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What goes on in that brain of yours?

You posted something knowning I'd see it.

"I'm greatful for the past, future and especially the present. I'm grateful for all the people I've met. I'm especially greatful for all the hardships. I'm especially greatful "it" has brought all of you to my side."

I don't know if "it" is the OMs child or something else. Regardless, you're greatful? Fuck you. You show your thanks for all we've been through by getting pregnant by a different man in our own bed? By lying to me every day for months? By causing me all this pain? By ruining my life? Wasting my time? I walk away from this with absolutely nothing.

Whether you're truly "greatful", sad and seeking attention, or just trying to get a reaction from me... fuck you. If you were capable of remorse you wouldn't be posting that shit.

Seeing that picture of you has fucked up my progress though. You smiled but werent smiling like you usually do. I miss you and want to message you. I couldn't sleep that night and work sucked as a result. Mission accomplished, you got a reaction from me. But I know messaging you is poison to me. So I won't. Even though i want to know how you are, and even though i want to yell at you.

Idiot

First email in several years and it concerns your mother's serious health issues and you make it passive aggressive.

What an asshole.

But I did get a chuckle when I realized that you had no idea I have a relationship with your family. I talk to your mom every week and several weeks ago, we each drove 2 1/2 hours and met for lunch half way. I guess your mom didnt tell you that.

You wanted me to let the kids know their grandmother was ill. First, they already knew since they too have a relationship with your family.

Second, TELL THEM YOURSELF. Use this opportunity to contact them. It could open a door to a relationship with them.

Quit feeling so sorry for yourself and contact your kids!

Is your precious ego more important than a relationship with your kids?

Start listening to your heart instead of your so called "friends".

[This message edited by hcsv at 1:52 PM, July 21st (Sunday)]

Ohhhh do I need this thread right now!!! In answer to your last text, to which I will NOT respond by the way:

"Also what do you hope to accomplish with going to trial????"

I hope to acquire child support, alimony, and half of our marital assets. (I outearned you every year until 2017. Not that that even matters. If I was a stay-at-home mom I would still get all of the above.)

"Why are you so adamant about trying to get "what you are entitled to" or what your lawyer convinced you, she thinks you are entitled to."

Because whereas YOU never behaved as if you had a wife at home, the law will most definitely see it otherwise. Oh, and I guess I'm kind of weird in that I don't want to walk away from half a million dollars in assets, giving it to the man who stabbed me in the back for 17 years. I'm just funny that way.

"I made life changing decisions based on our verbal agreements"

Did you actually just type that? Every life changing decision I have made since 1998, has been based on your treachery and lies. Getting married, buying a house together, conceiving and birthing three children, buying two investment properties together, retiring from my job, etc etc etc.

The fact we can't even talk shows how much the trial is going to cost 30-50k each on top of what we have spent plus the lawyers have us right where they want not talking.

No, that, in fact, is me gray rocking you. And thanks to us not talking, I have more peace in my life than I have had in 20 years.

"I will continue to trust God and do good"

You think giving $1,000 a month to your quack church (while not paying child support mind you) means you are "doing good". You think by ending every email to me with a passive-aggressive "Have a blessed day" after insulting me and name calling, that you are a good man. Hahahaaaaaa!!!!

Hopefully we will be able to to move on and put this behind us sooner than later.

Finally!! Something you said that I can agree with!!

Have a blessed day, asshole.

[This message edited by WhoTheBleep at 12:51 PM, July 24th (Wednesday)]

And now you're sending me Bible verses??? About how evil I am because I'm suing you for half of our assets? And child support??

This from the same Cluster B douchebag who said our 5yo daughter had a demon inside her because she was conceived during active adultery. Bahahahaaa!!! YOU are the reason people hate "Bible thumpers." I bet you think homosexuality is an "abomination" too. Didn't stop you from soliciting a woman with a PENIS on Craigslist!! You fucking hypocrite. By the way, does your girlfriend know about that one?

OMG I hate you. I really really really hate you. Just disappear. Seriously, disappear. Where is a giant sinkhole when you need one...

You bring NOTHING healthy or positive to the universe.

And after telling me I'm evil, you once again tell me to "have a blessed day.". Let me tell you, it's been blessed every single day since I left YOU.

Bumping for D/S newbies.

My God I hate you so bad! And I feel sorry for you at the same time! you are ruining what little chance you are going to have with your older two children because of this little trip you're taking to come and see the youngest and then not communicating with them at all..... All that tells them is that they are not important to you anymore. What a complete Asshole! They are just teenagers and like me, are still in shock that this is actually happening!

