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Phoenix1 posted 2/13/2020 01:34 AM

After my last brother died, his childhood BFF appointed himself my adoptive big bro so he could nag me about things in my bio bro's absence. He is disabled (almost a paraplegic with some upper mobility issues) that resulted from a high school sporting injury where he broke his neck.

He notified me he just checked into a major hospital for throat cancer treatment for a tumor the doctors have indicated usually has "aggressive tendencies." The comparison was not lost on either of us that his father was diagnosed with cancer at the same age and passed away as a result. His father was my dad's BFF.

We've been texting (different time zones) and I've been trying to be his biggest cheerleader next to his wife, who is by his side. He texted me today, "Not gonna lie, sis. I'm scared shitless right now."

He's been through so much and has been so strong that brutally honest comment just made me so sad. While I would never say such a selfish thing to him directly, I don't want to lose yet another family member (lost a cousin suddenly a couple of weeks ago to an abdominal aortic aneurysm).

So, whatever good thoughts you have, please send them to this gentle soul. He can really use them.

BearlyBreathing posted 2/13/2020 01:48 AM

Oh no, Phoenix 1. Sending mojo....

BearlyBreathing posted 2/13/2020 01:48 AM

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DragnHeart posted 2/13/2020 02:33 AM

So sorry. Sending mojo and praying for him his family and you.

lieshurt posted 2/13/2020 07:12 AM

Sending lots of good thoughts and mojo. (((Phoenix)))

tushnurse posted 2/13/2020 07:24 AM

((((Phoenix1))))

Sending them strength and peace.

Catwoman posted 2/13/2020 07:39 AM

My dad had the same thing--diagnosed with between Stage 3 and 4 laryngeal cancer. He went with aggressive chemo and radiation and it bought him another 13 years.

Sending strength.

Cat

Charity411 posted 2/13/2020 08:49 AM

Sending prayers and mojo Phoenix.

zebra25 posted 2/13/2020 09:10 AM

Sending prayers and mojo.

(((Phoenix)))

Chrysalis123 posted 2/13/2020 18:20 PM

Oh no Phoenix. Sending tons of mojo and positive healing thoughts.

looking forward posted 2/13/2020 20:50 PM

(((Phoenix1))) Sending lots of healing thoughts and prayers for your big bro and family.

Jeaniegirl posted 2/14/2020 00:01 AM

Sending good thoughts your way. You have had too many loses so this isn't fair. Thinking positive about your 'brother.'

sisoon posted 2/14/2020 12:44 PM

Count me in.

Phoenix1 posted 2/14/2020 18:18 PM

Thanks everyone!

cantaccept posted 2/15/2020 08:41 AM

Count me in too. Cancer just plain sucks.

pureheartkit posted 2/15/2020 20:20 PM

Thinking of you both Phoenix

Phoenix1 posted 3/5/2020 16:34 PM

Well, he had the surgery. Tumor the size of an egg was removed from his parotid gland along with numerous other lymph nodes for testing. The tumor was actually a lymph node and was diagnosed as stage 4 aggressive nature melanoma. He has no history of skin cancer and doctors believe his body fought off the primary source on the skin but was unable to fight off the spread to the lymph nodes. Apparently extremely rare, but does happen.

So, not good news. He told me, "On the bright side, I will see XXX (my bio bro) soon!"

ZenMumWalking posted 3/5/2020 16:40 PM

((((Phoenix))))

somanyyears posted 3/5/2020 16:51 PM

.. Phoenix1 Prayers being sent..

smy

PricklePatch posted 3/6/2020 13:04 PM

That just sucks! Prayers, mojo, and paws crossed.