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^LOL.

I keep thinking about Sir Eric. Will Tallgirl land herself a knight? How tall is he? Does he come with a suit of armor?

Tallgirl's toe-dipping into OLD made me giggle (sorry Tall!)

Tallgirl - hey there! Sending you all the tall vibes. I hope you find a 6'3" dude who knocks your tall socks off - physically and metaphorically.

leafields - OMG - I haven't logged on in a while, did so today and found this! You rock. And put a huge smile on my face.

TheEnd - I so read your post in the style of Rod Roddy when he singed off the old sitcom SOAP.

That is ok End. I am sure the experiences are just getting started. Watch here for future entertainment coming soon.

One guy who seems nice actually, said in his profile that he would like to meet an intelligent woman. While I may not qualify, I at least know how to spell the word soulmate properly. I wondered if he was looking for matching shoes when he said he was looking for his SOLEmate.

It is hard as anything for me not to tell him he doesn’t know how to spell. So far I’ve refrained. I’m not sure how much longer I can last. Lol.

I still have an aversion to anyone who talks about kisses and cuddling, and looking for their one, and only, or their soulmate. I throw up in my mouth for a little each time I read that. How awful am I ? my goodness

BW only.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 3:17 PM, Saturday, July 29th]

Oh ladies where are you?

So I wanted to share my first dating experience after two years. I fully reverted to a newbie.

Had a panic attack, went into a full menopausal hot flash, dripping with sweat. Had to change twice, hair was glued to my head, it looked like I just walked out of the shower. This was after drying my hair. I put make up on but I couldn’t keep my face dry.

Texted my girlfriend and said I was having a breakdown and wanted to quit dating before I started. I was serious. I ignored her recommendation to breathe, and kept stressing.

I started walking to the bus, after missing two, praying I wouldn’t miss another. It was hot and humid. My hair couldn’t get worse. I had 4 bounty paper towels with me. Barely enough.

Then things got better. My son came home early. Drove me to my date location, I was 20 minutes early, so I had time to sit in the AC. Thankfully, I checked my make up. Quite the mess, I looked like I was powder puffed then sprayed in the face. So I removed most of that mess. Had an iced coffee.

He arrived and my hair had mostly dried, and by then I let go of any thought I might look nice. So we had a nice convo, went for a walk, and he dropped me at home.

So, I did it.

And I survived.

Phew.

Tallgirl
Good for you!!! So happy for you. How did it feel to go on a date?
I wish you an amazing journey to empowering yourself!

BTW I love your style of writing. It has so much with and humor.

Thanks Cedarwoods. Very kind of you to say.

The date itself was fine. We had a normal conversation, I’d say I talked less than he did. I realize I really am a new person for dating. I didn’t know what to do after a while whether we should stay in the coffee shop or go for a walk. I didn’t know how to call the date to an end. Overall, It was OK. I guess I just need some practice. Next time, two changes of clothes, just in case I have another full on hot flash.

I really don’t know if there’s rules for dating, but I just really was trying to be myself. And I was I had myself a panic attack, a hot flash, a nervous tummy, and eventually a cup of coffee. At least, my eye didn’t twitch, I was grateful. Been there before.

[This message edited by Tallgirl at 10:12 AM, Tuesday, August 8th]

You did it Tallgirl!

Your humor comes shining through in these moments. When you can unleash that part of you on a date they are going to fall at your feet.

It's such a big move on your part and for many women in your sitch. So cool that you did it. I hope you keep going b/c I feel like once you get the jitters under control and the real you starts to emerge it's going to be awesome.

Have fun!

So ladies the output of my first date was successful therapy. For him.

I kind of think SI had a lot to do with it. In the end with my help, he realized that he was not ready to date. He appreciated my intuition, insights, honesty and support. He thought I could be a therapist.

He was so nice about it and complimentary, how could I be upset?

You know what. He didn’t even buy my coffee because I was so early and hot (not the pretty kind) I bought my own. So it was totally free therapy.

So the evil untrustful Tallgirl on my shoulder with her devil horns says, ah, clever man, great approach to saying, I am out.

What if this is my secret power. I will be single forever. 😉

So the evil untrustful Tallgirl on my shoulder with her devil horns says, ah, clever man, great approach to saying, I am out.

I think the "evil untrustful Tallgirl" may be there for awhile. But she may also have to get used to being wrong from time to time!