Hi everyone, huge apologies I'm so sorry for not getting on here to check in.
Not sure where to begin,the past few weeks have been tough but I'm okay lots of attorney dealings.
I'll make a short list of the happenings:
Got a key to my house which I never had in 15 years ;) took lots of attorneys help.
STBX has been leaving every weekend and staying gone--basically ditching his kids--that turned into every week night.
Police called several times for a variety of things, STBX took out 90% of the light bulbs.
Screwed the electrical box shut.
STBX barricaded the detached garage--cops called since I was trying to get in it..on my property.
STBX wouldn't allow me access to the thermostats in the house, freezing weather so I had to replace the smart thermostats.
Basically attorneys and cops on speed dial.
STBX got an apartment, came when I was out of town with my daughter, took a bunch of stuff and cleaned my son's room out and had him call me and say he was living with STBX. STBX does nothing for the kid and has ditching him and been none involved for a month!
So that's where I'm at, I have the house alone but can't change the locks.
STBX won't email me and parenting time plans or any communication for the kids, my daughter is here.
STBX had been telling the kids he is moving out of state and has been still knee deep with the OW even with the post-nuptial clearly in play.
I need advise on what to do about my son, he's clearly been manipulated and is acting like he hates me I have been a rock for him as his Dad has literally for over a month ignored him and devastated him. I'm blown away but not shocked STBX is a narc and horrible parent.
I'll call my attorney Monday, can he even just take my son like that? He needs to agree to a parenting plan until the divorce is over for sure.
I have pretty much decided to give him 50/50 custody, I'm not going to fight him if my kids are 14 & 15, they can decipher STBX by now and it will force him to be a parent. Seems pretty pointless in my county 50/50 joint is the standard.
Any insight on parenting plans prior to a divorce?
AGAIN I am so sorry for being absent and causing worry, its been a really rough few weeks.