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EvolvingSoul ( Guide #29972) posted at 1:34 AM on Friday, August 16th, 2019

Bumped for MIgander

Me: WS (60)Him: Shards (55)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2531   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
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EvolvingSoul ( Guide #29972) posted at 2:30 AM on Saturday, August 17th, 2019

Bumped for Short05.

Me: WS (60)Him: Shards (55)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2531   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
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Ashvika ( new member #63633) posted at 1:08 PM on Sunday, August 18th, 2019

This is my first post.

I had and affair for 1 year, 8 months.

D-day was July 8. 41 days ago.

Why isnt my wife exhibiting any of these things the BS is supposed to do?

Even my counselor is puzzled.

posts: 1   ·   registered: Apr. 30th, 2018
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EvolvingSoul ( Guide #29972) posted at 4:47 AM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2019

Bumped for ashamed7broken.

Me: WS (60)Him: Shards (55)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2531   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
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NotSureAboutIt ( member #69836) posted at 8:45 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2019

Literally 30 years since DDay. I have been reading SI daily for months. I find it very helpful. There are many triggers, but there are many things that I never dealt with. My guilt and shame are with me daily. This site is helping me come to grips with what I did - still trying to fully understand why. It did get me to regularly thank my wife for giving me a second chance. That triggered her a bit since we don’t normally talk about my A. But it has proven helpful. We are getting closer every day. R is not easy and it is not quick. It is worth it. Do you ever truly forgive yourself? I’ll let you know if it happens.

[This message edited by NotSureAboutIt at 2:46 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]

posts: 66   ·   registered: Feb. 21st, 2019
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Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 1:52 PM on Wednesday, October 2nd, 2019

(bumped)

Heading towards divorce
D-Day April, 2015

"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button."
-Brene Brown

posts: 6361   ·   registered: May. 21st, 2015   ·   location: Colorado
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EvolvingSoul ( Guide #29972) posted at 4:56 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2019

Bumped for Frankly.

Me: WS (60)Him: Shards (55)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2531   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
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wantstorepair ( member #32598) posted at 6:44 PM on Sunday, October 20th, 2019

Thank you so much for reposting this. It is so important to not just read this, but to live it every day for them and their recovery...something I have not done. I am going to read this daily and listen and act. Thank you!!

posts: 141   ·   registered: Jun. 26th, 2011
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EvolvingSoul ( Guide #29972) posted at 2:36 AM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2019

Bumped for fallleaves.

Me: WS (60)Him: Shards (55)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2531   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
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EvolvingSoul ( Guide #29972) posted at 3:29 AM on Thursday, November 21st, 2019

Bumped for ARTexan04.

Me: WS (60)Him: Shards (55)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2531   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8470968
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EvolvingSoul ( Guide #29972) posted at 1:23 AM on Wednesday, December 18th, 2019

Another bump. This is a thread that should never die.

Me: WS (60)Him: Shards (55)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2531   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8484258
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EvolvingSoul ( Guide #29972) posted at 2:20 AM on Thursday, December 19th, 2019

Holy cow I just realized this thread has at long last been pinned to the top! Thank you SI admin!

Me: WS (60)Him: Shards (55)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2531   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
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Triples ( member #72068) posted at 4:11 PM on Friday, December 20th, 2019

I sent to my WW. I'm not sure what I intended, but it described me so very accurately. I guess I just wanted her to read something that is so eloquently put and dead on the money!

posts: 88   ·   registered: Nov. 13th, 2019   ·   location: OHIO
id 8485675
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