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Before you say reconcile...Recover!

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heartbroken_kk ( Member #22722) posted at 3:02 AM on Thursday, December 1st, 2016

bumping

FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

posts: 2540   ·   registered: Feb. 3rd, 2009   ·   location: California
id 7718423
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Thamdelnir ( New Member #56208) posted at 10:24 PM on Thursday, December 1st, 2016

I am so very scared that my WW would not agree to a lot of this. I feel that she doesn't really understand how badly this has all affected me, and how traumatized by it I am. I am so uncertain of my own senses and ability to read people that I don't trust that I'm not pushing her too far or asking too much of her.

Me: BH(40)
Her: WS(40)
3 Daughters: 13, 11, 6
M: 1/10/99
DDay 1: 10/2000, reconciled happily
DDay 2: 7/10/2016: Different guy.
DDay 3: 9/10/2016: Guy #2 again

posts: 13   ·   registered: Nov. 30th, 2016   ·   location: Massachusetts
id 7719142
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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 11:44 AM on Tuesday, December 13th, 2016

Bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8353   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 7727742
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whatsleftofme ( New Member #56386) posted at 12:44 AM on Monday, December 19th, 2016

Thank you so much for posting this.

Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 16, together 17

D-Day: 5/11/16
2014-2016 (PA during the summers and EA the rest of the year)

Trying to figure out what my life is now. In House Separation.

posts: 4   ·   registered: Dec. 12th, 2016
id 7732515
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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 8:44 PM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8353   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 7750414
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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 10:24 PM on Monday, January 30th, 2017

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8353   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 7771602
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heartbroken_kk ( Member #22722) posted at 7:28 AM on Friday, February 10th, 2017

bump

FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

posts: 2540   ·   registered: Feb. 3rd, 2009   ·   location: California
id 7781800
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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 3:34 AM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8353   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 7799243
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sassylee ( Member #45766) posted at 7:52 PM on Friday, March 17th, 2017

Bump

My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor

posts: 11459   ·   registered: Nov. 29th, 2014   ·   location: 🇨🇦
id 7811573
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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 11:28 PM on Saturday, April 8th, 2017

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8353   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 7831763
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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 5:08 PM on Sunday, April 30th, 2017

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8353   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 7851193
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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 1:31 AM on Saturday, May 20th, 2017

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8353   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 7869214
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StillLivin ( Member #40229) posted at 6:14 AM on Tuesday, June 6th, 2017

Bump

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB
D: 7/2/2014

posts: 5955   ·   registered: Aug. 8th, 2013   ·   location: AZ
id 7883814
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CharliB ( Member #59007) posted at 2:10 AM on Friday, June 9th, 2017

Good advice. Thanks for posting

The truth doesn't cost you anything but a lie could cost you everything

posts: 718   ·   registered: May. 31st, 2017
id 7886785
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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 4:20 PM on Monday, June 19th, 2017

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fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

posts: 26010   ·   registered: Feb. 18th, 2011   ·   location: Illinois
id 7895572
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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 11:46 AM on Tuesday, July 11th, 2017

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8353   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 7914944
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Lovingmyselfmore ( Member #46119) posted at 8:13 PM on Saturday, August 5th, 2017

Bumping for the weekend!

dday: september-12-2014
Me: 42 EX: 46 gay or bisexual (go figure!) together: 12 years
Dday to 3 months: suicidal 1 year after: huge depression- 1.5 years still kind of depressed-Took me 2.5 years to be kind of happy again

posts: 1076   ·   registered: Dec. 29th, 2014
id 7938257
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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 2:28 AM on Monday, September 4th, 2017

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8353   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 7963694
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Jen ( Member #26584) posted at 11:06 PM on Sunday, September 17th, 2017

Me former Booger Bear ...
https://youtu.be/1TcLw3TOIN8
Hand Me Down MatchBox 20
https://youtu.be/iFdOAyyn76M
Love Falls by HellYeah

posts: 19991   ·   registered: Dec. 15th, 2009   ·   location: Where's the fucking rainbow ???
id 7975314
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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:19 AM on Thursday, October 5th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8353   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 7990861
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