Me: BW 37
Him: XWH 37
D-Day 6/7/2019, trickle-truth for 2 weeks revealed serial cheating dating back to before marriage.
Kicked out WH 6/27/19
Divorce (freedom) date: 12/31/19
I made a podcast... I’d love to hear what you all think
Hi guys! Part of my new beginning has included finding ways to help people who have been through experiences similar to mine... I think a great path to healing is to share your story and try to help others through that.
So I have collaborated with a very good friend of mine (she is also an XBS), and we have created our “baby.” It’s a podcast called First Wives Pod (available on Apple and Spotify), and we talk about our experiences of being betrayed, going through divorce, and look forward to sharing our paths to healing and building our new lives. We just launched our first episode with many more to come! I’m really proud of the work we’ve done, so I asked for permission to share it here in the hopes that maybe someone that needs to hear it, can listen. This group helped me through some really dark times, and I’m simply hoping to do the same for someone else through something I have a lot of passion for. If even one person finds it useful to listen... well, I’d be delighted. If you want to check it out, the link is below. Thanks, and much love :)
13 comments posted: Tuesday, November 10th, 2020
It’s been awhile... happiness update!
It’s been awhile since I posted here... it’s been about 15 months since my XWH moved out, about 9 months since the divorce was final. While I appreciated the support I got here and it helped me through some of the most difficult moments of my life, I got to a point where I needed to get off my computer and start growing my life through real experiences and new friendships. I have spent the last year really exploring myself and working to develop a life that makes me happy with or without a partner. And I have been thriving! Hot air balloon rides, trips with my mom, trips with girlfriends, exploring new career opportunities... just a few of the things that have been going on :)
In April, during quarantine, I decided to go on a dating site just to see what people were doing. I was feeling a bit lonely after three months alone in my home, and I was curious what was out there. I talked to a few people, but one stood out. This man seemed genuine, had a lot in common with me, and appeared to be looking for the same things in life and relationships. So I decided to take a chance and allow a few socially distant dates. Well, fast forward about 5 months, and I think I may have found a REALLY good one! He is kind, empathetic, caring, fun, a great dad, a healthy communicator. He comes up with creative and spectacular date ideas, in a time where dating is challenging with a pandemic. We’ve gone to drive in movies, spent a lot of time on the lake, refurbished vintage bikes together, and gone camping on a remote beach. He has met my family, and I have met his. I’ve even met his children, which was an honor (he has been divorced for two years and has never introduced his kids to a dating partner).
So... long story long... I am in love! And I’m happy! I’m still a little cautious and always know that if something changes, I am really happy being on my own, but I am hopeful for the future with this man.
I was just thinking about this place today, and how the people here helped me so much when I was in such a dark place... and I thought maybe an update was in order. I’m thankful for the part this group played in my healing journey. Much love! Xoxo
7 comments posted: Tuesday, September 15th, 2020