Hi all, checking in. It's been a crazy shit fest...I thought things would settle down but instead due to SGTBX it's ramping up.
So STBX took my youngest son (13) when he moved into his apartment on 11/12. I was out of town with our other daughter at a sports event. He claims in legal responses I was "out partying it up"..not true, and have the documentation to prove otherwise.
So he has had my son for 3 plus weeks, he will not communicate at all about visitation or seeing my son.Not one text or email after countless ones I have sent. Our attorneys agreed verbally that we would do 50/50. I had sent my daughter for her week while waiting for a response on our son. Our court date for the temp parenting plan that had to be rescheduled due to the judge having to recuse herself (she's my previous attorney).
My visitation was due to start this last Sunday with my son, he has been with STBX for 3 weeks. My daughter came back early since STBX said "he was going out of town". When my daughter came back she said STBX sits locked in his room talking to his new girlfriend every night with the exception of coming out for dinner.
It is also is discovered that son has been directed to turn off his location services and STBX is taking him to the girlfriends home out of state without my knowledge EVEN WITH THE POST-NUPTIAL with infidelity clause drawn up in 2015
I told my son I had his location last Friday and was coming to get him at him at this girl-friends home. I also told him I KNOW that STBX is tracking my car so I would be in a rental. (I know STBX is tracking it because of some telling remarks he has told my daughter) I am having my car sweeped for the GPS this week.
I did not have his location but hoped STBX was worried enough to leave and come home, not sure but pretty confident that did happen.
SO, son did not come Sunday as expected, by Monday my attorney reached out to his and basically told STBX to get my son to my house. Son came and refused to come inside, had no school bag and was wearing multiple layers of clothing. (he was either instructed to do so or they had planned the next events).
SO son eventually came in, was rude, mouthy, swearing, throwing things in the house and basically causing chaos. My attorney told me to call the police, apprehensively I did. As they showed up so did STBX and said he wanted to take mhy son, I said no, but without the signed parenting plan I had no choice to let him go, son was saying he's afraid, I'm abusive etc. Not true in the least, I've been the primary caregiver his whole life, I also raised 4 great adult children. I spoke privately with STBX how this is what we agreed, he's 13 and doesn't get to make choices etc.
Then, around 3 hours later after midnight after the altercation, the police were at my door but this time it was to serve me with a temporary restraining order on behalf of my son my STBX had taken out. Saying a bunch of abusive lies. Of course it doesn't mention my year older daughter at all. So apparently he wasn't concerned about her
So I can't contact my son and STBX has 10 more days to brainwash him against me. My attorney told his attorney and STBX's attorney was shocked, he had told STBX to get my son to the house and my son doesn't get a say in the matter.
So both attorneys are working to get STBX to drop the temporary restraining order. Literally crazy. My attorneys have now said STBX has lost his dam mind.
So I have sent all the texts of my son saying he loves and misses me from the last few weeks, son's failing grades, emails from teacher's about his bad bahavior at school, etc.also how is is letting both kids run loose when he's locked in his room on the phone with the girlfriend.
I'm sure my son doesn't want to come back, I demand homework done, church and no running the streets.STBX does none of that.
So I have also learned that STBX's GF is out of state and he wants to move, he does not want my daughter since he can't control her like my son, so his plan is to get son to go with him and move to which I will NEVER let happen.
STBX looked shocked when I said this divorce could take 2 plus years, I think his bubble burst as he knew GF isn't waiting around that long, as a narc he can't keep up the rosey facade, or he'll get her pregnant.
I think STBX has made son an accomplice to his cheating and is desperate to keep him in control with the 75/25 post-nuptial. I already have a boat load of evidence for that for sure.
Also the new temp parenting plan INCLUDES: kids can't turn off their location services, no taking kids to romantic interests homes and kids start seeing a therapist that will testify in court.
So please excuse my mis-spellings as I'm mentally exhausted with the situation and my son is hurting. I have such incredible fury against STBX!