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Lawd have mercy. You've succumbed to the Pussy Coma. What a shame.

Thanks for the belly laugh, CT. Lord knows we need that around here!

Now, to monotone. I don't know what to say. The poster that said that clapping noise was the collective of SI giving face palms is dead right.

I guess you are determined to rugsweep at any cost. Just remember this:

If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you've been getting.

From my side, I told her how important fidelity would be from here on out, for me to be able to trust her and not have to worry about who she might be with every moment. How much the mind movies of me laying in bed thinking about some other man's seed on my pillow fuck with me.

Monotone, What was her response? Did she agree to be faithful? What was her exact response?

Please answer.

Lawd have mercy. You've succumbed to the Pussy Coma. What a shame.

Seems the mind movies of the OM seed on his pillow, isn't enough to revive him from that Pussy Coma..

This is by far the worst case of betrayal I've ever read about, and I'm hoping Mono will snap back to reality, and start taking some of the great advice he's being given on SI.

Monotone,

Once those videos are recorded over then there is no evidence. They're recorded over, what, every few days? You don't need that evidence now though do you?

Y'all, he can't answer our questions because he's in the Pussy Coma.

I'm not sure what help laughing at him will bring. He may not be able to hear the advice given to him right now, but mocking a guy is a great way to scare him and never hear it.

Hey now be nice. You all remember how awful it was in beginning. If this is a real thing and it's just coming to light for him in the middle of d-day it's a lot to take in. We still need to be supportive no matter what his choice is. I know what we all hope/want that to b, it's not up to us.

Extra key cards are often given to residents for guests or family members, dog sitters, etc. Most places have 2 gates. One for card people and one where you check in with the guard and they call to announce the visitor. If he is banging a resident for a year he would have hi own card.

Although this could be a writing exercise...I dunno.

In six months, this thread will be referenced on the "One more "you guys were right"" thread.

I personally think your mind is clouded and you are not thinking rationally. If I were in your shoes, I would kick her ass out, cancel her entry pass, change the locks and have a professional security company install cameras on every square inch of your property, inside too. You also need to track down the AP's wife and let her know the deal - she might have herpes as well, but she should be told regardless about the affair.

But that's just me. And by the way, when I found out my wife cheated on me, she asked where "I" was going. I told her to get the fuck out of my house (and I have 3 kids). She was dumbfounded and not expecting that reaction at all.

Almost 5 months later I am still very angry, but MUCH better off. You can save yourself much misery by being a man and taking your balls out from between your legs.

You really should heed some advice in this thread, your wife is broken and IMO cannot be fixed.

Let's see...we've gone from one time encounter with splooge in the bed to security guard showing actual videotape to men with id passes to I don't know how to contact him to she bought a ticket for him on our cruise to she sat next to him and disappeared to she doesn't work to we talk only by Facebook to she's disappeared to my life insurance has been upped without my knowledge to I just want to reconcile, quickly.

I have lost all faith in humanity. We want the shit show, we need the shit show.

@monotone

I haven't posted until now because you were getting good advice and I didn't have anything to add beyond a hug. But this latest update has me believing something I've wondered about since your first post: that you are a troll.

What the heck are you doing? You're either lying to us or you're wilfully ignoring what is right in front of you. I don't mean to be harsh; if you're telling the truth then my heart goes out to you. We all want to help but we can't until you accept the situation and open your eyes.

1) Your wife has been cheating on you for a long time.

2) She's still lying to you and you're eating up all the horseshit she's feeding you.

3) She's calling all the shots (won't give you any details about the OM, won't give you access to her devices, is giving you conditions for reconciliation).

WAKE UP! SHE CHEATED ON YOU..all she gets to do now is to show abject remorse and wait until you decide whether she's worth keeping around. Instead, you're falling all over yourself in trying to please her. Stop believing that she's out of your league..you're out of hers. One of you managed to stay faithful and is worth something. The other couldn't manage that simple thing and at least at this moment is worthless.

Good luck, Monotone...be a fighter...don't end up a casualty...

I'm thinking this post has to either be a troll or the poor man has some very serious mental issues he needs to deal with.

I've never heard of anyone being this passive during a Dday.

Monotone may be in deep shock (if he's for real) but I suspect this is a made up thread designed to rile up all the SI members. Nothing seems to upset this group (myself included) than a BS who is being abused an in a fog themselves.

My apologies to you if you are real Monotone. If you are real please WAKE UP.

You are being abused.

I desperately want to believe this isn't a troll, but the evidence is becoming damning.

I'm thinking this post has to either be a troll or the poor man has some very serious mental issues he needs to deal with.

I've never heard of anyone being this passive during a Dday.

Monotone may be in deep shock (if he's for real) but I suspect this is a made up thread designed to rile up all the SI members. Nothing seems to upset this group (myself included) than a BS who is being abused an in a fog themselves.

My thoughts exactly. The WS does not get to call the shots. Rare is a BS so whipped that they won't at least try! We do see it on occasion, and it is frustrating. Haven't we recently been pleading with another BS to take action? Has it happened yet?

She is very attractive and I am not in great shape, so I do think I am punching out of my league a little bit with her.

I thought the same thing,

in high school I was 250 lbs. In my 20's when I was dating I was 199 lbs at 6'3. But in my mind I was over weight and most girls where out of my league. I'm now in my 50's, looking back on pictures of me, I now see I was very much in those girls league, I just didn't realize it at the time. Never sell yourself short.

And don't accept bad treatment and cheating. You deserve better than that, and you can do better than that. Get yourself out of infidelity.

[This message edited by longforgotten at 11:45 PM, August 20th (Sunday)]

Dude I don't know a single human being could be so stupid and naïve at the same time... someone here she call the authorities that guy's life in danger there's no doubt about it. His wife is planning on killing him. I mean I barely read all of his post,my thought was either fake or she's planning on killing him I didn't even read other members post just his. If someone doesn't call the authorities his death could be on us... Wow it's a shame he is too stupid to get to see the total depth of this situation. My only conclusion is thank God that he came here we somehow intervene. He could be dead within a month or two if not sooner.

[This message edited by trojan007 at 12:54 AM, August 21st (Monday)]

I don't get why people are getting so pissed? The OP is grown, this post starts off as OM on a cruise and has now devolved into well something else.

Only let stuff trigger you if you let it, after all they are merely words on a screen written by someone anonymous.

Actually I hope it's a troll...!!!

the point in going to the police was to get it 'official' that you ha e suspicions about your wife and a tjreat to your life. if her dad works there thats fine. it just ensures she finds out via another method than you telling her you did so. i could keep you alive.

part if my career for 30 yrs was making threat assessments for clients. id rate this a high risk.

id make several 1000s telling you what im telling you now

- make a paper trail with police

- change the insurance

- mmake sure wife finds out you did so (removes motive and increases risk)

- remove yourself from the home (its most dangerous place for you) and don tell wife where you are staying.

- careful leaving work (parking lot especially) and be sure you arent followed since its one place they know you will be.

- take your car to a mechanics and have them check for gps devices and anything odd they can find (tell them your wife is crazy).

- keep your car in a secure parking garage when not in use.

- get copies of surveillance footage and give to a lawyer who knows this story.

- change banks and move most money there but not all so ww cant claim you left her broke.

- get a new phone and THROW AWAY the old phone. nake sure google location history off stop using social media as it can track you.

- file for divorce

im treating this as real, not you trolling us. if you are trolling us - shame on you. if you arent then you need to act immediately, grab tou car keys and go!

[This message edited by william at 6:43 AM, August 21st (Monday)]