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 ZenMumWalking (original poster member #25341) posted at 10:40 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2022

DS3 got meningitis..... he's doing better now but was really sick for about 2 weeks.

WH had a heart attack Monday. He's very thin, but eats a lot of fatty foods. Anyway, he had 2 stents put in and there is a third artery with some blockage but they didn't add a stent to that one.

I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop now..... sad sad sad sad sad sad

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 11:07 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2022

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. Hugs.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 12:00 AM on Friday, September 9th, 2022

Zen I am so sorry.
Prayers for healing and peace.

Love you, Sista

Me, 54
Him, 45 (JMSSC)
Married 24 years. Reconciled.

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 12:30 AM on Friday, September 9th, 2022

I'm so sorry Zen. Sending strength and hugs.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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BraveSirRobin ( Guide #69242) posted at 1:42 AM on Friday, September 9th, 2022

So sorry, Zen. I hope life cuts you a break now!

WW/BW

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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 10:16 AM on Friday, September 9th, 2022

Oh Zen, I didn’t see this.

I’m so sorry. It’s so hard to deal with things when they come at you in multiples. Seems like you don’t have time to recover from one before the next one hits. 😢

Prayers that your son and your WH will be well soon.

Take care of yourself!!!!!

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 11:59 AM on Friday, September 9th, 2022

Sending healing and peace to you all. That’s a lot to deal with.

Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:48 PM on Friday, September 9th, 2022

((((Zen))))
My H had a heart attack 2 weeks after his 40th, and had a stent placed, widowmaker lesion. He has been fine since. He is now 54. No problems.
His brother who is my age (51) just had 3 stents placed over 2 different times, he too is thin, but eats like a 13yo w/ no parental guidance, and smokes.

Genetics play a role, but healthy eating, and exercise, and making smart choices can definitely minimize complications going forward.

I hope your son is doing well, and feeling better. May take a while before he is at 100%.

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 22 & 25
Married for 30 years now, was 16 at the time.
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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 ZenMumWalking (original poster member #25341) posted at 9:10 PM on Friday, September 9th, 2022

And the hits keep on coming......

WH got released from the hospital today, so that's good, but DS3 has been having numbness in one arm that goes from his hand up to his shoulder. He had to go to doc to get the asthma meds anyway so asked the doc about it - I told him to also make sure that whoever examined him knows that he is still recovering from meningitis and to see if it could be related to that.

So he went from one doc at urgent care appt to get the asthma prescription then had to go to the bigger nearby city to visit the hand hospital. And he called me and said he had an 'episode' there, where when they told him to stand he couldn’t really walk. Not only was his arm numb but his leg was as well (same side). They think this is from the meningitis and that he might have a problem with a vein that is filled up which touched on the nerves. Or something like that (he's 24, so not a medical expert in French).....

Now they are going to have to do further checkups at the main hospital in our state. I am very worried that he is not taking this seriously enough. They told him he could go to stay at the hospital tonight but he didn't want to do that. Then they said well ok, but if ANYTHING happens go to the hospital IMMEDIATELY by ambulance.

I think he doesn't want to go now because it's Friday night, he wants to eat (it's ~10pm here) and charge his phone.

I've had a talk with him to try to emphasize the seriousness of the situation. The hospital will make appts for further tests for next week, assuming he doesn't go to emergency over the weekend.

And since he's doing his military service now, all his medical care is paid (yippee!!).

Thanks for all the support everyone, I truly appreciate it.

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 1:21 AM on Saturday, September 10th, 2022

Sending healing mojo.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 2:57 AM on Saturday, September 10th, 2022

Good Lord!!!

"When it rains, it pours."

You mean you have faced / are facing all these things in another language???

Well that adds a whole other dimension to the whole situation!

I don’t know how you do that. Besides English, and about 100 words in Spanish, sign language is my only other language.

Are you fluent in French? If not, how can you be sure you are understanding the full impact /nuances of what is happening?

Damn…this sucks. So sorry. 😔

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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 ZenMumWalking (original poster member #25341) posted at 5:32 AM on Saturday, September 10th, 2022

WR - yes, fluent in French (which is the local language here)...... so is WH and all DS, but yeah, it's starting to get a little crazy!!

