This Topic is Archived
Sanibelredfish ( member #56748) posted at 6:55 PM on Friday, March 2nd, 2018
How are you holding up, A1? I imagine things are still touch-and-go, but hope they have taken a turn for the better. If it’ll help you organize your thoughts and make sense of this mess, please update us when you have time.
paboy ( member #59482) posted at 11:28 AM on Friday, March 16th, 2018
A1. How are things going? Hows the wife? any updates?
Western ( member #46653) posted at 8:53 PM on Wednesday, March 28th, 2018
PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 10:34 PM on Wednesday, March 28th, 2018
A1,
I don’t think your daughter needs to crack. Her Mother betrayed the family. The natural consequences are hard to bear. Please get support for yourself and your DD’s. I was guilted back into the life of a family member. I regret it daily.
Sucide is a very selfish thing. If it had worked image the guilt your daughters and possibly you would have had to bear.
I have been thought about doing it. I have thought about it many times in my life.
AmbivalentOne (original poster member #61076) posted at 4:11 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
I am sorry for the long gap in my comments. Unfortunately, this won't be a happy update. My wife succeeded in taking her life on my birthday (early March). Life has been chaos since. The girls took a leave of absence from school and are back home. None of us are handling this well.
It is hard to believe that less than a year ago life seemed so sweet and wonderful. What I wouldn't give to return to that state of blissful ignorance.
I want to thank all of the members of the SI community for their unwavering support during the last 6 months or so. Many of you took valuable time out of your lives to give needed advice, critical opinions and even simple internet hugs. I wish each of you the best possible luck in all of your endeavors.
sewardak ( member #50617) posted at 4:12 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
((AmbivalentOne and girls))
WilliamM ( member #60910) posted at 4:18 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
That breaks my heart. Prayers for you and your daughters.
tikismom ( member #60546) posted at 4:24 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
Me: 39
Him: 43 (NPD)
DDay #1: Sept 2017; Lots of TT & DDays since. EA & PA with an EX. Last known contact with OW: end of December 2017.
Married 10 years, together 15 at time of dday. 2 very young children.
Status: Working daily toward R.
leftbroken ( member #53741) posted at 4:25 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
Love and condolences A1. This truly is heartbreaking.
our lives are a novel and we its authors, if you don't like the plot only you can change it.
ZaphodB ( new member #46488) posted at 4:26 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
So sorry to hear that A1. Suicide is an inherently selfish act, albeit by a hurting individual. I'll be praying for you and your daughters.
raven3321 ( new member #43647) posted at 4:29 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
I don't know what to say. I'll be praying for you.
Stevesn ( member #58312) posted at 4:44 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
.... the sound of hundreds of hearts breaking ....
I’m so sorry.
fBBF. Just before proposing, broke it off after her 2nd confirmed PA in 2 yrs. 9 mo later I met the wonderful woman I have spent the next 30 years with.
xhz700 ( member #44394) posted at 4:51 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
Behold! The field in which I grow my fucks.
Lay thine eyes upon it, and thou shalt see that it is barren.
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 4:53 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
I am so, so sorry A1. (((A1 and DD's))) 
My heart breaks for your family, and also your WW, that she couldn't find a different road to go thru this.
Sending you hugs, peace and strength during this most difficult time.
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 5:17 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
I am so very sorry. Hugs to you and your girls.
Me-58 FWH-60 Married 40 years 9/2/2023 grown daughters-40&36.14yo GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); 12yo GD & 7yo GD(DD36). D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
Charliedeltabrav ( member #54068) posted at 5:29 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
Peace to you and your DD's A1...
You have my prayers..
CDB
DD # 1 2003
DD # 2 2014
DS 24, DD1 22 , DD2 21
Divorced 8/15
SpaceGhost0007 ( member #46539) posted at 5:34 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
I am so sorry for this horrible update. My prayers are with you and your family at this time. What a tragic ending to her life... After watching my XW struggling I cannot imagine the pain... Take care.
Wool94 ( member #53300) posted at 5:39 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
A1, this breaks my heart. You and your children are in my prayers!
D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks
"My faith is mine now."
Sharkman ( member #56818) posted at 5:40 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
My heart literally dropped reading this. I am so sorry.
GrayShades ( member #59967) posted at 5:56 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
AO, I'm so very sorry for all of you. It's a bit selfish of me to mostly lurk on these boards, but I wanted to let you know that I've followed your story and have felt for you, your kids, and your wife throughout your postings. Thank you for letting all of us know. It was generous of you to share this and trust us with this knowledge. I hope you can find some comfort from this community. I wish you and yours peace.
Me: 50 on Dday
WH: Turned 48 the day before Dday
Dday: 05/16/17 One son, now young adult.
This Topic is Archived
