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There are no accidents

WhoTheBleep posted 10/4/2019 13:10 PM

As I'm sitting here scrolling through SI, reading a lot, and posting a little, I had a realization.

4 years ago today, my STBX went on a 14-hour drinking binge, and took a fistful of prescription pills, and came home essentially psychotic. He terrorized me for 45 minutes, and I thought he was going to kill me. I jumped out my daughter's bedroom window at 2:30 in the morning and ran barefoot in my pajamas down to the main road and called 911 on my cell phone which I had hidden in a pillowcase without him knowing.

This morning, I spent my first day volunteering at a local charity which benefits victims of domestic violence. It was my first step in taking what I've learned and paying that knowledge forward. I hope and plan to one day work directly with victims. Today was the first step.

I hadn't even realized what day it was until just now.

Sometimes God and the universe just know... And make sure you are exactly where you need to be.

I just wanted to share. We are all on the right path, even in those rabbit hole times (and I've had many) and are going to be OK.

[This message edited by WhoTheBleep at 1:12 PM, October 4th (Friday)]

MamaDragon posted 10/4/2019 13:20 PM

glad this day was way better than the other one.

Sometimes the rabbit hole is actually a great wonderland :)

JanaGreen posted 10/4/2019 14:24 PM

I sometimes think about how the value in these awful experiences is that it gives us empathy and experience to help others. It's great that you are passing that along. I'm sorry you had to go through it, though.

Chaos posted 10/4/2019 14:28 PM

This is one bad ass post.

DevastatedDee posted 10/4/2019 15:03 PM

Seriously, it is one bad ass post. This is how you turn your life around and do it better. THIS is how you make lemonade, Beyonce. Hear me?

Want2BHappyAgain posted 10/4/2019 17:17 PM

I totally AGREE!!! Thank you for sharing... and I am so HAPPY you are in a better place today .

CaliforniaNative posted 10/4/2019 17:58 PM

Awesome work. Thank you for your community service and helping those in need.

Chili posted 10/4/2019 18:04 PM

If it is an accident - it's one of a happy variety. Or perhaps the fortuitous sort.

I also can't help thinking this is the first of many such moments aligning for you Bleep. When you lead a genuine and beautiful life such as yours, things have a sneaky way of coming together and showing you the proof in the puddin'.

What a wonderful morning. What a wonderful moment of validation of your strength and character. Keep on kicking dirt down those rabbit holes!

staystrong101 posted 10/4/2019 21:36 PM

Well done!!

Shehawk posted 10/4/2019 23:51 PM

You go Bleep!

BrokenheartedUK posted 10/5/2019 08:02 AM

And this is EXACTLY the kind of karma that I honestly believe the Universe delivers. You rock!! High five!! You are a survivor. That is everything.

steadychevy posted 10/5/2019 08:20 AM

That's powerful, Who. Taking your tragedy and turning it into something positive. That it happened on the anniversary of that terrible day - well, a message to you maybe about how far you've come. I don't think those things are accidents.

EllieKMAS posted 10/7/2019 16:31 PM

Don't you just love when the universe gives you a nudge like that?

Thanks Bleep - this was really cool to read!

demolishedinside posted 10/7/2019 18:08 PM

Wow, Bleep. So happy you are out of your situation and are sharing your experiences with others. So many will benefit from your volunteering. Hugs to you.

SallyShrink81 posted 10/8/2019 09:12 AM

Congrats WTB!!! So happy that the universe put that treat out there for you!

Charity411 posted 10/10/2019 16:24 PM

That is just fantastic. You are fantastic!

Mamabear1 posted 10/11/2019 10:11 AM

This is absolutely amazing. You make it sound like it was easy. But I know first hand that leaving an abusive relationship even as terrible as it can be is no easy feat. When you are used to being treated a certain way, it is super hard to change even if that sounds crazy to others. You go girl!

WhoTheBleep posted 10/11/2019 11:49 AM

Thanks so much, everyone. Today, instead of volunteering again, I spent the entire morning (while kids are in school) reading and categorizing about 250 emails. Most from wh the last few months. Next, I need to print out up all recent emails in the "verbal abuse" folder and the "fluff and lies" folder. I reached out to my attorney yesterday to tell her I am done with WH's accusations and passive aggressive communication. I want to be left alone. I want the judge to know who he is. So we are pursuing it. In what regard, I'm not sure. I honestly just want him to behave. We have three kids, the youngest is four. It's going to be a long 14 years if I don't nip this in the bud now.

I also want to send a message to WH that from here forward, there will be consequences if he doesn't walk a straight line with me.

I'm not the emotional punching bag I was during our marriage. I'm me, again. Don't fuck with me.

The1stWife posted 10/17/2019 09:14 AM

Thank you for giving back.

And the CH needs to see you fir who you are now - not who you were then. Get rid of him. It will be a happier 14 years without his drama.

Hopeful Lady posted 10/17/2019 09:59 AM

What you went through sounds hellish. Itís great that youíve made personal progress.Good job, for giving back. Wishing you lots of strength and peace as you continue through the legal stuff.

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