ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 9:41 PM on Tuesday, May 26th, 2015
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
Macsecond ( member #43972) posted at 8:45 PM on Thursday, June 4th, 2015
Me - WW (42)
Him - BH (40)
Married 18 years.
2 amazing daughters (DD10 and DD6)
DDay - July 4, 2014 (I confessed to 5 month OEA)
sorrowfulmate ( member #43441) posted at 10:45 PM on Monday, June 29th, 2015
Me-WS 52 Her-BS 51 Questioningall
5 kids DDay 12/13 (lied ONS)
Dday 3/3/14 - multiple EA, PA
TT ended in October when I had polygraph
"Good night, Sorrowful. Good work. Sleep well. I can always divorce you in the morning." Dread BS Roberts
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 10:10 PM on Wednesday, July 1st, 2015
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 9:00 PM on Wednesday, July 8th, 2015
waving.
The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18
ThatGuyNoMore ( member #42899) posted at 4:30 PM on Tuesday, July 14th, 2015
Me and BW both 50
Married 24 years, 4 kids
D-Day 3/5/14
14 years of infidelity including multiple ONS and a 6½ yr LTA
I lied to everyone including myself.
NewWorldMan ( member #33607) posted at 5:07 PM on Tuesday, August 18th, 2015
lostinmydream ( new member #48996) posted at 11:07 PM on Tuesday, August 18th, 2015
you know? the wave of pain? It was normally brought on by "magical thinking" As a good friend told me:
"It is also important to recognize that we feed our addiction with our minds. It is a bitch. An alki has to go buy and drink the booze; a junky has to score and shoot the dope, all we have to do is replay the past or fantasize about the future. "
My gosh, this is my struggle every day now...
NewWorldMan ( member #33607) posted at 2:46 PM on Wednesday, August 19th, 2015
It was for me too, Lost.
With continued NC, it gets better. But your efforts have to be consistent. Don't let yourself be sucked back into fantasyland.
ThatGuyNoMore ( member #42899) posted at 5:36 PM on Wednesday, August 26th, 2015
Me and BW both 50
Married 24 years, 4 kids
D-Day 3/5/14
14 years of infidelity including multiple ONS and a 6½ yr LTA
I lied to everyone including myself.
hallelujah ( member #32283) posted at 6:11 PM on Friday, August 28th, 2015
WalkinOnEggshelz ( member #29447) posted at 10:51 PM on Sunday, September 13th, 2015
If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.
Unagie ( member #37091) posted at 6:15 PM on Tuesday, October 13th, 2015
Marcy70 ( member #48134) posted at 8:03 PM on Monday, October 26th, 2015
Me: WW (1970)
Him: BH (1970)
ThatGuyNoMore ( member #42899) posted at 10:07 PM on Friday, November 6th, 2015
Me and BW both 50
Married 24 years, 4 kids
D-Day 3/5/14
14 years of infidelity including multiple ONS and a 6½ yr LTA
I lied to everyone including myself.
Macsecond ( member #43972) posted at 10:28 PM on Wednesday, November 25th, 2015
Me - WW (42)
Him - BH (40)
Married 18 years.
2 amazing daughters (DD10 and DD6)
DDay - July 4, 2014 (I confessed to 5 month OEA)
Macsecond ( member #43972) posted at 7:29 PM on Tuesday, December 15th, 2015
Me - WW (42)
Him - BH (40)
Married 18 years.
2 amazing daughters (DD10 and DD6)
DDay - July 4, 2014 (I confessed to 5 month OEA)
Amd2523 ( member #50738) posted at 7:42 PM on Tuesday, December 15th, 2015
Thanks for finding this and posting it. I just posted this morning asking for help with this exact subject! Very very helpful, I will save this for the times when my mind drifts to FOM.
Macsecond ( member #43972) posted at 3:27 AM on Sunday, January 10th, 2016
Me - WW (42)
Him - BH (40)
Married 18 years.
2 amazing daughters (DD10 and DD6)
DDay - July 4, 2014 (I confessed to 5 month OEA)
beautifulM33 ( member #51261) posted at 3:34 AM on Tuesday, January 12th, 2016
