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Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 6:39 PM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2023
Right now wh and his minion attorney lies are really bad.
My mistake I guess has been telling the truth and trying to be a decent human being.
I have been fighting for my freedom for literally years now.
Anyone have stories of hope and karma they are willing to share?
I also welcome prayers, mojo, well wishes, messages..
I am sitting here crying because I am all out of hope..
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Dorothy123 ( member #53116) posted at 6:42 PM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2023
Praying for you .
Sending mojo and positive thoughts.
Unfortunately, I have no karma stories to tell.
"I’ll get you my pretty, and your little dog too!" Wicked Witch of the West.
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 6:45 PM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2023
Sending hugs.
((((Shehawk))))
((((Shehawk))))
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 7:10 PM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2023
Sending you prayers, strength and hugs.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 7:12 PM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2023
Thanks Dorothy, Cooley and Zebra
You have no idea how much this means to me
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Dorothy123 ( member #53116) posted at 7:15 PM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2023
Thanks Dorothy, Cooley and Zebra
You have no idea how much this means to me
My pleasure.
Hugs to you !
"I’ll get you my pretty, and your little dog too!" Wicked Witch of the West.
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 7:50 PM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2023
Plenty of prayers and hugs being sent your way Dear Lady (((HUGS))).
All I can say is that the TRUTH always wins out. ALWAYS. So your wh and his minion lawyers can delay things with their lies...but they won't be able to hide from the truth!! It may have been a while that you have been fighting this. But you are showing that you WILL fight this...that shows such STRENGTH!! They THOUGHT you would have given up by now. They thought WRONG!!!
Keep your eye on the prize Dear Lady...your FREEDOM!! What an AWESOME day that will be!! It's alright to even PLAN what you will do on that day. A spa day? Drinks with friends? A fabulous vacation???!!! This time is only temporary...it WILL end one day...and you will NEVER have to bother with your then Xwh ever again!!!
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 11:28 PM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2023
My friend was married to a serial cheater.
They never D however b/c he was waiting for his mom to pass away first. She was ill and had dementia for years.
But my friend snd her cheating H were separated for years. Pleasant relationship for the kids sake.
Sadly the H died unexpectedly.
My friend then inherited his mother who despised her during the whole marriage. And then the MIL passed away a few months later.
Because my friend was the only living relative she inherited everything. Millions — from the MIL’s estate. Her H was an only child and there were no other relatives left.
So sad that the MIL made her life a living hell - and would be damn unhappy my friend got one penny.
Karma.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 10 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 2:02 AM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
That's a great ending to a terrible story 1stwife.
Thanks Want2behappyagain!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 5:20 AM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
My XWH moved 9 hours away to be with his new schmoopie, who is now his second wife. Instead of retiring and being my "arm candy", he's had to find a job. This past winter, he totalled his second car within 2 years. He was turning left at a light and thought the person was going to stop for the light, but did the gun it and turn thing. He's now over 55, so his insurance must be expensive.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Helena67 ( member #80506) posted at 6:56 AM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
No karma story ……………….. yet
Sending you prayers and hugs
BS (me) 56 years. Divorced!!!
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 9:04 AM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
Never lose hope. Because you just don’t know when or how things will change.
My faith was sorely tested during my H’s affair. He clearly was having a MLC affair and I was praying every day — every damn day for some hope.
Call it fate or whatever but the Sunday after dday2 the sermon was about redemption. My H spoke with the pastor and asked for a copy of the sermon.
From dday2 forward my H changed and we were able to R. But we were on the brink of D and it was hopeless.
I still think it’s a miracle we are together and happy.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 10 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
RecklessForgiver ( member #82891) posted at 12:37 PM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
Shehawk,
Never feel that being decent is a mistake.
I have seen the ways that the deceit and the lies eat out the soul of the liar. You may not see the damage, but it is there.
Take a moment to appreciate you. You are honest. You were trustworthy.
Then be sure you are working with your own lawyer!
Sending hugs and well-wishes. Hang in there!
We are all here for you.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:31 PM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
Hang in there dear lady.
Check out WhotheBleep's post in D. She too finally got her freedom.
Stay the course.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
redrock ( member #21538) posted at 5:10 PM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
I’m not sure if it’s a karma story or the fact that affairs are fantasy and eventually real life happens for everyone.
A friend of mine was dumped for much younger OW and the freedom/travel/I’m going to be happy in my new freewheeling life.
She’s moved on we don’t talk about it much anymore but recently I have attended some of her son’s wrestling events(he’s amazing). Her ex was there with OWife…. He does love his kids and does attend all their activities with new family in tow.
The cliche of a man watching his 18 year old wrestle with a toddler on his lap was too much to ignore. His freedom turned right into regular old life, only this time with lesser partner in our opinions. We had a private giggle on it and moved on to enjoy the real reason for the day.
Hang in there.
I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 5:16 PM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
Thanks Tush, redrock and all.
I think we are all cheering for Bleeps freedom day!!!
I appreciate everyone's support more than I can ever express!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 5:22 PM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
Reading more responses.
Thank you recklessforgiver. It's hard to believe in the light when all you see is darkness.
Thank you 1st wife, redrock, tush, Helena
Ever time I want to quit, this group just keeps lifting me up.
So much gratitude.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 5:23 PM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 8:42 PM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
Thanks PricklePatch
All is appreciated
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 8:45 PM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023
Thanks PricklePatch
All is appreciated
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
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