 
				    				sorrowfulmate ( member #43441)		posted at 7:07 PM on Thursday, April 20th, 2017	
				Me-WS 52 Her-BS 51 Questioningall
5 kids DDay 12/13 (lied ONS)
Dday 3/3/14 - multiple EA, PA
TT ended in October when I had polygraph
"Good night, Sorrowful. Good work. Sleep well. I can always divorce you in the morning." Dread BS Roberts		
	 	 			 
				    				 Maia (original poster  member #8268)		posted at 6:57 PM on Wednesday, April 26th, 2017	
				The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18		
	 	 			 
				    				sorrowfulmate ( member #43441)		posted at 2:48 PM on Saturday, June 17th, 2017	
				Me-WS 52 Her-BS 51 Questioningall
5 kids DDay 12/13 (lied ONS)
Dday 3/3/14 - multiple EA, PA
TT ended in October when I had polygraph
"Good night, Sorrowful. Good work. Sleep well. I can always divorce you in the morning." Dread BS Roberts		
	 	 			 
				    				 Maia (original poster  member #8268)		posted at 6:25 PM on Tuesday, June 27th, 2017	
				The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18		
	 	 			 
				    				SilverStar ( member #46958)		posted at 12:51 AM on Sunday, July 9th, 2017	
				BW me
WH him
2 kids
D-Day 11/11/14		
	 	 			 
				    				EvolvingSoul ( member #29972)		posted at 5:16 AM on Friday, July 14th, 2017	
			 
	Bump for BlueSprinkles. You can do it, Sprinkles! Stay strong! 
 
			 			Me: WS (64)Him: Shards (59)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.		
	 	 			 
				    				WalkinOnEggshelz ( member #29447)		posted at 12:02 PM on Monday, July 17th, 2017	
				If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.		
	 	 			 
				    				WalkinOnEggshelz ( member #29447)		posted at 11:04 PM on Sunday, July 30th, 2017	
				If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.		
	 	 			 
				    				sorrowfulmate ( member #43441)		posted at 7:43 PM on Wednesday, August 23rd, 2017	
				Me-WS 52 Her-BS 51 Questioningall
5 kids DDay 12/13 (lied ONS)
Dday 3/3/14 - multiple EA, PA
TT ended in October when I had polygraph
"Good night, Sorrowful. Good work. Sleep well. I can always divorce you in the morning." Dread BS Roberts		
	 	 			 
				    				 Maia (original poster  member #8268)		posted at 3:18 PM on Tuesday, September 5th, 2017	
				The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18		
	 	 			 
				    				EvolvingSoul ( member #29972)		posted at 6:33 PM on Saturday, September 30th, 2017	
				Me: WS (64)Him: Shards (59)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.		
	 	 			 
				    				Stuckinthesouth ( member #60181)		posted at 9:19 PM on Thursday, October 12th, 2017	
		 			 
				    				sorrowfulmate ( member #43441)		posted at 1:01 PM on Sunday, October 22nd, 2017	
				Me-WS 52 Her-BS 51 Questioningall
5 kids DDay 12/13 (lied ONS)
Dday 3/3/14 - multiple EA, PA
TT ended in October when I had polygraph
"Good night, Sorrowful. Good work. Sleep well. I can always divorce you in the morning." Dread BS Roberts		
	 	 			 
				    				EvolvingSoul ( member #29972)		posted at 1:00 AM on Saturday, November 18th, 2017	
				Me: WS (64)Him: Shards (59)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.		
	 	 			 
				    				OneInTheSame ( member #49854)		posted at 8:27 AM on Thursday, December 14th, 2017	
			 
	Thank you, Maia, for this!  I am here trying to understand what my brother's mindset is so I can understand what my beloved sister-in-law is dealing with.  Brother, in 47th year of marriage, reconnected with old flame and divorced s-i-l.  He is back, and they are counseling together.  He is grieving, which sounds horrid for my s-i-l.  He may have carried a torch for the old flame (no puns intended) as my s-i-l believes, and is dealing with the loss of both the romance (is it love?) and the reliving of another life.  I am angry at him but want to understand. 
 
 
	thank goodness my WW swears she did not have to grieve, as she did not have feelings.  However, reading your post, I see signs of her grief for yet an older relationship reared its ugly head during our post d-day period. So I am reading this a few times for myself . . . 
 
			 			(I edit to correct typos)
I am the BS in a lesbian marriage. My WW's ex-girlfriend was the AP. 
D-day of the 6 mo A was 10/04/15
We are doing okay, but by now I wanted it to be better  
		
	 	 			 
				    				EvolvingSoul ( member #29972)		posted at 1:09 AM on Saturday, December 30th, 2017	
				Me: WS (64)Him: Shards (59)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.		
	 	 			 
				    				Lucky77 ( member #61337)		posted at 9:45 PM on Monday, January 1st, 2018	
				WS
1 year PA/ 2 Yr EA
Oh the depths of the betrayal		
	 	 			 
				    				EvolvingSoul ( member #29972)		posted at 3:42 PM on Tuesday, January 9th, 2018	
				Me: WS (64)Him: Shards (59)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.		
	 	 			 
				    				EvolvingSoul ( member #29972)		posted at 3:18 AM on Wednesday, January 17th, 2018	
				Me: WS (64)Him: Shards (59)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.		
	 	 			 
				    				EvolvingSoul ( member #29972)		posted at 2:52 AM on Thursday, January 25th, 2018	
				Me: WS (64)Him: Shards (59)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.