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That soft clapping sound you hear is not claps of approval- it's the sound of about 50 of us putting palms to foreheads. She shows up... and you fold like a cheap suit? She should have come home to the wrath of God- calmly telling her how this is gonna go from here on out- and a packed suitcase for her to take right then if she didn't like it.

I'm at a loss for words.

[This message edited by Badsitch at 6:55 PM, August 20th (Sunday)]

If she wants R, she needs to do anything you ask, otherwise file papers...if you allow her to protect the OM then she is the your boss.

If you don't stand firm on this, nothing will really change, they will just get better at fooling you.

Personally, I would never consider R with this woman for any reason.

All righty then.

Sometimes I wish I could simply pass on real life experiences to help another avoid their future mistakes. This would be one of those times. If only...

Good Lord, Monotone, she put you in the famous "pussy coma". Think about it.

She's going to fuck your brains out until you lay off her OM, and she can get back to her old tricks. I hope like hell you follow through with the advice you are being given. This is quite frustrating to read!

Dude. Really?

I desperately want to believe this isn't a troll, but the evidence is becoming damning. I don't believe any person could react this way given the situation.

If it's not a troll- dude take about 2 hours and read some other posts and advise. The reasons why she doesn't want anyone to know, the reason she doesn't want to disclose the POSOM name, you are being PLAYED!!!!

I'm not all that worried about your physical safety as others. I think you give her a very stable lifestyle that affords her plenty of time to screw other men. She's going to tell you anything she can to keep from screwing that up.

Regardless, you have to be one of the most beta men I've ever seen in my life, or this is fake. Not a hint of anger or a real desire to be out of infidelity, just rugsweep. That's a great way to fix this situation. Just go back to making all the cash and let her spend it on screwing other dudes and buying sex toys for everyone's benefit but you. I mean, COME ON MAN.

Wow man! you've got a serious munipulative wife at you're side. I would really be careful with her. Sounds she and others are planning some nasty stuff. She gave you the best sex you have had to keep you in line. Imagine the OM always gets te this kind of sex. I would notice someone that you're could be in danger.

She has you by the balls, and she knows it. If you tell no one, and don't expose, and she doesn't come completely clean about that other phone and bank accounts and everything else she is secretly doing - then what proof do you have that she has actually stopped the affair?

Crocodile tears mean SHIT.

Her words and her actions don't match. You got a problem and you don't want to deal with it. Your situation sounds awful and I am sorry for you. I hope you pull out of this.

instead some sort of wilderness retreat for healing couples

Monotone, please give us the name of the retreat, a phone number, or a web address.

Is this wilderness retreat near a cliff, perhaps? Do not go!

This has got to be fake. This is like "Days of Our Lives". Where's Stefano?

I asked about your ages in a previous comment. Would you care to tell us?

She is getting her game plan together more than likely with her accomplice.

She doesn’t want to tell you who he is because she doesn’t want to stop seeing him. This is a married man who is in your house more than you are. Lucky guy.

She thinks you are a total idiot and she doesn’t want you to tell anyone because even a child could see what she is doing

She doesn’t want counseling because nobody (other than you) would believe her.

She is placating you with sex.

OMG...A WILDERNESS RETREAT...No doubt her man will be hiding in a tree or digging a hole or something. You need Individual counseling (preferably with a man) immediately.

I don't know if this is made up or if you are just super naive.

[This message edited by Smillie at 8:05 PM, August 20th (Sunday)]

9 pages, 170 replies. No real answers to any questions or advice given.

Full speed ahead, ridiculousness be damned.

WTH? How many people have come here lately only to rugsweep everything?

Is there no one willing to stand up for themselves anymore?

Fight damn it! You deserve better than this!

He added a detail which he hadn't said before, which is that he's seen OM and another man several times in the last month just driving through the development. Not always stopping at our house, not involved with my wife at all that he saw. He offered it as "take it or leave it" but said OM does not live in our community but has a cardkey which is typical of people who work in the community (like gardner or nanny) but he is NOT on the list. So maybe my wife loaned a card?

How does this guard know that OM is not on the list? What is "the list." A list of names who the cards have been issued to? How does security guard know this guy is not a name on the list. Does he also issue the cards? If this is a gated community and someone has an unauthorized card and they are just driving through, why hasn't the card been confiscated? Questions been asked? Authorities alerted?

Lots of betrayed spouses here and I have to say in all of the years I've read here I've never seen a spouse react such as you have.

Lawd have mercy. You've succumbed to the Pussy Coma. What a shame.

Don't some of you wonder if some posters are testing story ideas for a novel they're writing? Fiction, of course.

Please, Monotone, if you're reading, please take the advice of the people here. You are being used so badly, it makes me want to cry for you.