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I joined SI 12 years ago today.

I am so grateful to SI, to my fellow members, and to current and former staff. MH, DS, AuthenticNow, WH5, Bigger, SerJR, Floridaredman, jrazz, WOEz, Edie, painpaingoaway, tushnurse, HUFI-PUFI, MOO, lordhasaplan?, and so many others have helped me through the horror of my W's A. So many members touched and moved me. I've forgotten the names of more members who have moved me than I remember.

Thanks, from the bottom of my heart to the top.

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I sometimes wonder why I'm still here. It seems obvious I have something more to work out.

I also have an agenda: I want every BS to consider many options and to pick the one that seems best for them. I want every BS to avoid picking the option they think they should pick, based on some parent voice in their head, unless it's the choice they want to pick.

And, of course, I'm on a crusade against over-generalizations.

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Happy February 18th, everyone!

I'm sure you have helped countless members over the years with your wisdom.

Glad you stuck around!

Congratulations and thank you for your service here. You are one of the only names I remember from my early days.

Thank you sisoon for sharing your insights.

Your wisdom has certainly helped me.

Thank you for your advice during my darkest days . I am glad you are still staying around . We , the new comers, still need your guidance and insight .

As someone who has just found this site—and just realized I need it—I want to share that one of the reasons I decided to trust this forum and share my own story was that there were people who had the gift of perspective only time brings—and exactly the sort of refusal to generalize that you mention in this post.

I sometimes wonder why I'm still here.

I ask myself that question every now and then…
Not why you are here friend, but why I hang around. After all – my d-day was decades before I found this site and I have been here for a fair number of years.

I wish more old-timers would hang around. I think those we serve – the newly betrayed and the waywards that want to heal – can benefit from a combination of hearing others are in comparable pain, hearing from those maybe on the next part of the journey and hearing from us that have made the whole trip and can possibly use the benefit of hindsight to help others along.

Wow Sisoon,
Every once in a while I stop by to read a few posts to help keep me grounded and I happened upon this thread.

It's great to see you are still sharing your gift of wisdom with others. I can never thank the many members and moderators that helped keep me afloat during some very dark times. Thanks for all the help you've given me and thanks for sticking around to help others in need.

Take Care,
JB

You were the first to welcome me to SI. Thanks for all you do. It isn't easy and I appreciate your sacrifice to help the community.

ETA: Thanks for helping me to NOT being on an episode of Snapped.

[This message edited by leafields at 6:02 AM, Monday, February 20th]

I’m glad you’re still here, you are one of the first users to support me over 5 years ago, thank you for all your support over the years!

Thanks, all.

Maybe part of my hanging around IS that I remember how much I got from old-timers. They told me what I might think and feel when d-day was far in my past. They told me about the risks and rewards. That was very calming.

The people who joined around the time I did told me that I wasn't alone in being totally discombobulated.

Thanks for posting, joe.

I'm glad you stuck around, friend. I hope I'm not over-generalizing when I say that you have certainly helped more folks than you can ever imagine! Your wisdom is greatly appreciated!

Coming up on 15 years for me (where does the time go?) and I remember all those names and more who put out the safety net and gave me a soft place to land during those horrible times.

Who remembers Defiance and those epic bar threads on weekends and holidays when people would dance on the tables?

Glad to see you thriving sisoon. We are living proof that it's possible to survive this shit show, one way or another. xo FF

[This message edited by FaithFool at 5:57 AM, Wednesday, February 22nd]

You are always a welcome source of reason. Glad you are here

Thank you for sharing...it is very uplifting!!

Well balanced advice and wisdom is what really helps around here. The gift of perspective and – I would add - compassion is invaluable and old timers like you certainly provide that. Congrats on sticking around so long!

I come here from time to time and honestly it’s sad to see how some threads are overpopulated with posters whose main intent (even with no ill will) is to dehumanize any WS (regardless of the specifics) and cast a shadow of maliciousness and doubt on everything. Every story is different but IMO to fuel rage and indignation, especially in a newly BS who for obvious reasons is particularly receptive to that, does nothing to promote healing and recovery or help find a sensible approach to one’s own particular circumstances.

Thank you!

Please stay!

I am so glad you've been here for 12 years. Your logical responses have been so helpful. And I appreciate your crusade against generalizations! Keep fighting the good fight! :)