Cookies are required for login or registration. Please read and agree to our cookie policy to continue.

Newest Member: ShatteredJam

Wayward Side :
Maia's Withdrawal Survival Guide (repost for newbies)

default

 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 6:50 PM on Sunday, March 14th, 2021

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

posts: 6874   ·   registered: Sep. 20th, 2005   ·   location: I am a Bluegrass-American
id 8641768
default

 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 1:27 PM on Saturday, May 1st, 2021

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

posts: 6874   ·   registered: Sep. 20th, 2005   ·   location: I am a Bluegrass-American
id 8655822
default

 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 4:01 PM on Wednesday, June 9th, 2021

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

posts: 6874   ·   registered: Sep. 20th, 2005   ·   location: I am a Bluegrass-American
id 8666138
default

 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 10:52 AM on Monday, July 19th, 2021

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

posts: 6874   ·   registered: Sep. 20th, 2005   ·   location: I am a Bluegrass-American
id 8676656
default

BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 2:32 PM on Sunday, January 16th, 2022

Bump

WW/BW

posts: 3676   ·   registered: Dec. 27th, 2018
id 8710150
default

BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 2:39 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022

Bumping in memory of Maia.

WW/BW

posts: 3676   ·   registered: Dec. 27th, 2018
id 8717538
default

NotSureAboutIt ( member #69836) posted at 7:48 PM on Thursday, February 24th, 2022

Wow. If my WW still had warm feelings for AP, the divorce would be quick. Talking to me about missing the AP- that would lead to a hard NC with SBXW and an even quicker divorce. I absolutely do not get the whoe is me, pity the WS crap.

posts: 79   ·   registered: Feb. 21st, 2019
id 8718567
default

Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 11:47 PM on Thursday, February 24th, 2022

NotSureAboutIt

The Wayward forum is possibly one of the most special places on this site. I have been around for a very long time, and it’s only in the last year or so where I post here. That’s because we betrayed spouses might not get or understand what’s going on here, yet there is no denying that the support wayward spouses offer each other here is immensely helpful for them in their work at becoming better partners.

You don’t have to get the whole pity me crap (as you so eloquently call it). In fact that you think that’s what’s going on clearly indicates you don’t get it. There is little pity in this form, but a lot of compassion and a lot of support towards healing. We betrayed husbands and wives… we can simply appreciate the effort some are making and if we cant stomach what’s said in THIS forum then remember: There are other forums where we can list our doubts, ask our questions or blow off steam. Let’s let the waywards have this one in peace.

"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus

posts: 12744   ·   registered: Sep. 29th, 2005
id 8718590
default

Grieving ( member #79540) posted at 3:02 PM on Saturday, February 26th, 2022

I was very glad to see this thread, and very moved by the hard work Maia did to align her behavior with her values and become a stronger and healthier person.

I hope I’m reading the "in memory" post wrong, but if I’m correct that the original poster has passed away, I’m very sorry to hear it.

Husband had six month affair with co-worker. Found out 7/2020. Married 20 years at that point; two teenaged kids. Reconciling.

posts: 668   ·   registered: Oct. 30th, 2021
id 8718945
default

BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 4:54 PM on Saturday, February 26th, 2022

I'm afraid you read that correctly, Grieving. We recently received the news that Maia passed away.

WW/BW

posts: 3676   ·   registered: Dec. 27th, 2018
id 8718961
default

Grieving ( member #79540) posted at 8:21 PM on Saturday, February 26th, 2022

I’m so very sorry.

Husband had six month affair with co-worker. Found out 7/2020. Married 20 years at that point; two teenaged kids. Reconciling.

posts: 668   ·   registered: Oct. 30th, 2021
id 8718987
default

JustDone ( member #9742) posted at 12:00 AM on Wednesday, April 20th, 2022

Bumping this post again in memory of my friend, Maia. sad

Madhatter
Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

posts: 3058   ·   registered: Feb. 12th, 2006
id 8730661
default

ChamomileTea ( Moderator #53574) posted at 10:47 PM on Friday, August 26th, 2022

bump

BW: 2004(online EAs), 2014 (multiple PAs); Married 40 years; in R with fWH for 10

posts: 7075   ·   registered: Jun. 8th, 2016   ·   location: U.S.
id 8752464
default

isthisreallyhappeningaga ( new member #80901) posted at 3:41 PM on Tuesday, September 20th, 2022

what is FOM? It's not in the abbreviations.

posts: 11   ·   registered: Sep. 9th, 2022
id 8756194
default

Bulcy ( member #74034) posted at 4:37 PM on Tuesday, September 20th, 2022

Former Other Man? A guess based on context.

WH (50's)

Multiple sexual, emotional and online affairs. Financial infidelity and emotional abuse. Physical abuse and intimidation.

D-days 2003, 2017, multiple d-days and TT through 2018 to 2023. 28 years of destructive and health damaging choice

posts: 375   ·   registered: Mar. 12th, 2020   ·   location: UK
id 8756207
default

Fantastic ( member #84663) posted at 4:05 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2024

Maia (may she rest in peace!) is not the only person who passed away in this forum.

It should be a reminder to all of us we are all closer to death every day a little more.

For those who need to make big changes to be a better person, to be a better spouse, to heal themselves and help heal their spouse, there is no time to waste.

[This message edited by Fantastic at 4:06 PM, Wednesday, April 3rd]

posts: 219   ·   registered: Mar. 28th, 2024
id 8831947
default

Mage ( new member #85169) posted at 9:25 AM on Monday, December 2nd, 2024

I am deeply sorry to hear that the original poster has passed.

Although I don't relate with most of the post, I really wanted to thank her for the valuable resources she mentioned!

posts: 28   ·   registered: Sep. 3rd, 2024
id 8855286
Cookies on SurvivingInfidelity.com®

SurvivingInfidelity.com® uses cookies to enhance your visit to our website. This is a requirement for participants to login, post and use other features. Visitors may opt out, but the website will be less functional for you.

v.1.001.20241206b 2002-2024 SurvivingInfidelity.com® All Rights Reserved. • Privacy Policy