Hi, been many years since I have been here, but your message brought back that empty and lost feeling I remember in the early stages of my story.
My husband of 21 years had a year long affair, never would have ever guessed he would betray me, but he did. I found out January 16th, 2016. I think it took about a month before I could really function, so that may be the stage you are in, give yourself time. It is a traumatic experience.
I joined a cheap gym, made myself go and at least walk on a treadmill, tho, I did classes, to get around people and it took my mind off of everything for awhile. Got me out of the house, it was Winter, so too cold to do much outside.
I think it was about 6 mos before I was ready to get back to being myself, I did a year of YES. I moved about a hour away, changed where I worked, joined the "MEET UP" app, joined some a trivia group, met new people. Did a lot of things I never had before, just looked at things as an opportunity of adventure. There are all kinds of groups to join, hiking, dining, movies, just join and go, meet new people and do new things.
Push yourself when you feel you can, but early on, definitely allow yourself time, be kind to yourself.
It was June 2017, I had a blind date with prob my third guy. We just clicked, ended up getting married September 2019. We just have fun together, he is a great guy. I am happier now than I ever was before my EX cheated on me.
So, there will be a light at the end of the tunnel!!! If you asked me, I would NOT change anything to be where I am now. I thought I was "happy" with my EX, but looking back, we were more roommates than anything. I really didnt have fun with him, we co existed.
It is a VERY dark place, it will be for awhile, BUT it wont last forever. Know you are stronger than you think and will probably end up being much happier than you were.