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I Can Relate :
Betrayed Menz Thread - Part 34

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WearingTheHorns ( member #37916) posted at 12:27 PM on Wednesday, April 19th, 2023

Why by cracky back in my day the menz group was....

I remember those days tred. I pop in on rare occasion too. I'd like to think it's not as hopping as it used to because there's not as much need for it, but unfortunately I doubt that.

So here I am a little over 10 years out and I've noticed something recently. Her A's don't seem to come to mind every day anymore. I don't know if it's that I've reached some kind of milestone, or if it's due to work being a shit show the last two months straight. There are still those times, and some of them are intense, but it doesn't seem to be every day anymore. Hopefully it's a step in the right direction. I guess time will tell.

I hope everyone is well.

Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months
Hoped I'd never have to add this: Dday #2 11/22/2015 Not sure how far it went yet but have a pretty good idea.

2 Cor. 12:9-10

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steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 2:22 AM on Thursday, May 18th, 2023

Just checking back in. Seems the comments have stalled out on page 50 of part 34. Hope everyone is doing well and those newer to the shit show are improving. Keep your chins up and marching forward.

BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020

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JasonCh ( member #80102) posted at 1:03 PM on Thursday, May 18th, 2023

I will raise my hand as a newbie. Trying to hang in there. Divorce was final in March. The hole that opened up as part of that seems much larger than i expected. The interactions now are very limited and consist of getting the house on the market and her following through on her obligations laid out in the decree. While it seems like the hand i have dealt is standard fare her hand seems to be filled with victim cards. It is tiring.

In news not related to 'the thing' we have skipped over spring and are getting to head right into summer. Rhubarb is plentiful (which nobody seems to know what to do with) and the mushrooms have started appearing in the woods.

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:12 PM on Thursday, May 18th, 2023

It's common for WSes to see themselves as Victims in big Drama Triangles (searchable). IMO, they Victimized themselves by cheating and don't like the consequences.

I also think it's normal for BSes to have a lot of feelings after D; if you thought you had a good M, you suffered a big loss.

Off SI's main topic: in the runup to the First Opium War (1839-1840), the Chinese thought they would have the upper hand because they thought the Brits could not live without Chinese rhubarb.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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JasonCh ( member #80102) posted at 10:22 PM on Thursday, May 18th, 2023

Thanks for the smile Sisoon. Some might say the Brits were already in decline at that time. Rhubarb may have saved them.

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:42 PM on Friday, May 19th, 2023

laugh

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 12:41 AM on Thursday, May 25th, 2023

That post about Mt. St. Helens brought back some memories, WTH. On vacation with the daughters. Sprung a rad leak at Dry Falls, Washington. Emptied the pepper into the rad. Limped to a campground close to Mt. St. Helens on the July 4th weekend. The starter quit working when hot. Went into the little town close by (I forget the name) for the July 4th parade and celebration. New starter there on July 5th or so and then south to a bigger town to get a rad repair the next day. One of the towns was Longview but I don't remember which one. The town we went to on July 4th had a flood from the melt that ranged down the creek through the town from St. Helens.

You know the things the kids remember are the adventures and unplanned events. Good times, those. Spent a month on the Oregon coast that year. What a vacation!

BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020

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wincing_at_light ( member #14393) posted at 4:08 AM on Friday, May 26th, 2023

Here's my semi-annual check-in that I'm not dead (and my contribution to Part 34 -- don't forget the damned clock.)

Still love all you guys.

You can't beat the Axis if you get VD

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JasonCh ( member #80102) posted at 3:09 PM on Friday, May 26th, 2023

You know the things the kids remember are the adventures and unplanned events. Good times, those. Spent a month on the Oregon coast that year. What a vacation!

The best destination is always the adventure.

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