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Comedian sleeping alone joke made me realize I'm an odd-ball now:-)

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 Anna123 (original poster member #70908) posted at 3:00 PM on Tuesday, March 8th, 2022

A comedian on TV joked that he doesn't like being single.

He doesn't wake up alone in bed and think "I'm free! I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, and I can stretch out across my bed when I want, and not be woken up by someone else----- etc."

I didn't get the joke because that is EXACTLY what I do think! Often! At night in bed even! Almost five years after divorce.


Society sure makes me second guess this though----

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 3:29 PM on Tuesday, March 8th, 2022

Fuck society, lol. I'm the same. I am so very much in love with being on my own. I have space, time, freedom, make all the decisions, etc. No compromising. I've become very selfish with my time. So if you're an oddball, you aren't alone in that!

DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).

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leafields ( member #63517) posted at 5:57 PM on Tuesday, March 8th, 2022

I'm coming up on my 4-year antiversary and was wondering if I was unusual because I'm not sure that I even want to date because I'm thinking the same thing. LOL.

BW M 34years, Dday 1: 2/18, Dday 2: 8/19, D final 2/25/21

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 5:59 PM on Tuesday, March 8th, 2022

Well if you date, then you might find yourself falling for someone. And that used to seem beautiful to me, but now the very thought makes me feel tired.

DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).

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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 6:45 PM on Tuesday, March 8th, 2022

I think we should band together a huge group of ladies and create a golden-girls-esque kind of commune somewhere where we just get to give each other support and grow veggies and have dogs and ducks and goats and all turn into a colony of forest witches as nature intended. We will allow pretty men to come over and fix things and flirt with us, but other than that we just exist in a glorious bubble of kickass women and peace and light.

I feel ya girl - I love love LOVE being on my own and not having to deal with any bullshit but my own and frankly the thought of dating right now is just not at all appealing.

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 9:57 PM on Tuesday, March 8th, 2022

LOL, Ellie! I do like men, so I'd hate to be totally isolated from all of them. But I get you, lol. My hippie behind would be forest witching it up with you.

DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).

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hcsv ( member #51813) posted at 10:47 PM on Tuesday, March 8th, 2022

Move over. Make room. Another happy as a pig in shit, leave me the f alone..

I have such incredibly filling relationships in my life, I don’t need or want a man in bed all night, that’s for sure.

Sign me up for the kickass women commune.

After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17

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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 11:19 PM on Tuesday, March 8th, 2022

This whole convo reminds me of this one laugh laugh laugh

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park

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Forks027 ( member #59996) posted at 12:03 AM on Wednesday, March 9th, 2022

Count me in as another one for the 'single ladies and lovin' it' club. If you'll have me wink

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:10 AM on Wednesday, March 9th, 2022

Packing my bags to join you all now….

Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 3:47 AM on Wednesday, March 9th, 2022

Ha ha ha, Ellie at that pic! I mean, I'd like a casual hookup now and again, but I'd prefer he not stay over, lol. That's too much committment for me. laugh

DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).

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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 4:08 AM on Wednesday, March 9th, 2022

May I join?

I'm with Dee (as I usually am), The thought of a relationship just makes me feel tired. I'm spread so thin there's nothing much left of me for anyone but my kids and girlfriends. I have plenty of emotional intimacy and support. The physical part is simply a release that I don't even need right now. And if I do, I can get it without a relationship.. or even a man 😁.

Lying in my king size bed right now. Diagonally. It's wonderful.

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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 Anna123 (original poster member #70908) posted at 1:45 AM on Thursday, March 10th, 2022

Ha! This is great!

My circle of female friends that I see the most all have husbands or significant others. The few closer single girlfriends I have had over the past couple years ended up with someone new. There are a few really cool men I have dated that I ended up getting together with as friends, but they also ended up with someone serious eventually and the 'extra' female friendship has only remained with one of them. I am happy with all these friends and my family, it's just I'm the odd one out as far as being paired up. This would sound lonely if I didn't love coming home to my own quiet castle after being out visiting :-)

Thanks for the reassurance!

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Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 11:06 PM on Thursday, March 10th, 2022

I like this club

Legally separated, one more step.

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 Anna123 (original poster member #70908) posted at 1:14 PM on Friday, March 11th, 2022

Me to!

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skeetermooch ( member #72169) posted at 2:43 AM on Saturday, March 12th, 2022

I love this thread. I'm with all of you - bring on the golden girls and the animals. The thought of a relationship makes me tired too, Dee. I'm so relishing this peace and space. I don't ever want to share space again with a guy.

Me: BS 56 on DDay 1 - 7/2019 DIVORCED - 1/2021

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TheWorldYouWant ( member #78447) posted at 9:43 PM on Saturday, March 19th, 2022

Once I'm no longer married to my husband, I cannot remotely imagine wanting to date or have a relationship or live with another man. I'm not a casual sex person so that's out for me too. (No judgment whatsoever, in fact I envy people who can do that, that's just not how attraction/arousal works for me personally.) I would happily live in an all-women commune in the forest!

Me, BW: 50s. WH: 50s. Kids: 3 great young adults.

1998-2021: DDays without end. Porn, cam girls, online EA, dating and cheating websites, actual dating, online sex games, prostitutes, more cam girls. And that's only the stuff I know.

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crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:43 PM on Friday, March 25th, 2022

Ha ha can I join. I love being alone so much I'm not sure I want to compromise that ever again laugh Seriously love my life now. No chaos, complications, emotional disturbances, I could go on and on. I love my California King it's huge and I take up the whole bed lol

fBS/fWS(me):48 Mad-hattered after DD1
XWS:51 Serial Cheater, NPD tendencies
Together 25 years, Married 19
DD(18) DS(15)
DD1 (2008) COW, DD2 (2012) MOW, False R (2014) Same MOW. DD3 (2019) Webcam girl

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StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 7:20 AM on Friday, April 22nd, 2022

I booted ex out in 2013, so that would make it 9 years now. At first I was lonely, but now I enjoy being single and having the whole bed to myself. It would have to be one really incredible person to get me to give that all up. Society is crazy. It brainwashes us into thinking there is something wrong with people who aren't attached. FTN. About 85% of the people I know are very unhappily married and to brainwashed to walk away from the toxicity...or too afraid of being alone. No thank you. I enjoy pampering myself. For the first time in decades, I've given myself permission to make everything about me for a change.

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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