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:42 PM on Saturday, September 10th, 2022

Zen,
I know thats scary stuff with your son but please understand that his brain is inflamed and sore just like your lungs would be if you had a pneumonia.
He is going to need to rest and heal and follow what is similar to heal from a concussion.

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 22 & 25
Married for 30 years now, was 16 at the time.
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 2:53 PM on Saturday, September 10th, 2022

Sending prayers your way!

BS Fwh

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 ZenMumWalking (original poster member #25341) posted at 2:18 PM on Sunday, September 11th, 2022

tn - he actually did have a concussion before this, his army mates ended up accidentally dropping him on his head.....

so the update now is that (a) he's NOT having a stroke (yippee!!) and (b) they think he has vein/artery expanding and compressing the nerve(s), giving him the numbness. He's also having back spasms now. We're staying right on top of this in case new stuff happens.

So he's supposed to have some kind of liquid med+physio Mon-Sat for 2-3 weeks, then same 2-3 times per week. I just can't believe all this shit is happening.

Also tn, thank you so much for the reassurance. I'm also more convinced now that he is taking his med condition more seriously.

He has also been recently diagnosed with a kind of asthma (not sure which), and based on his labs he has a weakened immune system. But I think this has been going on for some time now, when he was 15 or 16 he got pertussis (even though completely vaxxed) and that took a long time to recover (in Chinese it's called the 90 day cough, and that was about right) and now he gets everything that's going around.

His sporting condition is very good though, his resting heart rate is around 42 and he performs well in sprint-med distance running events, as well as football (soccer), basketball, etc and he is also muscular, does wrestling. He took up the wrestling after he was raped (about 5 years ago, you might remember that).

Anyway......

Thank you ALL for all your support, it means so much to me.

smile smile

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 6:06 PM on Sunday, September 11th, 2022

I’m so sorry he’s having to go through all of this.

Does he have any idea what amazing young man he is to persevere like he does?

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:20 PM on Monday, September 12th, 2022

That low resting heart rate in a physically fit young male is completely normal.
Many runners can drift into the 30s when in deep sleep. Freaks us nurses out a bit but that's just an efficient well oiled machine a t work.

The asthma can take time and a lot of trial and error to get right and whe it is can actually see improvement in immune system health because his body isn't constantly fighting it. Pertussis is no joke and yes the 90 day cough is a the "old" name for it. Any adult reading this should be reimmunized for it if they haven't been. In the US when its time for a new tetanus booster just ask for combo one with it as well (DPT).

Hang in there Zen.

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 22 & 25
Married for 30 years now, was 16 at the time.
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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 ZenMumWalking (original poster member #25341) posted at 3:12 PM on Monday, September 12th, 2022

That low resting heart rate in a physically fit young male is completely normal.
Many runners can drift into the 30s when in deep sleep. Freaks us nurses out a bit but that's just an efficient well oiled machine at work.

Yes, I'm not worried about the 42, it was just to say that he's in good shape. When he got his appendix out when he was 15, he was in elite soccer and his RHR was ~35 - overnight he was hooked up on that machine that beeps if your heart rate is 'dangerously' low, but since they knew he did sport they ended up taking him off that because it kept beeping and the lowest they could set it to beep was 40. He's been very fit for a long time.

And thanks for the tip about the pertussis booster. I guess I'm very lucky that I didn't get sick when he had it!! Or maybe my immune system still remembers the vax from when I was younger......

He's going to start physio today, I hope he will start to feel better soon. He is very uncomfortable now and limps when he walks - which is basically only in and around the house. When he cooks, he can barely pick up the frying pan, the numbness is in his dominant hand. I wish I could do more for him sad sad

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 5:05 PM on Monday, September 12th, 2022

Damn. It’s so hard to see your child hurting and not to be able to "fix it".

I’m so sorry all of you are going through this.

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:14 PM on Sunday, September 18th, 2022

I'm so sorry you and your son are going through this.

How are you and he doing now? And your H?

Based on your posts, the other shoe has dropped....

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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