I'm so sorry to hear your story. It sounds like you've been through a woodchipper backwards with the level of abuse you've experienced. The 3 guys in one day "punishment" by your husband is disgusting. How are you finding these people? Is he finding them for you? Either way, I agree with others that it sounds like you were trafficked sexually by your own husband. Even if it was unpaid, it's still trafficking- coerced sex with random people. Your husband was no better than a pimp or a john and expected you to play the whore.
Please think on this long and hard- your HUSBAND expected you to act the whore to suit HIS depraved sexual needs.
What loving person does this? Would you want your child anywhere near someone capable of forcing their "beloved spouse" to fuck random guys? Would you want your child to be in a similar situation? I say it a lot on here- the kind of marriage you expose your children to sets their expectations in their future partners.
As for the 45min a week, that does seem like only a little when you need a lot. Are there any sexual or domestic violence survivor support groups in your area? If you could supplement your counseling with group support, it would go a long way toward giving you the help and community care you're needing. It would be worthwhile to ask your counselor or call a local shelter about this. It would be a great way to reach out, make new friends and get perspectives from people who have been in your situation.
I hear your fears about leaving because of finances. How about thinking like this: YOU are CAPABLE and YOU are RESILIENT. You are able to help run a business in the middle of HORRIFIC SEXUAL ABUSE. How's that for being able to work under pressure? YOU are a BAD ASS ASSET to ANYONE's BUSINESS.
Turn that negative self talk on it's head. You are strong, you are capable and you are resilient. Any employer who could see into your situation would love to have you on board. Running a successful family business while being pimped out and abused regularly by your depraved husband? Most people wouldn't even be able to keep their sanity. You are a BAD ASS ASSET.
Go get it. Find another job. Tell your husband that as part of you continuing in this marriage, you are going to find employment outside the family business. This can be the first boundary you can work on.
PM ME AND I WILL HELP YOU WRITE A RESUME. I have successfully changed jobs multiple times in my career. Each time gaining higher pay, higher rank and higher visibility. I did this even after an extended "maternity leave" of 1.5ish years to have my 2 babies. All in a MALE DOMINATED field. I am a bad ass asset too . I would love to help you put together your strengths on paper, help you market your abilities and help you negotiate a salary commensurate with your value. Think of this as the first step towards positive self talk- seeing what you are capable of contributing in black and white is a concrete way of laying out your worth. It's not the only aspect of your worth as an irreplaceable, unique living image of our Creator's genius, but it's a good first step.
Even living in a trailer park is better than living with this abusive, perverted, broken excuse for a human. I am praying for you and your child. Take the others' advice and GET OUT. Make a plan, start implementing it and GET OUT.
As part of that plan, consider having the police in on the loop. See if you can get your counselor's help in writing a timeline and documenting the sexual abuse. See if you can recover texts or information about your coerced sex. This will be important moving forward when you divorce- the court is not going to let a perverted sex offender anywhere near your child.
Finally, I am seeing you take on so much responsibility for healing your husband of his own sickness. It is not your responsibility to enable him. You and your actions cannot effect his healing. He is sick- it is a cancer of his mind and soul. Are you an oncologist? Are you a surgeon? Is he even taking himself to see someone capable of helping him heal? You are not a professional and it is NOT YOUR JOB to heal him. Start telling him this- watch the reaction- and see what it's like inside your heart to let go of that burden.
Again, his sickness is not your fault, nor is it your burden to carry or job to heal.
Wishing you the best. FYI, I tend to write novels... thanks for hanging in there