[This message edited by MultiplePain at 8:40 AM, August 4th (Sunday)]

When you know how important it was to your son to stay and spend time with him why did you leave? He asked you to stay and you have him some lame excuse that everyone knew was lame. I know you love him so why didn’t you care? I so wanted to like oibtto you that he was hurt....but you have your own set of eyes and ears. I so wanted to pull you aside and tell you to stay....but you Make your own decisions. I so wanted to tell you how ridiculous and feeble your excuse was for leaving....but you already know it is. I let you be a dumb ass and hurt your son’s feelings because I am not responsible for you. I can’t change you and I realize: you left because you wanted to (that simple. that’s you. You can’t see past yourself even when you hurt someone you love

I won’t ask you why you left...I won’t tell you that you should not have...I won’t point out how much you hurt him. I will never understand the things you do

I will not send it. I will not!

But- so nice you are supporting (name) and her travel video on tv, must have been hard for her fucking all those people to raise money for the trip. (Yes, she is a hooker)

I like to travel, but could never afford it. And I’m probably as interesting but we never knew as I never got support for anything.

Guess the fake titties did it. Darn, I missed out.

Enjoy your evening supporting the hooker with fake boobs who has all this because you took so much away from your wife md family.

I regret answering that message.

I regret planning on having lunch with you today.

You've disappointed me again. And now you've made me feel like I was to be the OM to your and his relationship.

So when you told me you were late because you two argued I said "Forget it, if you're still in a relationship with him then we can't have any contact".

Fuck him. I'd love to be the reason he feels pain. But I refuse to be the OM.

It's fucked me up real bad again. Thanks. Hope you got your fix. I now realize when I can't get what I need from you I get it from alcohol. Apparently there's some link between you and that craving.

I’m annoyed tonight. And in “overthinking” mode. Last night, I had backslid before receiving a message from the universe that really hit home and put me back on track. But before that happened, I had invited you to stay the night in the guest room since our dog-child is so sick. You asked if I really wanted you to stay and I said I was good either way. And then you sat there for a moment, and started packing saying it would be “weird” to stay here with me. I mean, I’m glad you didn’t stay... but that comment really throws me. That you asked if I needed you, then so quickly went the other direction. Like.. isn’t it “weird” to stay in a shitty tiny apartment with the OW that you have been with for a few months, not being in the home with your wife of 13 years, partner for 17? I think THAT is weird. I think YOU are weird. And gross. And a horrible human. Ugh. Go have your fun. I won’t be waiting around for you.

You're such a little turd.

You missed another event. Your daughter was incredible and the rave reviews following were so encouraging and complimentary.

But you didnt even know about it.

Because you dont have a relationship with your kids, you arent even aware of these special times in their lives.

I told her that I was sorry her father wasn't there.

But privately, I thought to myself, if we were still married and you were still working here, you probably wouldnt have been there anyway. You probably would have chosen work because what she was doing just wasnt important as work. Even for an hour.

Nothing was ever as important as work, was it?

[This message edited by hcsv at 6:03 PM, August 10th (Saturday)]

You are thinking of what you are entitled to according to the law instead of thinking of what is best for your children.

Well 2 can play that game – I can stop being available to have the children morning and evening in my place when is your turn since you cannot pick them up in time – and if you really insist on wanting money for the house, then we can sell it.

It has a huge mortgage on and I will struggle to pay as it is, let alone if I have to give you some money on top.

I will go to live as far as I can, children will have to change school and you will be in the shit to pick them up and bring them back. How about this?

Also I might just slip and tell the layer about the accounts you have in your home country – yes you put your father on them, but I know those are really your money, not his. Let's shake that tree and see what comes out - after all 50% of that is mine!

You are the definition of an assh@le – but I can learn from you. I am only sorry for my children, but perhaps it is best if you have as little contact as possible with them.

You can have this one, you piece of shit. Don't worry, I'll be a lot better off financially in a few months after our trial.

Thank you, in advance, for all of the checks you are going to be writing me.

For the love of God, move on with your life. You have no idea what goes on in my house. And you never will. Get the fuck over it.

ugh

Bump

about three months now since dday. she is still seeing him. i have moved out. filing for divorce. no interest in getting back with her, despite having two kids (who i see very regularly).

but boy do i feel sorry for her. i shouldn't. she has discarded me like a piece of trash. no remorse. no shame. full of smirks and hollowness.

but yes, i feel deeply sorry and worried for her. she has lost so much. she's gone from a stable middle class family with the love and support of two families to a single mum, taking a massive financial hit and with just a few close friends. i just feel for her. sick, i know. i just worry that she's never going to overcome her narcissism and will get older and bitter and angry and alone.

me however feel quite excited about the future wihtout her. i still miss "my family" and all that entails, but i can see her so clearly now that i wouldn't want her back.

do you get this feeling sad for the abuser? feeling guilt for letting them go? worry for them?

in some way the best outcome is the POSOM turns out to be a good un and they live happily ever after (Freeing me up to do the same).