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Thank you all. I appreciate all of you. Got many things accomplished today. Until I do some other things I don't feel comfortable disclosing. But I will update everyone tomorrow.

Thank you all. I appreciate all of you. Got many things accomplished today. Until I do some other things I don't feel comfortable disclosing. But I will update everyone tomorrow.

Good to hear!

Don't disclose anything here that may put in jeopardy the safety and sanity of you and your family. I can speak for myself but I think it is a sentiment echoed by others, we are pulling for you to make sure that you are able to keep your kids and yourself safe from this monster, no matter what that looks like. I think it is normal human nature to worry when we don't see you for a couple days because those of us on the outside realize how dangerous your WH can be. Strength and hugs to you and your family. Stay safe!

How are you doing, KB? We're all pulling for you!

Kb, are you ok? Let us know. Worried about you.

Hey guys we are doing pretty good. I apologize for not checking in last night. I've been unsure what WH can see/hear so I've been staying off that phone. I'm on a tablet now that WH has no access to and have ordered a new phone.

The past week or so has been crazy but I got some things accomplished too. Wednesday DCS did their follow up. I told them everything that had been happening. They advised not to do calls/visits with kids and WH due to all the bizarre things he's been doing. They are going to recommend a mental evaluation and drug screen.

Wednesday evening the neighbors boyfriend messaged me again. Im going to call her H to make it less confusing. I asked him if what he said about WH and H was true. He said it was. His story is that sunday night he and H were hanging out at her house. WH and a friend showed up at her house (literally across from my house!) at 3am. H said she was taking her dog to the vet. He questioned that bc it was 3am of course. They got into an argument and she left with WH and the friend. She was gone all day and finally came back. They argued again. She kicked him out and he used her phone to call a ride bc his was dead and saw messages between WH and H that told him theyre messing around and hes paying her tonspy on me. That grosses me out so bad. And pisses me off about the spying. If you knew this girl.... I have tried to be nice to her and helped her many times. This boyfriend was probably number 5 since we moved here in may. She's on drugs. Doesn't have her kids. People in and out of her home constantly. Just a lot of bad.

Thursday I officially signed the final draft of divorce papers. My attorney asked for full complete custody to me. She put in the papers WH has been stalking and harassing me and manipulating the children. Also I made an official fraud report and police report for the PlayStation charges. It was definitely no coincidence and I have proof. The day I woke up to the charges the H messaged me asking if I wanted to buy a PlayStation, and WH said he'd pay for it. How convenient. Sounds like someone is trying to cover tracks to me. but I have more factual proof he was involved than that and put it in the police report.

I did not send the kids today. Mil messaged my mom this morning and my mom told her kids are staying home. She just said ok. that "motion for contempt" I sent 2 weeks ago was finally delivered this morning. Pointless now bc the court date listed has passed. But I haven't heard a word from WH since Thursday. So he must know something. Thank you guys for being so supportive. I really appreciate it and will keep updating. Oh I also changed my router login info with the company, so that's another positive.

[This message edited by Kb82 at 4:20 AM, Sunday, February 26th]

KB, again I'm sorry your dealing with so much crazy :( It sounds like you're making some progress with all this, and that's good, I hope the police finally put him in jail where he belongs. Sending hugs your way.

Wow, KB. Your ex is really losing it! I hope that your lawyer can get you full custody! Is your husband still working and contributing to the bills? Also, can your attorney file restraining orders against the inlaws on your children's behalf? Please stay safe. He WILL ramp up, I promise! Let us know how you're doing.

Hoping all is okay.

KB

Hope all is well with you!

Hi guys, sorry I haven't checked in lately. I have been busy with things. We are doing pretty well. Tomorrow is our court date and I am very nervous. If you guys could say a little prayer I'd appreciate it. I will update tomorrow evening with how it went. Thanks for your continued support.

Best of luck in court, KB!

Hi guys, today went really well in court. WH has supervised only visits now. By a third party, not his family. He actually offered that which kind of surprised me. My lawyer thinks he has been shooting up. He had sepsis in his arm which he claimed he had from a tattoo. She thinks its shooting up. I'm making a referral to dcs at her advice. That makes me look back and question so many things over my marriage.
It makes me think what i found was only a tiny part of his secret life. Divorce papers were officially served to him today. All in all today was a great day for us. Kids are safe and happy. Thank you all for your continued support.

Thank you for the update, KB! I am glad it was a good one. It seems like you are starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Excellent update.

Your attorney can ask the court to order random drug testing.

Hi guys, today went really well in court. WH has supervised only visits now. By a third party, not his family. He actually offered that which kind of surprised me. My lawyer thinks he has been shooting up. He had sepsis in his arm which he claimed he had from a tattoo. She thinks its shooting up. I'm making a referral to dcs at her advice. That makes me look back and question so many things over my marriage.
It makes me think what i found was only a tiny part of his secret life. Divorce papers were officially served to him today. All in all today was a great day for us. Kids are safe and happy. Thank you all for your continued support.

I know this is a tough situation for you and your update today put a smile on my face of just how far you've come in your time here. I know that is isn't a happy time to split up the family, but I'm so glad to hear that you are putting yourself and the kids first and staying the path. Take care of yourself and those babies. I hope that now that there is some semblance of order established that the crazy will settle down for you guys.

Good stuff. Hopefully, the real crazy-making days are in the past. Even more hopeful, is the divorce goes smoothly, and your EXWH can get his act together...and be a productive parent.

KB, have you heard from him since court or having him served? Please stay safe!

Hi guys, the kids and I went and had some fun yesterday with a friend and her children that came in town to visit. We had a blast. It was good to get out! I have not heard from WH since the court date. My MiL sent a text to the old phone that read:

"Hi K this is J. Have the kids call their dad. It doesn't matter how you feel about him, but he is their dad and loves them with all his heart. The reason he texted you before was because he really needs to talk to them. How do you think the kids feel?"

I had SO much I wanted to say but I didn't respond. The dcs worker advised not to do visits or calls until they meet with him. I'm not sure if that's happened yet. But at our court date on Tuesday my attorney stated no normal visits anymore, that he has to call and schedule a supervised visit with a therapist. Everything has been quiet so far. I will continue to update here. Thanks for all your support. You all have helped me so much and I can't thank you enough.

So glad you were able to have family fun time with your friend. It sounds like a time of sunshine and smiles.

Keep us posted on how your court goes. We're cheering for you!

Thanks Leah! I appreciate each of you!