nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 3:15 AM on Saturday, August 6th, 2016
just an easy lay-target.
Yep. Cockwomble's OW fits that description to a T.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
Kat19 ( new member #54386) posted at 12:34 PM on Saturday, August 6th, 2016
The OW my husband chose to have an affair with is a pill head who has a felony conviction for robbing a pharmacy and one for child endangerment.I'm much better looking and thinner and have my shit together while she was only concerned with where her next xanex was coming from. My husband said part of the attraction was he got to feel like the good one where in our relationship I'm the good one.
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 12:53 PM on Saturday, August 6th, 2016
She was actually quite a crotch hound.
I love this...... exactly like my WH's ex-GF (or not quite so ex as I thought!)
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
hisloss ( member #53973) posted at 1:47 PM on Saturday, August 6th, 2016
My xh's OW is a few years younger than me, about 50 pounds heavier, and is as phony as the day is long. She could charm a cobra out of a basket, but then bite that snake if she felt like it!
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:11 PM on Thursday, August 18th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:00 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
ThereRFourLights ( new member #54753) posted at 7:55 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2016
This is by far the BEST thing I've read so far. I'm going to print this gem out and leave it for my husband to read. And then I'm going to re read it about 100 times.
It is possible to commit no errors and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life.
--CAPTAIN PICARD, Star Trek: The Next Generation, "Peak Performance"
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 9:06 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2016
Glad it helped... don't forget to read the other posts with the bullseyes and go to the Healing Library (yellow box) and the Tactical primer on the top of this forum.
Knowledge is power. Gain your power back. Take care of YOU.
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
SoulCrushed16 ( member #53364) posted at 11:31 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2016
Love this!!!
Well I'm not sure if any of you have seen Nanny McPhee... But you know that donkey that was dressed up?? That's who my WH's AP looked like.... No joke.
"The best day of my life is the rest of my life without you " --- SC16
ThatGuy728 ( member #51676) posted at 4:40 AM on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2016
Not going to lie, even though I know he's supposedly cheating on her already, still a little tough to think about how my ex wife is still with the Doctor she was having an affair with, 8 months later after I filed for divorce. I know I shouldn't care, I don't miss her or want her back. I guess it just pisses me off that she still thinks she has everything going for her. That I cancelled our beach vacation because of the affair, the first vacation out of the country I would have had in 3 years, and didn't get to go. Here she is in St. Thomas with him 3 months after we separated. I know that they always affair down, but knowing that doesn't always ease the pain on days when it happens to show its face. Here she is happy, and I'm having to deal with trying to move on with my life.
amanda123 ( member #43207) posted at 4:54 AM on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2016
ThatGuy, I understand it hardly feels that they affaired down. We know it, but they dont seem to or at least they probably dont think they have at that point in time.
SoulCrushed16 ( member #53364) posted at 6:59 AM on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2016
ThatGuy,
They are still together 3 months later... Yes this hurts, it's a slap in the face. It sucks sooo bad when the cheaters get off Scott free and are happy right??... Yeah, not really... This is real life. There is a very small percentage of cheaters that actually make it, and I mean small (3% or less). If they did it together they will do it to each other. The doctor will dump your ex for the next conquest.
"The best day of my life is the rest of my life without you " --- SC16
ThatGuy728 ( member #51676) posted at 1:35 PM on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2016
Yep, I know only a small percentage make it, but I guess as time goes on it makes me wonder how long they'll actually last. They've been together 8 months since I filed, and coming up on a year since they started seeing each other I think. Again, I know I shouldn't care and that I need to not think about it. But going through divorce should have been the hardest thing we had to do. Yet it most likely wasn't hard for her at all since she had him to replace me while I was at the house we built a life in, alone. "We know it, but they don't seem to or at least they probably don't think they have at that point in time". Yaa, this right here.
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mccloud ( member #52604) posted at 7:24 PM on Monday, August 29th, 2016
Together 8 years. Dday #1 3-18-16 Dday #2 3-21-16 It is almost 3 years since D-day. And I am Not better. I am not over it. I am not back the way I was. I am still So broken. So lost. So hurt. I still can't understand why he was so horrible
karat24 ( new member #54727) posted at 10:08 PM on Monday, August 29th, 2016
I absolutely love this!!! So very true and it made me feel a little better
mccloud ( member #52604) posted at 8:10 PM on Friday, September 2nd, 2016
Together 8 years. Dday #1 3-18-16 Dday #2 3-21-16 It is almost 3 years since D-day. And I am Not better. I am not over it. I am not back the way I was. I am still So broken. So lost. So hurt. I still can't understand why he was so horrible
Wool94 ( member #53300) posted at 12:05 AM on Saturday, September 3rd, 2016
If the OM affaired down... what does that say about me? What I'm saying is that my wife was the other woman for someone else.
That's a real insult to us that are married to the OW.
[This message edited by Wool94 at 7:40 AM, September 8th (Thursday)]
D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks
"My faith is mine now."
neecee ( member #43523) posted at 7:23 AM on Saturday, September 3rd, 2016
I always loved this post. Definitely a favorite!!!
There is happiness after infidelity
me 49
WH 51
married 22 years
together 31 years
3 children 21, 19, 11
D-Day 5/8/2014
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:40 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
Hawke ( member #47517) posted at 9:05 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2016
Huh! I just realized that I was the person that this post was first bumped for (this is not the original "affair down" post). I know that a lot of the people in this forum are feeling a kind of despair and agony that they didn't know existed. I was there last year. Eventually, I clawed my way out of that pit and feel 1 million times better. Just take it a day at a time, or an hour at a time. Do what you need to in order to stay healthy.
And yes, they do always affair down. 
Me: BS (b. '75)
Him: exWS (b. '76)
D-Day: April 2015
Together 10 years
2 kids: 2011 and 2014
Separated (no divorce required for common law couple in my jurisdiction)
