We've both seen each other at our worst 9sickest, most distraught, etc etc,) and neither of us is shying away. She asked me to marry her early this month, and I said yes. Her kids and mine get along super well, my mom and siblings love her, my kids love her, it's great. Best of all, our morals and wants in life are lined up. We've set the wedding out into late 2023, so we will have been together for about three and a half years before everything is set in nuptial stone, so there's that.
I haven't -really- written since November of 2019, and I am working on that. I want to write again, but now I have six kids in the house (my oldest turned 18 and has moved out, leaving me with four, but my fiancee has two kids) and my part time job is requiring closer to full time hours, so i don't have a -ton- of time to do so. I am remodeling my house, rebuilding my workshop, and getting everything all set up for being able to cruise into the future with a brighter outlook.
Anyways, I really hope that the last while has been kind to everyone here. I don't know how frequent I'll be, but I am glad that I was able to come here when I needed it the most. You guys are the best, and you all deserve the best.