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ZetaCephei (original poster member #79378) posted at 7:53 PM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2022
"I know what I did was wrong, but I just can't keep paying for the affaair forever"
And this was literally days after Dday1 and I was still in shock, so not like he was suffering any real consequences of his actions at that point, except having to cut the AP loose. Now, he is ashamed of those words and doesn't push at all for me to get over it, but in the early days he was really an ass.
Me: BW, 45 at DDAy -- Him: WH, 45 at DDay -- 2 LTAs (2012-2021 and 2016-2021) + 4 ONS -- Dday1: July 2021 -- Dday2: September 2021 -- Just want to be happy again
DroppedShoe ( member #80500) posted at 10:36 AM on Friday, August 26th, 2022
"I only erased my message to AP ( off his phone and off my phone where I forwarded it) because I know how you get"
"You were so irrational last time "( upon discovering 2 year affair)
"She is much older than me, ( 2yrs) I only asked her out to set her up with my (married) friend"
Upon my insisting on D,"Why do you want to break up our family?"
"I deleted all her contact info for you, nothing was going on anyway, I’ll call her and you can ask her yourself"
It look looks so asinine when I write it all out.
Let this be the lose weight kind of stress not the gain weight kind.
Luna10 ( member #60888) posted at 11:22 AM on Friday, August 26th, 2022
"She is much older than me, ( 2yrs) I only asked her out to set her up with my (married) friend"
This must be one of the stupidest things I’ve ever read. He actually thought a good justification to ask a woman out was to set her up with a MARRIED friend?
I wouldn’t be ok with that pre-affair when I couldn’t understand the full devastation an affair is causing, but a WS who was caught and saw the devastation he caused thinks it’s ok to facilitate affairs for his friends? 
Dday - 27th September 2017
DailyGratitude ( member #79494) posted at 1:01 PM on Friday, August 26th, 2022
My xWH has said plenty of stupid and outrageous things as well…" maybe we can have a threesome (with the AP,)" "I want to be with attractive women" "when I end it with AP, I will go have sex with her as a last hurrah"
I can’t help wonder what makes them say such crazy things? Are they just stupid? In a fog? Delusional? Is it just temporary "insanity" or were they always that warped??
Me: BW mid 50’sHim: WH late 50’sMarrried 25 yearsDday: EA 2002 PA 9/2021Divorce 10/2021 (per wh’s request) WH left to be with AP
MegMeg ( member #79978) posted at 2:36 PM on Friday, August 26th, 2022
My WH just finished reading How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair. His biggest take-away was that he was in the good company of great men: presidents, senators, Bill Gates, Alan Jackson, etc.
Really.
[This message edited by MegMeg at 2:37 PM, Friday, August 26th]
Me: BS | Him: WS | Children: Grown | Married: 36 years at DDay Feb 2021
DroppedShoe ( member #80500) posted at 2:43 PM on Friday, August 26th, 2022
The last posts are so outrageous they make me SMH!! It truly helps to see these!
Let this be the lose weight kind of stress not the gain weight kind.
Bingo ( member #72835) posted at 11:36 PM on Friday, August 26th, 2022
My ex had an affair with someone 41 years younger than him. When I asked him if the age difference bothered him, he said "all the time"...
"But she (the AP) said it will be okay"...
He's now 74 and living with his 33 year old and her 4 children under the age of 11....sure hope "it's okay" now!
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 12:01 AM on Sunday, August 28th, 2022
Oh, I got some more!
Me: Did you use protection?
Her: No, I did a risk assessment and decided not to.
Me: You risked my health and life!
Her: Don't be so dramatic. No one dies of AIDS anymore...
Yup, I was married to that. 
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 12:31 AM on Sunday, August 28th, 2022
Ahh Ellie so true...and in my case before D-Day too I am embarrassed to say.
"I mean really, pretty much every word out of his liehole after dday was completely ridiculous"
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 5:33 PM on Sunday, August 28th, 2022
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
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