cinnamongurl ( member #37879) posted at 6:06 PM on Saturday, April 23rd, 2016
I'm so sorry DS! Cancer just plain sucks! I was diagnosed back in September, and after 3 surgeries,15 weeks of chemo, I'm entering my last week of a 6 week radiation regimen. I have 2 other friends who are fighting right now as well. They're doing basically the same regimen as you, concurrent chemo and radiation. And they're ok, and you will be too! You have an amazing attitude, and that is so important with all of this! A true fighter!
I'm going to enclose a link for a product called "janes". I hope that's okay. They're basically johnnys that are super soft and belong to you. I bring mine to radiation everday, and wore it through all the tests and surgeries. Those paper gowns just suck. http://getjanes.com.
I love the "AK47 that shit"! You'll do great. Remember to ask for help when you need it, and take the help people offer.
Keep sugar free, hard candies on hand, they have been a life saver throughout chemo. Rinse your mouth with warm salt water, often. Biotene is a wonderful thing as well. Your mouth will be sore and your taste diminished. These will help.
And remember to take it one day at a time. Sometimes the big picture can be overwhelming.
Nothing but mojo and prayers for you! You've got this, so go kick cancer's mofo ass!!
Me:FWS 42 He: FBS 43 and my heart
Together 22 years. We survived infidelity. "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." Tori Amos
CG
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 8:29 PM on Saturday, April 23rd, 2016
Geeze, go away for a couple of weeks to sell a house, come back, and people are righteously waiving AK-47s all over the place! And no wonder I sorta feel like pulling out little Mr. Shotgun and yelling PULL myself! 
You two are in my prayers and will continue to be throughout this journey. You won't walk alone. And now, let's get some good bitch boots to accessorize those wonderful wig suggestions earlier!
BTW, a friend of ours used to get temporary tattoo's and wear them on her skull after she shaved her hair for her treatment. Her favorite was a Redwings tattoo her special team!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 9:21 PM on Saturday, April 23rd, 2016
Today my tumor started bleeding during my exam and my radiologist said "it's ok...that will happen" and I said "that's because I scare the shit out of it!"
Hell yes!! 
I hope your treatments go well. This sounds like a fine excuse not to do housework for the next 5-7 weeks.
(((DS)))
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
Lovingmyselfmore ( member #46119) posted at 11:40 PM on Saturday, April 23rd, 2016
Dear DS,
I cannot express enough gratitude for what you do to help us through this website.
I know for sure that you will be celebrating your healing very soon and I send you much light and will have you every day in my prayers.
I know a lot of people who have gone through this and now are cancer-free. Please keep laughing as much as you can.
We love you so MUCH.
God put you in the lives of many of us in the darkest time of our lives to show us some light and we will be transformed because of your labor.
My best wishes for you and your family DS.
Please keep us posted.
Much Love
LMM
dday: september-12-2014
Me: 42 EX: 46 gay or bisexual (go figure!) together: 12 years
Dday to 3 months: suicidal 1 year after: huge depression- 1.5 years still kind of depressed-Took me 2.5 years to be kind of happy again
knutz ( member #28877) posted at 4:25 AM on Sunday, April 24th, 2016
Just saw this. Kick cancer's ass like we know you WILL. We are all here for you.
Together 23 years
Married 20 Years
BW (me) 48
FWH: 49 (rSA)
2 children, 9 & 12
DDay: December 27, 2009
"Life is not what it is supposed to be. It is what it is. The way we cope with it is what makes the difference". Virginia Satir
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 5:18 AM on Sunday, April 24th, 2016
I'm not even going to worry about it because I KNOW you're going to kick this cancer's ass! 
deephurt ( member #48243) posted at 5:28 PM on Sunday, April 24th, 2016
I'm so sorry to hear this. Please take care of yourself and I will be sending you all the good mojo that I can. You are in my thoughts. Godspeed
me-BW
him-WH
so far successfully in R
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 12:53 AM on Monday, April 25th, 2016
Prayers and lifting you up. Now go get it like a boss!
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 2:22 PM on Monday, April 25th, 2016
DS and MH,
Thinking and praying for you two. Keep fighting, we are all pulling for you.
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 2:32 PM on Monday, April 25th, 2016
I found it helpful to work (yes, I'm crazy) during my chemo treatments. Took my mind off what was going on and made the time pass pretty quickly.
You will need something to do or someone to chat with during your time in the chair.
One day at a time--do what you can and let others step up.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
Time Ticks On ( member #33772) posted at 3:52 PM on Monday, April 25th, 2016
I am so sorry to hear this DS. Sending you tons of MOJO !! What stage of 3 are you? My husband's aunt is stage four . She is doing very well. The cancer has skrunk quite a bit and is now gone from her other organs. You can beat this !!!!
FBW- 50
FWH-51
D-day- aug 16,2011
Married 25 years- together 27
What doesn't kill me, scars me.
Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 4:08 PM on Monday, April 25th, 2016
Just lots of hugs (((((DS & MH)))))
We love you guys and stand behind you 100% all the way!
Exit WoundsH of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.
dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 8:06 PM on Monday, April 25th, 2016
DS and MH, sending you huge warm healing hugs!
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
brokenapart ( member #8309) posted at 2:13 AM on Wednesday, April 27th, 2016
DS, just checking in to send out love and support.
You have cancer, but cancer definitely doesn't have you.
sending out tons of purple mojo.
me- BS
Divorced & living again.
"Let go or get dragged" - beaner
Life is Good
fireproof ( member #36126) posted at 3:16 AM on Wednesday, April 27th, 2016
Sending prayers to you and your family! Your strength and courage is admired by all. 
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 3:19 AM on Wednesday, April 27th, 2016
Just checking in on you today. (((hugs)))
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 6:01 AM on Wednesday, April 27th, 2016
Sending you love today DS. Fight like a girl!!!
((((((((((((DS))))))))))
[This message edited by CheaterMagnet at 12:03 AM, April 27th (Wednesday)]
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
Deeply Scared (original poster administrator #2) posted at 11:20 AM on Wednesday, April 27th, 2016
I'm not only fighting like a girl...I'm fighting like a BITCH girl!
Yesterday I had my metiport installed. I'm now on my 3rd radiation visit and 1st chemo treatment. I feel really good...just super tired. I certainly appreciate all the love and prayers!!!
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 11:26 AM on Wednesday, April 27th, 2016
(((((((((((DS)))))))))))))
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 11:56 AM on Wednesday, April 27th, 2016
Praying for you each and every day. You look gorgeous by the way!
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
