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Glad to see that things have been quiet and peaceful (in some sense) so far. Hope things continue in your favor.

Hey KB, how are you and the kids holding up? Has your ex had visitation with the kids yet? How is the divorce progressing? Hang in there. We're all rooting for you.

KB check in, please. Getting worried about you!

Hi Ark, I'm OK. Thank you for checking on me. I've had a crappy few weeks but am safe and so are the kids. The crappy stuff has just been life in general. I'm sorry I didn't check in sooner and didn't mean to alarm you or worry you. No updates to post really other than I probably won't get a divorce court date until at least August, which sucks because I'm struggling financially at the moment and not getting any support from WH yet. But, I am trying to figure some things out and staying Positive. I'd rather not need his support anyway, so that is my goal. I got a bill for a cell phone I never had as well, and pretty positive he opened one in my name after we separated, but waiting to get definitive proof. Thanks again for checking on me and I promise to keep updating.

And Happy Mothers day to all the mama's here! 💗

KB that's awful if he opened a phone in your name :( I'm sorry you're struggling financially, but I'm so glad you're safe!

Hey KB, how are you and your kids faring? Any updates on the crazy? Or the phone? Just checking to see if you're ok.

Hey guys, sorry I have been kind of absent lately. I've been working overtime and trying to live life.

Not really any updates as of now. Last news was that we probably won't have another court date until November. That had me pretty down for a bit bc I'm not receiving any kind of financial support so things have been tough. but I'm just trying to ignore all the chaos and negativity as much as I can and enjoy time with the kids, picking up overtime when available. Wh has not set up the supervised visits still after over 2 months since they were ordered. He's messaged mutual friends stating "he can't afford them and shouldn't have to do them anyway," but complains about not seeing them.

No update on the phone yet. I disputed it through the credit bureau and they have not finished their investigation yet.

I will continue updating here. Thanks for always being supportive!

Glad you're doing well, KB. I would ask your attorney about getting temporary orders for child support and money for bills. I would also look into pulling your credit report to make sure your ex isn't opening new accounts right now. Hopefully your kids are doing well and the inlaws are leaving you and the kids alone! They are NOT good people and will definitely be continuing their crazy shenanigans, I'm sure. Just keep filing police reports when they do and come here to vent. Just know we're rooting for you.

Hi guys, I have an update finally.

I had mentioned before that WH didn't respond to the divorce, so in my state that qualifies for a default divorce if they don't respond in 30 days. My attorney said the earliest Date they could get was November, due to her schedule and the judge's. I am in a small town so there's only certain dates they handle certain cases. I was getting very irritated with my attorney as they have been taking some time to get back to me.

Today I called and got a little firm. It didnt help that my attorney is on vacation again. I was polite and respectful but I made it clear to the assistant I am not happy with the lack of communication and that November is unacceptable, and I believe it will hurt my case bc before November, without a doubt, WH will start trying to fight me on everything. Child custody, home ownership, etc. (I'm amazed he hasnt yet.) I advised that i have researched default divorces and how they work and told her i will go to court myself if i need to,just send me the paperwork. She promised to call me back by tomorrow. I figured I'd have to call again like I have in the past but to my surprise she called me back 15 minutes later and advised I have a court Date for July 11th! Another attorney will be coming with me. I'm so relieved. It's bittersweet as well bc it's the death of the dream I had for over 13 years. But I know it's 100% necessary and I think this will help me start healing. I've been healing since he's not been here but have felt stuck in limbo. This will give some closure.

Wh was ordered supervised visits at our last court date March 14th and still hasn't had the first meeting. The counselor messaged me yesterday and said he is finally supposed to meet with WH Wednesday, but if he cancels again he won't work with him anymore. I will keep you all updated. Thanks for the continued support.

I'm sorry that you had to watch your dream die KB, but so glad you got a quicker court date. I hope everything goes as smooth as it possibly can!

Thank you Nomud! It sucks but once you realize it was just that, a DREAM, and that your dream will never be REALITY, it's easier to accept. Its funny bc WH used to tell me i lived in a fantasy land. I guess he was right in a sense, at least about how i held onto "what if's" with him and our marriage instead of the reality of who he is and how our marriage actually was. Its still a very painful situation but this was the only decision I had to make if I wanted a safe, peaceful life for my kids and myself. You have been such a great friend and so supportive through this journey. 😊 So many of you here have. And I will never be able to say enough thank yous to show how much I appreciate all of you. This isn't over yet but I'm starting to see a light at the end of the very long dark tunnel finally. I'll keep updating as they happen.

Thank you Nomud! It sucks but once you realize it was just that, a DREAM, and that your dream will never be REALITY, it's easier to accept. Its funny bc WH used to tell me i lived in a fantasy land. I guess he was right in a sense, at least about how i held onto "what if's" with him and our marriage instead of the reality of who he is and how our marriage actually was. Its still a very painful situation but this was the only decision I had to make if I wanted a safe, peaceful life for my kids and myself. You have been such a great friend and so supportive through this journey. 😊 So many of you here have. And I will never be able to say enough thank yous to show how much I appreciate all of you. This isn't over yet but I'm starting to see a light at the end of the very long dark tunnel finally. I'll keep updating as they happen.

Great update KB! I have sort of fallen off in my responses to you lately, but I'm glad to hear that you have found a safe place and some more peace to raise your children away from as much drama as possible.