I think my wavering was just due to me wanting to apologize to her for feeling like I was a bad husband.
Thats over now. Because shit has hit the fan.
Like I said, she lied to me and her mother, about where the kids were and keeping them from school to pick up her boyfriend.
I spoke with my lawyer before I actually said or did anything.
I have her lies caught in text messeges.
I am about 99% sure it was the sex offender/home invading boyfriend that she had put the deadbolt on MY front door. I think she had him do it the day he got out so he would have somewhere to stay. She text me that day looking back, asking where I was...now I know why. They didn't wanna get caught in the act so they put a deadbolt on, which is against court order. It is my house I am allowed to come and go as I please. And I have always treated her with respect as to telling her when I was coming over.
I went there and took a few things of mine, and took a few pictures of the dead bolt.
She found out and sent me a number of threatening messages telling me i stole her stuff, and stay out of my house, called me a stalker, she even went as low as saying she feels "unsafe" said she was getting a PPO. She threatened me with "I got an attorney now!!
I have a very nice threatening voicemail as well.
Called my lawyer and he ended up calling her and explaining to her that what I did was within my legal boundaries. The things in my house are mine, the house is mine. I can take what I want and if she has an issue then that needs to come up in divorce court. He also contacted the lawyer that she claims to have had, and said she is lying. She only spoke with him and did not retain him.
I told her mother about all of her lies.
She got very upset that I spoke with her mother. Her mother is now saying she cannot stay at their house, so I am being blamed and she is saying that I am "deframating her character" her words....lol. No honey, the things you are doing is true. Cheating on your husband with a sex offender and blowing up your nice little family, selling your dirty panties online, having a "show all" Instagram, using a porn name email address, this is all you. This is all true. You did this to yourself.
Right now I am holding back with all of my strength the urge to call this guy and ask him if he installed a dead bolt on my house. I know he wont admit to it and it wont get me anywhere. I don't want her back. I am happy with what I have. Her true colors have shown once again.
She also is trying to say I did not fully pay her child support. I owe her a certain amount per month. I have receipts. Awhile back she asked for some money for my sons birthday party, I purchased all of the items for the party and invitations were done by me. So I gave her 100 bucks back in mid october. I added this to the child support. She is claiming I gave her it as a gift. Lawyer said, If i paid her the full amount, then im good. Which I did. She was just mad her last payment on Friday was 100 dollars short. Lets not forget that I was overpaying her for 4 months before the CS litigation anyways. Lets not forget all of the things I am still paying for, for her. The house, Her car, Her insurance (she got a 10 over speeding ticket the other day, hoping since we are divorcing that it does not raise my rate)
A day after she threatens me, she asks me if I can bring some firewood over cause its "so cold" I said no. You said you feel unsafe around me, so I am not going anywhere near that house. Don't trust her.
UHGGG the stress. Thanks for letting me dump my plate of crap onto the forums. So much baggage I should be at an airport.
New girl is really helping me out a lot. I think if it weren't for her I would have really gotten confrontational with this man. First you have sex with my wife, then you come into my house that's in MY name and install a deadbolt on MY DOOR!!!
Taking the high road here. Hoping this works out in my favor. Trying to stay silent and not even talk to WW, Unless I have too.
[This message edited by subverted at 7:39 AM, October 26th (Monday)]